do your return the gifts that were given by your exes?

Return!! It's my character to return it. I don't feel good at all keeping those things. If he refuses to take it back, I'll throw them away. I know it's an insult to return the gifts.... that's the precise reason why I want to return. I want to show them that I can live on well and I don't need their gifts at all. Though I return all his stuffs, I don't expect him to do likewise. If he doesn't return my gifts to him, I'm fine with it.

u do what u want to do & what u think is right. i am glad u gave him back his mom/s ring but other than that they were gifts to you & i'd what i wanted w/them.

[i]Hello kenchiprincess, It is ok to keep them since they are a gift. But if it remind you of some awkward things, it is ok to return them to the owner if you can still see eye to eye. I will be very insulting also for me if they return the gifts I give to someone. She really hates me to return something I give her that she can just throw out if she don't want it. She don't need to return to me. So it's better you throw them out than returning them. Have a great day. Regards. [/i]

Hey kenchiprincess, No I don't feel that I should have to return any gifts to X's. Why should I? I put up with them and gave them gifts too probably so there is no reason to give a gift back. It is a gift and you don't return something that someone gives you. The only time that you return something is if it is an engagement ring. That was the only thing that I ever gave back. All other jewelry and other things I kept. After awhile they mean nothing so I either got rid of them or wore them or threw them out. After time things just don't mean as much when you're not with that person anymore. But, that doesn't mean you can't still enjoy whatever they bought for you especially if it is still a useful item.

I don't think I've returned any of the gifts my exes gave me. They were gifts! But I also don't have them on display. I keep them in a box somewhere (I don't know where in the garage). A cousin told me that as we grow older and the pain has disappeared, when we see these gifts again, we'll think of the good memories we used to have once with that other person. But if I were to have a similar experience as you did, I would also give back the engagement ring, not because the wedding didn't push through but because it belonged to the guy's mom.

Hi Princess. I think you should keep gifts that you received from exe's. It would be impolite to return a gift that was given in good faith. If you do that, it would be like a slap on the face. The engagement ring is different. It wasn't just from him, but a warm welcome to the family that you intended to join. What makes you want to return the gifts anyway? Was he disloyal? Did he cheat on you? Why do you even consider returning his gifts to you. After all, at the time they were given, you were in love. What happened to that?

Hell NO! I do not return any gifts from exes especially expensive ones.

Why would you do that? Returning a gift to an Ex just causes you to have another point of contact with them. I don't see any value in that unless the Ex is using the gift for some emotional leverage. Gifts are gifts, end of story. (Granted, I don't always keep them after a split.)

There are some that really return the gifts that were given to them.They thought it would help them forget the person or heal the wound.But like you i never did also.It's a gift so why should i return them.I just keep it as a souvenir.

I think you should reeturn the gifts given by someone if you are no longer into any relation. I think it might hurt him a bit but over the time whenever you will see those gifts you will feel more and more depressed. So I guess you should avoid keeping those gifts with you.

still i won't return the ring if i were you. because it was given to me as a gift and i never asked for it. plus the other stuffs he gave, i'd rather give it to friends than return it to him. or best is to donate it to charity. it sounds bitter to return stuffs since it was already given.

well... I think i responded to a similar discussion... Well, for me, i won't return the gift to my exes... i think it is very hurt.... no matter who said 1 2 break up, but when u return the gift there r very hurt... let's change the situation, of ur exes return all the gift tatu give him/her b4, will u feel hurt? somemore, all the things ur exes prepare for u is special for u, rite? like all the gift u give him/her oso will b the same, rite? u will oli buy or do or give the things to him/her if u feel tat is special or suit him/her, rite? then y return? return to him, he oso not using it.... unless like u said, the ring tat served an engagement n given by his moms then should return... coz tat is for his family members... since u won't b his family members, is better to return.... All tis just my opinion..... hv a happy day....

No we shouldn't return anything except in special cases like yours. As we go through life we gather things including from exes and its very normal. If you have things that your exe has given you without much significance keep it but if he asks for it back then give by all means without a grudge with a thank you note.

When I broke up with my boyfriend (he left me after 3 years, the same night our prom was) I returned all his stuff and when he refused- just throw it into trash bin. Too many memories, and my heart's condition is worth more that few nice gifts ^^"

I just keep it in a box, i miss them i open the box and check the gift i receive from my ex, i think returning the ring is just okay. I don't wear a thing that come from my ex, like i said, i just keep it in a box.

NOpe, i keep them for memory sake.. BEcause it's gonna be stupid to give them back for, it might be trying to remind them of the unhappy past between us.. And so, i will rather keep it to myself, if not, throw them away.. I believe, nobody likes their gifts to be returned to them.. And even my exes were to return my gifts, i will tell them to give away or throw.. SO i guess the same thing applies to me, unless she wants me to return all the gifts.. haha

if ever i were to return all the stuff my ex boyfriend gave me, he would not have accepted them at all. i think all guys are like that, they wouldnt want to take back what was given already. they would want to tell us girls that the stuff will serve as memories to what you have once had.

all the things i received from my pasts, i keep it... i return things coz i thought it would be an insult... i would not like it also if the guy would return to me everything that i have given him... since i gave it to him, it's his already... well i still treasure those things that i received coz by the time i will have children, i want to share to them my past... and so that i will have something to show to them... especially if that guy was really very special to me...

I will return the ring thing. But most of the time we don't have much of this meaning gift. Other normal gifts I won't return them unless he ask me to I don't think return the gifts that were given by our exes is not just a insult to them but also to us Because it just like we don't admit the love affair in that period although it was past Happy mylotting!!!!

I am so naive and I guess I am not in the real world but i just cannot comprehend when people talk about exes.I see marriage as man -women deal that lasts a life time I am not dissing divorce or separation it is just not in my nature to even think about it Sorry Also if a gift is given as an insult I would like to know how can one determine this If i was to give my bride a ring handed down in the family that is one item i would like returned if there was a break up Sorry that is how i feel Good Luck and Have a Great day