How do you handle 'fines' and 'nothings' ??

After spending many years together one comes to know what is wrong with the better half. She just cannot hide her displeasure, once she gets angry. When I know my better half is annoyed I used all the tricks up in my sleeve to set her right or in your words to please her. My weak point is I just cannot see her annoyed with me and I'll try to find out the reaons for her annoyance with me and once I have reached to the bottom of the problem, I find out the ways to set her mood right. I do not mind 'surrendering' and going for an 'apology' if that makes her happy. For me relations are more important than my ego. And once I bring her back to the track, things become quite normal or as routine and usual. I do not find any problems in pleasing a person, if the fellow is annoyed with me. I am sure I have the temperament to settle the dust.

It's very important. Just cannot let this grouchy, cranky mood go on for too long. First thing to do :-understand the reason behind the sigh words.. What dumb thing did i do to upset her ? Then recognise my mistake, apologise and then make up and as soon as possible. How do i do that ? Reassure her of my feelings and love towards her and do the things together she likes best. In other words pamper her. After all, my happiness is derived from her happiness.

Self-loathing makes many people do strange things. Why, I wonder, would any thoughtful person take it out on their most beloved and closest friend just because s/he wakes up wrong. We have a choice, you know. We don't have to use "sigh words" and some of use choose not to. It is just a bad habit, not an inborn part of our gender. I do not believe there is any such thing as "typical women" Please! I am tired of being called atypical because I have a brain, and act like an adult. No wonder some men call women perpetual children. Let's rise above that. No more games!

Hmmmmmm Simple Just Look at her Go to Sleep and let her cool down and Next Day, bring her some Gift

Heya!^_^ "Fine" is definitely the number one 'killer'. I mean what do you reply to that? I dont really use it since it can also be misinterpreted especially on written/typed things that doesnt accompany sound. There are some "fine"s that would seem sarcastic but there are also "fine"s that are accompanied with a smile, so just to be safe I dont use that. I do use "okay" but an "okay" is just an "okay", at least to me that is. I just say that whenever the person Im talking to replies something that you cant really add something else to, so just as an affirmation that I understand what he/she is saying, I say "okay". As for the guys, yeeaaahhh, most of them really just dont get it. But there are a few of them who does though. With guys, they want things to be straight forward as possible but with girls, straight forward doesnt really mean straightforward. Its like one huge language with a lot of dialects and relies more on emotions than logic. But then again, thats just how I think about it.

Very practicle situation. This has occured to me in few occassions and it upsets me like nothing. Depending on the situation if I have done a mistake, I let her to stay like that for some time and then talk to her. I admit my mistake and please her to get friendly again. If it is not my mistake, I directly deny it and justify it politely but steadily. So far this method has worked. But one thing for sure. After such occassion, one we get friendly again, we are friendly more than earlier. That's very funny :D

If it is something of little importance, let them tell you when they want to tell you. If they say they are "fine" or "it's nothing", when you know it is not, and you can clearly see that there is a problem, then start prying into them. Start asking them a lot of questions until they give in to you.

"Fine" means everything is far from being fine, and "nothing" means everything, that's woman-speak.

fine and nothings are my speciality .lol.and if my husband does it(which is very rare)i just ignore him.

i am just a women. so these are the things that many guys think how to please the Gf/wife. I have also seen that there are some who just don't bothe rabout them.

Some women are really like that. They may be sweet now yet they can be silent or irritated later on. I deal with that in a way that I don't pissed her off again and again. I stay patient and nice. Also, I'd to romantic things like kissing her unnoticeably, or making a special food for her.

after such a mood i think one needs to be shown and felt the importance and give those lovey dovy words needed by him/her. these words are majorly used by woman but mana re no less a few man also knows well to use these words.My expectation after listening or making some one else hear them is i need that love and to be felt special alot of pampering or trying to pacify me...god im really very materialistic.

Well for me I just turn silent because sometimes silence says more than words. Also silence gives me some time to gather my thoughts so that I couldn't hurt her when she tells me that.

On my side, I just smile at the since it will soon fade out. Pleasing someone is hard, isn;t it? But being yourseld is the key to all of these. However, we should adjust with one another as well. That is the secret.

I am one of those really annoying people that tends to tease my poor wife if she is cranky or grouchy. Thankfully though she has a great sense of humour so is pretty tolerant of it! I have to admit though, when you KNOW something is wrong and then when you keep asking you get empty answers it can definitely be frustrating. I just keep asking and teasing until it all comes out! lol. We are fortunate to be pretty good communicators actually so it is rarely an issue. (By the way I have put on about 8 kilo's since that photo was taken so the waistline did indeed expand a bit! lol)

oh i know what you mean, although my problem with this is not a man/partner...mine is with a teenaged girl! i usually bother her until she tells me but as her parent that is pretty tough to do because who wants to tell their parent what is wrong???

When a person respondes with "fine" or "nothing" it can either be an indication that they do not want to talk about it, or that they do but you have to try and get it out of them. Generally I respond by saying nothing for a while and see what else they say. Usually, if they want to talk about it, they will follow up the "fine" or "nothing" with another statemen. Usually one that begins with "its just that", or "well, you see". If they don't follow up , then I just leave well enough alone.

I have been married for a while now and I understand where you are coming from. As a woman I do tend to get frustrated if I feel there is something wrong and my partner is angry and doesn't want to talk about it. I have found that with time and experience along with some good old patience, your partner will open up to you when they are ready. Some people just need time to get their selves together before they can talk about things.

I am a girl but when I do say these things to my hubby he is bothered, he always thinks that this two words has a lot more meaning to it, he also does not like me saying it's up to you, for him when I say this things, I am mad at him well in fact when I say this to him, I really don't care so it is up to him, what ever his decision is, it does not matter to me. When I say nothing, sometimes I really meant it but sometimes I say nothing then I pout, well in that case that means it is just nothing.