Florence Nightingale or Thats a shame, get over it?.....

Yet another thing we have in common, my friend. But for different reasons. I wasn't treated badly when I was sick as a child... problem was I rarely ever got sick. I can only remember 3 times in my life being so sick I had to miss work or school. When I was 8 I had strep throat, when I was 13 I had chicken pox, and when I was 18 I had a nasty head cold that knocked me on my butt, swollen lymph nodes, ear infection... the works. Other than that I mostly just got mild colds here and there which were no big deal at all. When I had a bad illness I was treated fairly, allowed to lie in bed all day, brought food and soup. When I had chicken pox and couldn't eat my foster mom would make me smoothies... this was long before they were popular. But because I'm not used to being sick, I have very little sympathy when someone else is sick. If my kids have a cold I will still send them to school, but if they are really feeling yicky I let them veg on the sofa watching TV all day. Luckily they are mostly like me and rarely get sick. My husband is the opposite. He seems to constantly be sick. It drives me nuts because I can't understand how a person can be so sick all the time. Sometimes I think he overdramatizes his ailments, and rarely do I show sympathy. I'm sure his parents babied him when he was sick, and I don't agree with that. Severe illnesses deserve babying, but not your average cold. However, last night hubby did have a nasty stomach problem, and I went out at 10pm to buy him some medicine... so I'm getting better.

[i]HI gemini, I am that also, I do know, I have a very caring, extra caring Parents and I would say only my Sister inherit it..LOL! Whenever we are sick before, DAd and Mom will check us often and bring food in the room and then hot soup and buy whatever food we want and what we crave, oftentimes, they will sleep in our bedroom just to be with us, even if it's only a toothache or whatever!.. Anyway, I am not like them, I am quite hard..LOL! I will take care and listen but I would say, I am far from how my family is when someone is ill especially when it is only a mild one! with hubby, he doesn't like to be attended too much when he is not feeling well, he wants only to be silent and to rest! LOL! [/i]

sadly yes I have been know to take care of everyone before taking care of myself thats something my hubby agrues with me telling me I am not healthy an should take care of myself instead if my neighbor gets a chill I will bring some tea or soup over for her an if the kids or hubby gets sick yes they need babying thats my job as mom , friend , aunt ,an daughter to take care of ALLL of them

my school attendence record was flawless.. due to the fact, like you, i just wasnt allowed to stay at home. but then, i wasnt allowed to be at home anyways. regardless of the day, health, weather, or otherwise, us kids werent allowed inside the house unless it was mealtime or we were in bed (for sleep.. not sickness) i got very creative in finding shelter in bad weather until i got friends whose parents actually enjoyed the presence of their kids and their friends being around.. and i pretty much moved in with them for the most part. me.. im different. imma mother hen horribly. the sprite when she has even just a simple cold.. is kept home until shes over it. not just for her sake and comfort.. but for the sake of every parent of every child in her classroom and more thatd have to take care of a sick child if i sent mine in to infect everyone with her sickness. shes wrapped up on the sofa with coloring books and cartoons, juices and tea.. and a brand new box of tissues for her suffering nostrils, and i will hover about.. checking her temp, making sure shes comfy, lulling her into sleep so she will nap and feel better. i do the same with mal as well. theres very little more distressing than to feel miserable and be ostracized, alone and shunned, uncared for and inconsequential. i dont wanna be the cause of making another feel that way.

gemini, you big meany!! lol I think it depends on the person and what it wrong with them! I am not so sympathetic when people just have a common cold and decide to put their lives on hold because of it, to be honest i think that sometimes this is just laziness, although other times i think people are genuinely feeling poorly and it's not nice so i am sympathetic! I have to be caring towards my patients at work and so do a pretty good job of giving tlc etc, but sometimes i think people do lay it on a bit thick for the sympathy vote, i've been the same with my boyfriends in the past as you are with your hubby!! xxx