A 10,000?! To let go or not?

Boyfriend or not for that kind of money I'd have a contract written up as soon as I agreed to lend the money! That way should things go south I have legal documentation that says he owes me that money....$10,000 is ALOT of money

Well, since you stated above that it is "borrowed" then maybe I'll be expecting him to pay his debt.. But of course, I won't asked him to pay his debts I'll just wait for him to pay it.. If he don't pay his debt then it is fine to me but if he pays then the more its fine to me ... Of course, if I'm the one who borrowed money from him, surely I will pay it..

ask him to pay what he borrowed. unless you are rich to give it away. will depend on your situation but if you need it back or need the money so much, ask him to pay it. talk about it.

Heck yeah! 10,000 isn't a small amount of money and besides, it was said to be "borrowed". So in my personal dictionary if something is treated as "borrowed" it is supposed to be returned. But of course try to be nice to him about this thing because logically speaking the nicer you are the more likely you will get your money. If you're rude to him, he could use it as an alibi to not to pay you anymore.

I would definitely ask for it back. If he refuses to give it back or make payments toward it, then I would take him to court to make arrangements for him to pay me back legally. It's good to get something in writing. An IOU or something notorized when you loan someone that much money. Whether it be your mother, your boyfriend or a stranger.

If there's no written agreement and no witness about you lending your money to your partner, then, better kiss your money goodbye. If you'll have a bitter breakup and you're unable to collect the money you lend, then, face the reality of "NOTHINGNESS" on your part. Better ask the money now before it's too late. If you have the agreement that you lend it to your partner, you have every right to collect every hard earned money you lend. But, if you gave the money as a gift, then, no matter how you want to get the money back, as an ETIQUETTE, the money is a GIFT. kapish? :P

first of all, it has not happened with me and i m pretty sure that it will not happen with me.......if it happens then i will not ask for the money cuz i have given the money because of the relationship we had and i will not ask for money back, if she is willing to give back then i will accept.

Hi Ivieigen, I will definitely ask him for the money - after all, it was a loan. However, I usually don't lend so much money to others, not even boyfriends. The only people I trust, are my family members.