how do i make my husband see i need him?

When we had young children and trying to build a life, my husband worked long hours. He had two jobs when we first started building our home. It sometimes takes long hours and being away from one another to get to where you want to be. I understand you wanting to be with him, but what is his reasons for working the job? Is he trying to make sure you and your family have a good living, or is it just a ego trip for him? Sometimes we have to hang in there until things are better and then they will change perhaps in our favor. I look at it this way: you could have a husband who wouldn't work for you and the children. Maybe he's afraid to change jobs with the world like it is today. He may not be able to get a position paying as much as his present job. I don't know how you reach your husband if he's only trying to make a better living for you. He perhaps doesn't view your life together as you do - that is, perhaps he doesn't see the problem with your relationship that you do. Have you asked him how he feels?

have you tried talking to him? explaining how you feel? making it clear just how upset and frustrated you feel?. When i used to get so frustrated about stuff that i felt like i was going to burst i used to write it all down in a letter and give it to the person they would then read it and it would open up a discussion/lines of communication. Hope you get it sorted and feel happier soon. Try small things ne night a week with each other can someone have the kids a simple meal a movie a break just the two of you.

Tell him you are leaving if he doesn't care if he sees you are not . You are both stuck in a rut caused by routine and this can be hard to break . If he realizes you are serious he may change his tune pretty fast . A marriage is a commitment from both people not just one and if he is not willing to make the commitment he is going to lose someone that I know he cares about , but doesn't realize how this is affecting your marriage . He needs a good boot to get him to realize this is something that is important to both of you and he needs to work as hard with his marriage as he does with his job if he wants to keep his family :)

set down and talk to him and tell him how important your family means to you tell you are not spending aytime together and you miss that and ask him what can he do to make it better for you and the kids.

Hi there mattcassethan I really have no advice for you having never been in that position or never known anyone else going through the same thing, I think it would be wrong for me to do so but I just wanted to say that I hope you get some good advice from someone and get it all sorted out before it is too late. Take care and I wish you all the best

Why don't you quit your job so you can see each other more. And tell him you will quit your job so you can see each other more. And he should stay home with you more.

Honey catches more flies than vinegar, and husbands listen to compliments and sweet talk better than to complaints. I have been there. Long time ago. Find things that you like about when he is around. Little things. As he sees it makes you happy he will want to be around you more. He may be afraid to change jobs, because the economy is so rough right now. Lots of men value themselves by how well they provide. I just know that if you compliment him for the time he is there, he will want to be there more. Good luck, friend. It is hard being a mom, and working and being a wife.

Try telling him how this is making you feel. He has to work because somebody has to make some money cause you have 3 kids but maybe if he knows you want to see him more he can get a little time off for just the two of you.

[i]Hi casse, Wow..I know how hard it is but how about writing him so that you can express thoroughly, I am doing that to my hubby whenever I don't like to talk in person, we are both open to each other but there are situations where I can be more open when I am writing and he can also think more before reacting... Or, you have to set a day in a week for the two of you maybe weekend just to enhance the relationship, we really need this specially when you are both working and tired all the time, so time to treat yourselves from daily routine! [/i]

It sounds like your husband is a workaholic and may need professional help. Some people feel that they need to work their behinds off to get ahead even when things are fine. You'll have to sit him down and have a heart to heart talk with him and let him know how you're feeling and ask him if he understands that you're happy and things are fine, you guys don't need the money but You need Him to please find another job so he can spend some quality time with you. Or maybe take a day off every now and then to spend the day with you. You want to work out a compromise that both of you will agree to and go from there. I wish you the best of luck!

that's marriage for you after a few years. i'm sorry it's that way w/you.