Which is harder to do? To forgive or ask for forgiveness?

HArd for me to forgive and I have never asked them to forgive me for what they have done after awile I just as soon for get is all!

To ask for forgiveness and be successful is a lot harder than forgiving. Unlike when we forgive, it is easier because we have control over it and it's just within us to find in our heart to forgive. To ask for it is another story. We don't know what's going with the minds and hearts of those we have wronged.

I would say it is harder to ask for forgiveness then to give it only because when you are asking someone to forgive you , it is because you know you did something wrong and not only was it wrong but you got caught !! Forgiving someone is something that comes from the heart and will take time depending on how bad the hurt was so although this is hard because you are hurting inside you are not the one who is asking to be forgiven for what you did . Not sure if I made any sence or not but I think asking for forgiveness would be much harder to do . I have never found it hard to forgive . I either do or I don't and then try to move on with my life.

It is harder for me to forgive a person. I usually get mad and stay that way. If I do get too upset, I never forgive you. In other cases it takes a long time to forgive. Case in point. I just saw my first George Clooney film. Why? Because he said something demeaning about David Caruso 14 years ago!

For me, to ask for forgiveness will be harder.. I dunno why, but sometimes, i just find it hard to say the word, sorry when it really matters the most.. But when it comes to daily usage or unintentional mistakes, i can say it easily.. I can forgive ple very easily, and really very easily.. I dun bear grudges, and i can forget about the whole thing just within an hr or so.. haha

I agree with you that it is harder to forgive than ask for forgiveness. Especialy when when offended by some one whom I love. To forgive is a noble gesture no doubt. But whom I forgive? I must forgive a person who can realise his or her fault.It is more harder to choose a real friend or a wel-wisher.

You have posed a very interesting question here, and I might very difficult when you self-analyse yourself. I'm really not sure, but I think it depdnds on the hurt on one side, and on the other hand how close you are to the person you have offended. I think asking for forgiveness is easier for me. I do forgive most early and easily, however I have one person who I'm finding it very difficult to forgive.

[i]Hi divine, I can do both very fine as long as I know that it is my fault so, Saying sorry is very easy for me as well as accepting apology from friends! In my life, I am not talking to 2 people whom at first was a good friend and later hurt my feelings, I told them that I don't like to hang out with them anymore and they should stop talking to me! and I have no regrets about it! I know it is more healthy because I don't like to trust again![/i]

I am a type of person who has a high pride but I know when to ask forgiveness or to forgive, it depends. If someone made mistakes which really made me mad so bad, whew! i just don't know when I can forgive the person. I just don't forgive easily, if I knew that I didn't do anything wrong.

Yeah it is harder to forgive somebody.

Nice Question....! I think & observed that it's easy to forgive then asking for forgivness. As i am Muslim. Islam also teach us to forgive and it is mentioned as a good decision. We are not supposed to do any such thing which let us ask forgiveness. Because God almighty is only to punish or forgive. Forgiving is better then doing same as opponent.

well both are very hard to do, But in my opinion asking for forgiveness is really hard. I pray to god that i dont face a situation in which i have to ask forgiveness from someone. In my case i forgive people very easily, I just feel very bad if someone comes and say sorry to me, I start thinking that he/she will not repeat the thing again and he/she really felt bad for it. But this mean world is not as you expect it to be. People repeat things again and again and they dont have any bad feelings about that.

I think both are really hard to do. For me personally I think asking for forgiveness is not that hard, it's getting forgiveness that's hard. There are also times when forgiving others is also hard as you will probably need more time till you forgive that person. Yet I think that we should still be forgiving as long as the one asking for forgiveness really means it.

they are both pretty hard to do but lately i find it more difficult to forgive because somethings is just unforgivable but in time i guess i would be able to do it cause it would be the right thing to do

I think both are difficult. It is difficult to humiliate yourself and ask forgiveness in front of another person. And it is difficult to forgive ones past bad deeds. I believe that one feels happier when he is at peace with his brethren

I find it harder to forgive when it is something where your character is at stake, and your reputation has been ruined. I find it easy when it does not matter and it is an accident. I find it easy to ask for forgiveness, but sometimes feel that they expect me to cut off my hand or massacre my entire family because what i did was so terrible, and I did not even weep or cry. so it seems that both are equal, depending on the seriousness of the sin.

For me the really hard part is to forgive! To ask for forgiveness it is easier, because you know that you did something wrong and you are ready to face it, but with forgiving someone it is harder. If someone did really awful thing to you in the past that really affected your life or even chaged it, it's hard to forgive that person. You will be thinking about it all the time and it will bother you a long time. It is good to forgive and forget easily, but there some situations that you are just not able to forgive.

It depends on the situation, I would not find it difficult to ask for forgiveness if I knew I made a mistake and was sorry. However in a different set of circumstances I may find it very difficult. Sometimes I find it hard to forgive, especially if no apology is given or remorse shown. I would say for me it is probably harder to forgive as Idon't mind apologising if I do wrong. I also find it impossible to forget even if I do forgive.

Hi divinegwapa, I once offended my mother-law and she has never forgiven me for it and disliked me so much and now she had passed and I feel so guilty for that and it will always stay with me for the rest of my life. Tamara

For me Both is hard however its harder for me to forgive...However there is that saying forgive and forget but it dont work that way with me so its most deff. harder to forgive for me.