falling in love with my bro..
By nurhidayat86
@nurhidayat86 (21)
Indonesia
September 23, 2008 2:49pm CST
i have a friend. She has been my friend since i was 10. Now she has grown up and in last 4 years i've been falling love with her. She said to me that it's not enjoyable when she has to have a love relationship with her own best friend (i've never talked to her yet). So what i shoud do? can u help me?
3 responses
@glords (2614)
• United States
23 Sep 08
I'm sorry to tell you think, but I think she was trying to drop you a clue. For girls its very obvious... the clue means, please back off I don't want our relationship to become more. When I was in high school all of my friends would try to set boundaries by saying things like "You are like a brother to me" or "I hate dating friends" and then they would be very surprised when the guy came on to them anyway. I guess women and men don't speak the same language. If for your own sense of closure you need to talk to her about this, at least admit that you know, she has already tried to cool the waters with out forcing an ugly confrontation.
@Jezebella (1446)
• United States
23 Sep 08
I totally agree, I think for girls we try to say things like : i could never date my best friend" as a way of not hurting feeling or setting boundries of not wanting to date a friend or simply having no interest. If you need to like glords said talk to her and see what happen..admit you know her feelings, but let her know of yours.
@nurhidayat86 (21)
• Indonesia
23 Sep 08
actually i've said to her once upon a day. She responds me very nice, she send me sms everyday, ask me "how was your college?" and something trivial like that. She started first, but when i asked for more serious relationship, she told me that she disn't want a boyfriend yet. I don't know what her thinking was, if she didn't like me why she keeps so tight so that i feel she try to tell me "please don't have a girlfriend yet". i confused
@ebought (56)
•
25 Sep 08
It would be better to remain friends. By coming on to someone you have been long term friends is difficult. And should be avoided. If you suspect your friend does not feel the same way as you, don't go there. You will jeopardise the friendship you have. I hope things work out for you...
