How do you pacify a child who gets into tantrums?

A Three year old doesn't have the emotional maturity to handle disappointment, the element of surprise, and some do not handle change very well. I have found that as Mom keeping your cool is very important then get down to her level (not throwing a tantrum yourself) rather get down on your knees and try to explain why. People think oh they wont understand but you'd be surprised. If the child is out of control gently and lovingly pick them up (never grab)and hold the child and make the child feel safe, loved, and comforted until calm enough to explain. Usually when they are that upset they need to be removed from the situation and then con-souled. For example: My two year old Grandchild was pinching me and I tell him to stop; this made him pinch me more and laugh. The pinching turned to hitting and I told him I Love You please don't hurt me and he streched out his little arms and said Hug. He wanted a hug. Often times children will crave negative attention to simply get attention. I would suggest showering your child with affection and attention so that when the child does become upset or disappointed then they know they can go to the parent for comfort and help them through the emotions they are not mature enough to handle. Later in life you will be glad you did.

yuna well my husband had a very unique way when my son was three and had a tantrum.My hubby would throw himself down beside my son, kick his feet, mimicmy son and my son wou ld stop, start at hjim, and stare to giggle. It always worked and my son had veryfew tantrumsafter that.I think daddy scared him a bit.

I'm not a parent yet, but i am the in-charge in attending them while their parents were away for work, i should their like and dislikes first, when they have tantrums, i turn on the tv, and turn the channel to disney channel, and i buy lots of food, not only they enjoy but i also enjoy, i love watching disney channel at my age.

It really depends on how much my little one is acting up and where this is occuring to what we do. If at a store you dont want your child to be annoying other shoppers so either myself or my husband will take her outside and in the vehicle she is talked to and allowed to cry if she feels the need. At home I just let her go, when she doesnt have my attention it is usually pver pretty quick. I think the hardest thing for parents is to watch their child in distress and so unhappy but sometimes there is nothing that you can do and you shouldnt give into every demand or want that your child has, then you have a brat, that noone wants to be around.

my 3 yrs old little girl was like her before we even call her terrorist.but since she is in kindergarten she learned a lot! maybe it need to discipline in a proper way.just like last time she is very upset because we never let her watch tv specially arround 5 pm no more tv so she is attacking me.first i ignore, then she is quite.till a approach her and ask what did you learn in kindergarten? she answered to me"the teacher said i will listen to mommy and dad" so i guess we need to ignore them smetimes to calm them down.my litle girl is not that perfect but its amazing she listen most teacher in kindergarten than me.

Hi, i am a mother of two wonderful boys, i too want to know how to handle them when they start having tantrums. I've seen on tv that some food may trigger their tantrums. One example is tomatoes, but sad to say i have forgotten the other details. Maybe we can search in the internet for more information on what food we should give our kids and what to avoid. Good luck!

Well I guess your daughter is in her terrible two's and threes. I guess this will go with her age. But then when my son did pass through that age he was a little bit of a much tamed but he did try to do tantrums at times. But what I usually do is try to reason with him if that didn't work then I just have to let his temper pass. It is really hard since there are times that he never listens. As much as possible we would never give in to his demands especially when it is not possible and in time he gets the message once his tantrums passes away. After that we try to explain why we did not give in to his desires. In time he learned that its not through crying that he gets what he wants. We try to tell him that he can always talk to us nicely if he wants something. Sometimes it works, but sometimes it does not.

[i]theres a solution on that....... kill em... just joking... if i got that kind of son i will definitely copy what she/he do so that she/he will never get to tantrum mode...[/i]

My 4 year old seldom ever has tantrums. When he does however, I know it is because he is either tired or hungry. When I see he is getting a bit crabby or might possibly be ready to have tantrum I will give him a snack. That will usually do the trick. If not we will have a little quiet rest time. I will lay down and cuddle with him and read one of his favorite books to him. This is usually enough for his body to rest, and get some of the stress mellowed out, he is usually fine after that. Sometimes we all just need some time to chill out, young children are no different. Potty training issues however can be very stressful for a child, I think the best thing we as parents can do during that time is be prepared and be patient. It is a very difficult thing for them to learn and get used to.

Tantrums weren't allowed in our household. Yes, my son (now 27) had them, and when he wouldn't behave he was sent to time out. Time out meant he had to sit on his bed, no toys, with the door shut and no TV until he calmed down and behaved. I guess I was lucky, because he knew I meant it and rarely disobeyed. I know my son uses the same methods with his two girls now.

One thing my parents did when I was being bad was they made me sit on the stairs and stare at the wall. It worked because I got bored so I calmed down. Try doing that. You could also try time outs (like sitting on the stairs) but sit her in the corner and make her stare at the wall. Taking away toys might work. Let her know that there's consequences for her actions. She misbehaves, something is done. I see a lot of parents these days forget that they're the boss not the other way around. The more she learns that you're the one in control, the less tantrums. Hope this helps :) Good Luck :)

Back in high school, my mom used to babysit a really spoiled little boy. I remember one time when he threw a really big tantrum (because we were in a toy store and he wanted us to buy him a toy), my sister and i just ignored him and went to a different aisle. After about 3-5 minutes, he stopped his tantrum and behaved. And everytime he threw tantrums, we just ignored him and pretended that he wasn't even in the room. After a while, he started behaving and even his parents noticed that difference in his attitude. He eventually stopped being a brat.

I know it sounds awful, but I think it's best to let her have a tantrum. It will be very embarrassing, stressful, and maybe even heart breaking. However if her tantrum gets her no rewards she should stop throwing them. Good luck

Our kids get warnings, not only for tantrums, but also when they have inappropriate tones. I usually say, "I don't understand you when you are screaming/speaking impolitely. You will have to speak with your 'inside' voice and nice words." If they continue to go crazy, I tell them they are getting a timeout and if they continue to go crazy, they will get a spanking. If it is your first time giving a timeout and your child keeps getting our of their seat, you might have to sit across from them and make sure they stay in their seat. It might require a lot of wrangling at first, but if you get a timer and set it for 10 minutes - then you are introducing the concept that this will be the routine when tantrums occur. Usually it gives my 3yo a chance to calm down, and she sometimes asks for a pillow to hug. If she continues to scream, or try to talk back - then I tell her that I will start the timer again until she gets quiet. Being quiet really helps the child to calm down. If you are out in public, then you will have to wrangle them to the nearest bench and do the same. I know it's tough, but if you remain calm and keep your tone even-keel - then that's also effective in getting your child to diffuse quickly. I know that sounds impossible, but I've had to do it with my 3 1/2 y.o. with my 2 y.o. and 15 month old in tow. She stills throws tantrums, but they are shorter and she's learned to go straight to her timeout chair.

theres a solution on that....... kill em... just joking... if i got that kind of son i will definitely copy what she/he do so that she/he will never get to tantrum mode...

theres a solution on that....... kill em... just joking... if i got that kind of son i will definitely copy what she/he do so that she/he will never get to tantrum mode...

well theres one solution for that.... kill your baby.... just joking... well if your son is in bbbbiiiiigggggg tantrum mode... "sabayan mo" when she cry, cry too like you teas her...