Will you marry me..??
By poisonivy27
@poisonivy27 (125)
Philippines
September 23, 2008 7:21am CST
Are you the kind of person who embrace commitment in such a way you get all dreamy just thinking how wonderful and perfect it would be walking down the aisle with flower petals all over to the tune of cupid's music, to finally and completely surrender singlehood to tie the knot?
Or are you like me, who has what is called Gamophobia a.k.a marriage phobia. I completely dread the day when my boyfriend of four years will actually decide to pop the question. Don't get me wrong, I do love him with all my heart but I don't think marriage is actually my kind of thing.
I've had so many friends that barely survived failed marriages, including my very own sister who after two years her nutcase husband left her to fend for two kids. just the thought of making the "big step" without any certainty that you'll indeed be together forever and ever, makes me want to throw up out of nervousness. I mean what makes me different from them? what makes me so sure it'll be totally different for me? **sigh**
So tell me fellow mylotters, what's your stand on marriage? do you think you're up for it.. someday?
1 response
@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
23 Sep 08
Neither. I'm not naive and starry-eyed, but I'm not cynical to the point of fear and aversion. Honestly, people get too caught up in stereotypes and "should be"s when it comes to marriage and commitment. You don't have to get married to be committed and being married doesn't make you committed. And you're right, there is no guarantee. There never is and there never will be and the people who think there is are the ones who tend to fall the hardest.
I believe that you shouldn't get married unless you are already deeply committed to one another, and I believe that if and when you are committed to one another, you don't need to get married to prove or validate that.
@poisonivy27 (125)
• Philippines
24 Sep 08
That was very well said! I appreciate your time sharing your personal opinion on the discussion. Hope you're enjoying your day/evening. ^_^
