Decison

My priority first is my family in addition to take care myself. To discard the responsibilities for self comforts is like that the Pigeon closes eyes to see the cat. I think you should care for the family first and side by side take care of yourself also. Just comment and have a nice day. Take care.

For me taking care of my family comes first. However, I do believe that EVERYONE needs to take time for themselves. If not you get burned out and stressed and will probably explode on someone undeserving of your frustration. I love my family and it is a first priority for me to tend to them. I may take an evening off from cooking or will turn the reins over to my fiance for an evening out with friends. But I do not let friends or whatever I may want to do at the moment interfer with my family and making sure they are taken care of.