What if your parents does not respect your decisions?

How old are you modstar? It depends entirely on how old are you and i assume you live with your parents? I am totally independent now so my decisions do not interfere with theirs and vice-versa. We just update each other, as I did this, and my parents will update me with their activites or major decisions too. Don't be too upset. Maybe they have their own reasons too. Show more patience. Show more understanding. When you will be a parent yourself years from now, you will all understand things better. (Oooppss, i actually meant to make you feel better here!) cheer up! =)

i think ill just stick on what i want but also consider what they are saying, they are my parents and i know they wont do things that will put me in an unappropraite situation that will harm me in any way...they just love us thats why sometimes they decide for us, especially when they think that we are in the wrong path, you can stick with your decision but think of your parents will, and never do actions that will hurt them.

hello modstar! i'm kinda pissed off at my parents too for the same reason.i was thinking of rebelling but i changed my mind.somehow,i still respect my parents even though their decisions may not be congruent with mine.i think it's a matter of communicating with them that you don't like what they're doing.i'm hoping that they will understand. happy mylotting!

Hi Modstar, I been facing this problem before. At that time, I was decided to go to work in another country, but my parents say no, but at that time I was already over 21 years old, so I do it myself and even my parents still say no, but I feel that I am doing the right thing, so I follow my way. My parent were disappointed to me, but I will proof that I am right. So here I am.

Well, they are your parents after all, they know what's "best" for you, you should take into account their concern about you. But if you don't like their decision, you can try to tell them what you think and ask their respect for you... This happens to me so often, but I don't have much power on my parents...

I'm so blessed that my parents always ask for thoughts regarding family matters especially if it concerns me. They never plunge into drastic decisions without consulting me first, they always repsect my opinions. I'm so lucky to have them. I feel sad that you're pissed off right now. I guess you've done all the explaining and ranting to your parents about that certain decision they made and still they turned a deaf ear on you (been reading other responses as well). Well, you can try giving in to their decision and give them a "let's wait and see" attitude. Prove them wrong in deciding for you, they will learn to value your rights after that. Good luck!

LOL well they NEVER respected my wishes or decisions to be honest with you...and it use to infurate the hell out of me but now since we dont talk (my mum and I, her ex husband has been out of my life since I was 17 thank the gods) she isnt aware of anything I do, think or feel so has no say etc etc... I would talk to your folks and let them know how you feel about what they've done. You're an adult and they shoudl IMO respect your choices end of story ya know.

i hate it when they do that...that's the reason why i suddenly decided to stop studying is because they chose the course for me...that was before now a days they don't interfere with our decisions anymore thanks to my big sister...she raised me since i was seven when my parents separated she stood up as my parent..father/mother...she decided to take over till now and told my parents to just let us be since they left us be when they separated...

well i do it in the best Indian way stop eating till my decision is considered

LOL. You should have asked this two or three years ago. My parents didn't respect my opinion back then, but after some happenings they started to understand that I am no longer teenagers and I am an adult that I can make my own decision, whether they respect it or not I would still do what I decided

Its not yet happened in my life. when my parents take any decision about me they always consult with me. I think u want to understand them that what is good for u.

I have lived through feeling like that and now i understand why they have done or said something that i felt was disrespecting my choices. in actuality as much as you most likely do not want to hear it, they are looking out for you and your future. they just do not want you to go down a wrong path, or worse have your decision badly affect your life in the long run. try to talk to them about your decision and why you chose what you did, also listen to what they have to say and the reasons that they have given to you, if you disagree with what they say, explain to them the reason on that. also try not to sound arguementive if you are then it wont help your situation. once your parents see that you are being mature and that you are trying to talk things through they will be less likely to decide things without talking to you about it.

well, your parents knows the best decisions but sometimes our parents is over reacting about things that is not good,..

Hi modstar.. it's been 4 months since you first posted this discussion and I'm wondering if you went to Manila and if you are still there? How did it end up working out between you and your parents? My parents were very respectful towards me unless they felt I was making a major decision that could affect my life in a bad way, and then they would let me know how they felt and what they thought I should or should not do. No matter what I decided, they would still love me and I knew that. I never wanted to disappoint my parents so I tried to keep their feeling in mind when I made major decisions in my life. I am trying to be that same kind of parent to my son and up until recently, we've done well with respecting each other. We still do now but there has been an issue that has come up in the past month that is causing us some conflict. He wants to do something that I do not support. I have gone around in circles with him over this issue but in the end, it's really his decision and his choice. I will love him no matter what but I'm not sure if I will be able to support him since it goes against my own feelings and beliefs. I'm not sure how old you are but it sounds like you are in your mid 20's and my feeling is that you are an adult now and no one can make you do something against your will. If you did not want to go to Manila, then you should not have gone. If you live at home and do not want to follow your parents rules, then you should move out and support yourself - then they cannot expect you to do anything unless you want to do it. I hope everything worked out for you - I'm glad you're still here on MyLot!

It totally depends on what the decision relates to on how I would feel. Nevertheless parents are there to be the decision makers in the home. I did not always like the choices either but had to suck it up or get into worse trouble with them and that was not worth it at all. My daughter now is kinda getting the idea of why I decide things the way I do. I try to let her decide for herself but have explained many times that she cannot always get things her way. Life is full of compromising.

Sometimes "you gotta do what you gotta do". I've been brought up in such a way that my parents' approval mean so much - almost too much - to me. Sometimes I think that that's how I measure myself as worthy - if my parents would approve or not. Most of the time that works well because I never end up regretting what I do. But there are times when the expectations are so irrational that I can't help but feel controlled - I think you are experiencing the same. When this happens, there is nothing I can do if it is beyond me to decide. If it's my life though, then I'll have to fight for what I think is right - not simply to rebel, but to truly stand for what is right. If it's really their decision and mine wouldn't count although it would have been so much more polite of them to ask - then I'd cry myself then let it go. Oh and I'll be sure to give them a piece of my mind. Thanks for the response on my discussion!