imin deep trouble, help me
By noelpm
@noelpm (7)
September 23, 2008 8:25pm CST
hi everyone, i'm 41 and unemployed. my wife works as a nurse from other country. She sends me money every month for the expenses and all I have to do is take care of the kids and finances here. I just graduated from nursing as my second course and i'm about to take the board exam this november. nways, I incurred a debt last month and my wife called that she's coming home. what I did was I went to the casino thinking to get some extra cash so as I can pay my obligation to a friend! Boom!! everything was gone! now my problem becomes my worst nightmare. I got nothing now. I pawned lot of things already to pay my friend and keep the kids in school. got nothing to eat and everyday i would go out and look where I can borrow and pay in installments but friends are always hard to find when you have no more. I am so guilty and I blamemyself so hard now. I'm thinking of leaving my family when my wife arrives coz i feel i had become a problem to my kids and wife for the things i've done, for my indesiciveness, for being an a--hole. Please do help me if you think I shouldn't do that and what do you think is best? love them all(my family) and it just hurts me so much...
1 response
@ladystrange (93)
• United States
24 Sep 08
Admit your sins tell your wife the truth, everyone is allowed a mistake or so. You should leave if you intend on continuing to gamble you families food monies away. Why would you pay your friend and leave kids with no food? What kind of friend is this?
Regardless, I think you should be a man confess the truth. Do not run away with out explanation
@noelpm (7)
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24 Sep 08
hello and thank you so much for the comment. I cant take the guilt, it's been haunting me for a week now, I came short from her expectation from me and just cried it out evryday...she's expecting that all's been paid up when she gets home. im sorry...I just cant imagine what to expect..
@ladystrange (93)
• United States
24 Sep 08
Well, I do not think she will be happy. But if you try to lie she will be suspicious and think you are untrustworthy, and think you had done something even worse. If you love her as you say you do. I think the truth is best, and it pays her respect. Once the storm blows over, answers to solve the problem may be achieved together. If you truly have no food for your kids call a local Catholic church, almost all of them have food banks and do not ask many questions and give out bags of food for those whom need it.
