Are we allowed a second love?
By Dday50627
@Dday50627 (359)
United States
September 25, 2008 11:54am CST
here is my opening... I shared the most beautiful life any man could have ever dreamed of or deserved. She was my forever lady and my love for all times. I think of the day that I will join her in heaven. But if she is in fact my forever love then am I allowed to love again? To be InLove again? Perhaps not in the same way and certainly not as deeply. I NEVER want to feel that kind of pain and loss and sorrow again in this lifetime. But is it alright if I love someone again? Will it lessen the love I have for My Sheila? Will it take away my dream of one day being with her? Is it saying i have moved on and left her behind??????? These are REAL questions that plague my soul 24/7. I don't want to miss seeing her in heaven where she waits for me. Be kind with your answers, and be honest. She went to heaven 2 1/2 years ago and I still cry for her daily.
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
29 Sep 08
yes you are allowed and deserve a 2nd love.. sheila would want you happy and i think that if you were to fall in love again it would be a different type of love.. it wouldnt feel the same just as any one you dated they all didnt feel the exact same.. and its not like you would be the same with the new person as with sheila so its not like they would be getting the sheilas vs.. you would be different..
if that makes a dang bit of sense.. lol..
@Dday50627 (359)
• United States
29 Sep 08
It makes absolutely pefect sense. Hugssssssss. You had to know it would to me. Smilessssss... Thank you for your responce. Always, Darrel
@sudalunts (5523)
• United States
27 Sep 08
Dday, I read your response to the Soulmate discussion. From that, I can see that you loved her very much, and she loved you. You certainly have fond memories, especially, how the two of you were at each other's throat in the beginning.
I know that Shiela, knew how much she was loved, and I honestly think that she would like for you to move on and find happiness. You would not be betraying her if you found someone else. Of course, it would never be the same kind of love you had for Sheila, but it would be love none the less. If and when you do start a new relationship, you should honestly let the person know about your feelings and the love you had for your wife. Any woman would be honored to have a kind, loving, and faithful man like you.
Shuck's I'm already married
(just some fun to lighten up the discussion)
God, intended for you to be happy, Sheila, is safe and happy in heaven, and believe me, you will certainly be with her again someday.
God bless, and take care
I know that Shiela, knew how much she was loved, and I honestly think that she would like for you to move on and find happiness. You would not be betraying her if you found someone else. Of course, it would never be the same kind of love you had for Sheila, but it would be love none the less. If and when you do start a new relationship, you should honestly let the person know about your feelings and the love you had for your wife. Any woman would be honored to have a kind, loving, and faithful man like you.
Shuck's I'm already married (just some fun to lighten up the discussion)
God, intended for you to be happy, Sheila, is safe and happy in heaven, and believe me, you will certainly be with her again someday.
God bless, and take care@Dday50627 (359)
• United States
27 Sep 08
My God, how your words touched me and made me smile. I am so glad that the love I have for My Sheila is so very evident. She is so much a part of my being and I love her and miss her terribly. I thank you for your words of encouragement and take them straight to my heart. Hugssssss from my heart to yours... She was my Angel on earth and now she is My Angel in Heaven...
@rantingqueen (495)
• United States
25 Sep 08
I truly believe that we are allowed to love again. My husband and I have discussed this topic many times, wondering what we would do if the other passed on first. We both are of the mind that we wouldn't want the other one to be alone in this world, but would rather they love, have fun and enjoy life. Life is too short to spend years grieving.
You will never love your Sheila less than you do at this moment in time. Humans have the ability to love many people deeply in our lives, in different ways. A new relationship will never be what you had with Sheila, but if you are willing to open your heart to a new relationship and a new person, it will be rewarding and fulfilling in different ways.
And I believe, when you are ready, you will open your eyes and heart to a new person. Allow yourself the time to grieve for your wife and your relationship. It is okay to cry and to miss...but it is also okay to move on, knowing she is waiting for you when you join her.
@Dday50627 (359)
• United States
25 Sep 08
Your words also touch my soul. I thank you for them and smile at your writing. It has reached in and made me feel lighter. As i have said, I have a lot of offers and I try but Sheila is always there. And I knowww she would not want me to go on mourning her forever I just dont think I am ready for a full blown relationship yet thank you again for this hugsss and God Bless you...
