Arranged Marriage VS. Love Marriage
By iceblizzard
@iceblizzard (749)
Philippines
September 20, 2008 12:02am CST
In some countries, marriages are arranged by their parents but in some cases, some opted to choose their marriage partner. Discuss both system, which do you think will work? An Arranged Marriage or a Love Marriage? Which system you'll in favor for?
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6 responses
@mercuryman3a (2477)
• India
20 Sep 08
Arranged marriages are more likely to succeed because you are strangers till you get married. Love begins after marriage. In a love marriage, love was there before marriage always putting the best foot forward and fights start erupting after marriage when reality strikes.
@iceblizzard (749)
• Philippines
20 Sep 08
But isn't it nice that love is already there and all you have to do is to get it even stronger in time? Well, I'm not going to object or something, cause there are instances that arranged marriage really works and some did not. It all depends how they're going to accept each other. This probably I think the major cause of divorced in the West.
@sanjana_aslam (4187)
• Malaysia
20 Sep 08
hi ice,
arranged marriage : parents choice, if anything were to go wrong we can blame them
love marriage : we choose, we face it
~ mostly man look for the best woman, and woman look for the best guy .. so what happen tot the rest ~arranged marriage could help this
~ security ~ parents should actually check on the background of the future partner and ensure the best is given ~ arranged marriage could help this
~ secutiy ~ we personally can check the background ~ love marriage
~ LOVE failure ~ happens alot because we are looking for partners who are not agreeable at the receiving end , why not wait for the arranged partner which will be yours
~ LUCK ~ if you are lucky you will fall in love with the right partner but if not you will be cheated, it does not mean parents choice are always good
well ... my conclusion , if that man/woman is fated to be your husband/wife .. god decided .. no matter what love or arranged, he/she will be your partner
BUT if you choose your own, don drown in love failures
@iceblizzard (749)
• Philippines
20 Sep 08
Yeah, I understand your point. But there are some who thinks otherwise. They find it interesting to marry a stranger and get to know them in the process. But basically, I'm not this type who would just marry a stranger. I'd still go to the one I love, like you say, we face the consequence of our action its because we choose it.
@ram_cv (16513)
• India
20 Sep 08
I think both systems have their pros and cons. In a nutshell though usually Arranged Marriage is an amalgamation of families as both the family members meet before the marriage and discuss the whole thing through. Love Marriage is more an amalgamation of two individuals. The individuals are the focus point here and have spent some time together before marriage and feel that they know each other well. I feel both the systems are ok in their own rights, but I prefer Arranged Marriage as it is more of a collective decision. How many people in teens or twenties have the capability to take long-term decisions and lifelong vision? So that is the crux of my preferences.
Cheers!
Ram
@sweethomecatring (1563)
• India
20 Sep 08
I think arranged marriage is working well and shows good results than the love marriage. It is not necessary that love marriages are bad and can not be ceremonised as arranged marriage with pump and show. The arranged marriages are more authentic and social acceptance than the self derived marriages.
@iceblizzard (749)
• Philippines
20 Sep 08
Well, I say, we couldn't even tell which one. For some these may lead to divorced because obviously they are still stranger with each other, probably in some cases like they were childhood friends we can say it is. The part of love marriage also, there also cases which it works when pampered with so much feeling and affections, still probabilities like one have enough on his/her partner might also lead to separation.
@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
20 Sep 08
Well for my own personal opinion an experience, I go for love marriage but we can see that arrange marriage also works for some culture. there was a documentary film in TV and the couples was married and you know what they were only 6 and 7 I guess, but I think their marriage will work, the boy lives in another place but he is being raised in a way that he know when he grows older he would eventually meet his wife. All their life they are being told that they are fore each other, so I guess in a way the child will believe and live for the idea of it.
@sam1987b (64)
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20 Sep 08
love marriage.
i dont understand how anyone can be happy in an arranged marriage.
i couldnt fall in love with someone that id not found myself.
i also dont understand why arranged marriages still happen inthis day and age its the 21st century now people have the right to do pretty much what they please
