Yet Another..
By tessah
@tessah (6617)
United States
September 20, 2008 6:16pm CST
falls to the wake. ive had quite enough of people treating me like i was disposable. an easy target to blame and take aim at when others have upset them, or theyre in a bad mood and those responsible for their current state arent within hands reach.. so they reach for me, because i am nearby attempting to be a decent friend, and knock me about. tess is strong they think.. she can take the hit. i may be strong.. i might be able to weather the blow.. ive had a great deal of practice lately of being blindsided and not falling down. but im not oh so forgiving of it anymore. the simple inalienable fact.. is that those who care.. do not harm, and those who do.. do not care, and i havent any room, use of, or desire to keep, those who do me harm in my life.. regardless of who they are. friend or lover, family or other.. enough is enough. do not seek forgiveness here.. for you shall find none.
how much of a doormat do you play in the lives of others? do you reach out to comfort to receive a slap in the face for yer troubles? when does "im sorry" become repetative until it holds absolutely no meaning whatsoever at all anymore?
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@danielle101282 (437)
• United States
21 Sep 08
I understand this all too well. But I will say this, sometimes people take it out on the ones they know won't leave.....
My mom always told me don't say sorry unless you will never do it again because that is what it means....................
So that's how I see it and I think you should tell them that next time they tell you they are sorry
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@danielle101282 (437)
• United States
21 Sep 08
I do agree with you....
Just tell them to stop and you aren't going to take it anymore, then maybe they will get the hint.
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@oakshaman (57)
• United States
21 Sep 08
All I can say is, "Drop five and punt." All too often we get stomped on and bashed by people we are trying to be there for simply because we're available. Then they come back saying they supposedly care about us. After about the fifth time, we've had enough and slap back, and they come demanding an apology from us? Smoke another one! Stay strong Tessah!
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@ellie333 (21016)
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21 Sep 08
Hi Tessa, In the past yes I have helped others only to be slapped real hard, that hard that the hurt and betrayal had a knock on effect on how I viewed and trusted others, once over this though I became my loving helpful self again, but there have been moments in time where I was always being asked for help from others where at the time I felt like screaming 'what about me, I'm human too, I have feelings, I'm not a robot' even my own mother said but you appear so strong and independent others don't realise that sometimes you crumble too, grrr, well yes mum I do and I'm fed up listening to all the whgeing and them taking it out on me. Tessa there is no way you are disposable darling and even if someone did manage to get rid of you you would come back and haunt them big time eh! Huggles. Ellie :D
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@fwidman (11514)
• United States
21 Sep 08
I do hope you are not talking about someone that growled and abused you today in their discussion. They did apologize and I'm sure they meant it 
Being a doormat is no longer my aim in life. I gave that up years ago as I discovered it just wasn't getting me anything that I wanted.
Being a doormat is no longer my aim in life. I gave that up years ago as I discovered it just wasn't getting me anything that I wanted. @tessah (6617)
• United States
21 Sep 08
appologies hold very little weight with me anymore. ive heard them so often lately, they echo off the walls.. and whether meant or not, are just as hollow sounding to me. being anyones whipping post is not my goal in life either.. first strike.. and i move out of shooting range, for good.
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
21 Sep 08
yeah been there and done.. i don't or i won't take blame for someone else faults or mistakes. i am very open about everything.
i am the one who's often is there for people to lend on, and to help anyone out whenever. but keep getting slapped in the face became old for me. so now i only worry about a very few people in my life. and someone who don't fall on that list comes too me i just tell them oh well. i just don't care or do i have the time to care.
you need to pick the few who is greatful for you being there, and who treats you good. and the hell with the rest.. we cant allow ourself be dragged down by others
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@tarachand (3895)
• India
21 Sep 08
It all depends upon the level of care-if you care enough, then you will take as many slaps and then still go for more because you care.
It also depends on how much the slapper wants and cares - if the slapper cares, but is too dense to see you pain, then you may have to withstand a lifetime of slaps, or in time when the slapper realizes the amount of pain the slaps have caused then could come the love, but then it also depends on how much you can take .........
Sorry is a word that sometime matters more than anything else in a relationship, and at other times it has not meaning at all since you love the person too much to let the hurt caused by the loved one to let that hurt really affect you feelings.
It all depends upon the situation and the level of comfort and the amount of care, even for unrequited and/or one sided love.
@annjilena (5618)
• United States
21 Sep 08
hi tess, you are right don,t be a door mat for anyone if you don,t care for yourself who will love is unconditional and you have a big heart something good is coming your way stop feeling that no one cares i find when your family and friends don,t care god cares he loves us so be strong in continue your fight for what makes you feel good in your life writing here is a way of healing you are getting your feeling out in the open so you can be acknowelge you here and you are not going anywhere. you have a blessed day
