do you find yourself "dumbing yourself down"?
By shiloh_222
@shiloh_222 (5479)
Philippines
September 21, 2008 5:51am CST
hi there... have you met a supposedly special someone but you found out that there is intellectual incompatability and that you need or find yourself "dumbing yourself down"? anyway. there is such incompatability with my parents. after the attraction fade away... they are incompatible.... even even if my dad had to explain in simplest term... my mom tends to misinterpret a very simple situation.
sigh...
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@drannhh (15219)
• United States
22 Sep 08
Sorry to hear it. Sometimes there is more to this than meets the eye. Maybe your mom has some deep disappointments that make her want to be a thorn in his side. Maybe she feels he is being patronizing.
This sounds a bit like Chaucer's Wife of Bath where she had "experience" but her male adversaries had "authority." It is best when each person has a bit of each :-)
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
21 Sep 08
Sometimes I find myself "dumbing myself down" and sometimes I find myself as the dumb one. I think it depends on what topic or issue the couple faces or is currently tackling. There are areas in life I know more about than Boyfriend does and vice-versa. So I guess it helps that the couple try to educate/teach their partners the things they are good at in a non-condescending way. Take care, Shiloh.
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@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
21 Sep 08
Having intellectual compatibility helps in a couple. At least there is something to talk about when physical attraction fades. A Chinese proverb says that it is better that you marry someone whom you can keep a conversation with. At least you can still discuss things in old age. It's not the first time that I met someone whom I like but we did not cope well together. So I moved on in my life.
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@shiloh_222 (5479)
• Philippines
23 Sep 08
hi thanks...hmmm... you a have a great point... thanks... sorry to hear that....
