What do you do when you are asked very personal questions?

Sheepie, if I could find the energy I'd like to write a book titled "There are Two Kinds of People: Those who ...." and then go on to discuss all the different opposites: optimistic/pessimistic, liberal/conservative, logical/emotional; open/closed etc. At your age it makes sense to see your openness as reacting to a demand, but perhaps in time you will come to realise that the reason is no more complex than the fact that you are an open person. It is part of what you are. I understand it implicitly; in the right circumstances, I will tell people just about anything lol. To me openness makes perfect sense: how can you really get to know someone or they you if you are worried about keeping/invading privacy? If someone really doesn't want someone else to know something, they simply won't tell them, right? Don't try to become something you're not, but perhaps work on learning discrimination - that is, knowing when sometimes to hold your tongue. Lash

I too feel like if I don't answer some may see it as trying to hide something. Just last night I was at a restaurant with my mom and dad, and the owner of the restaurant who casually knew my parents, asked me a very personal question. I was taken aback and just couldn't think of anything to say (for once). Thankfully, my dad redirected the attention to something else and I didn't have to answer. But for the most part I try to answer a personal question with a quip, or I turn it back to the person who asked while trying not to appear obvious about it.

It depends who asks me these questions. If they are my good friends, that's OK. On the contrary, if they are strangers or people who just met via the net, usually I will ask them whether they are the police. If not, then they should not question me like a police. Especially they don't tell me their personal information at first, why they have the rights to ask me these questions? It's unfair and bothering to me. I love China

First, I will say " Oh my god!' Second, I will ask a question in reply "Do I have to answer it?" Then they will show understanding of the times and stop it!

Hi Sheepie, You don't have to be afraid to ask questions and tell us about yourself and no hold bars here, we are all friends, best of all we don't judge you and we don't know what you look so you don't have to be afraid. Tamara

I'm a bit like you, Sheepie. I usually answer them, too.