Parents VS. Boyfriend

I've got about the same problem, but not with a boyfriend, but with my girlfriend, LOL! Anyway, my parents don't agree that I go out with her because she got 1 tattoo, which is ofcourse, very dump to disapprove someone with, because they haven't even met her yet! So ofcourse I am still going out with her and we are engaged actually now since 2 weeks, and it feels great! Only thing is that my parents still disapprove her, and they don't even know I'm engaged with her yet.. My plan that I have at the moment is to sit down with them in October, and start having a good talk with them, so we can sort this out like adults. But now to your problem, you dont give us a lot of information about WHY your parents are disapproving your boyfriend. Could you please tell what the reason is? Its not really important if it's not crime or age-related, because I take from you that you are old and wise enough to make your own decisions right? So you should go out with him, if you still wanna be with him, BUT you should never lie to your family, just because of the reason that they are your family. You may not agree with it, but family is the most important thing in the world, and there are enough boys for you that you will surely be seeing! So I think you shouldn't make to big a deal out of it..and shouldn't be seeing him anymore,if your parents reason is logically why,then yes.. If it's a stupid reason then you should keep seeing him, but like I said, then still you shouldn't lie or make something up to your parents.. This is my advice,and I hope you will do the right thing! Good luck with it!!!

hi, the main point to resolve here is to ask why your parent do not approve of your bf. there must be a reason why they are not supportive and there can be many reasons for it, eg, you are too young, you need to concentrate on your studies, they are worried your bf may cheat you, your bf is not good enough for you etc. there are just so many possibilities that i can think off. once you know the reason, then resolving the matter is made much easier. try not to go against your parent as i believed they have a reason to do so and ultimately their intention is good.

this is normal all parent don,t start out liking their children boyfriend ,it have to grow on them.give them time to this relatively new ideal of you even having a boyfriend .see no body is good enough for their daughter, they have to get use to you dating a boy they don,t know and someone they hope will treat you right try to understand what they are feeling and thinking.

I think every parent has the best interest of his or her child at heart. Have you asked them why they disapprove of your boyfriend? What has your boyfriend done that has merited your parents' disapproval? I believe that everybody deserves a second chance. I think your boyfriend really has to prove himself to your parents. If he really loves you, he will do everything to prove that he's worthy of you. You're right in saying that you should talk and make a deal with your parents regarding your boyfriend. And more importantly, you should stick to your end of the deal and show your parents that they can trust you. I believe that trust is essential here. When your parents see that you and your boyfriend can both be trusted, and that your boyfriend is worth your love and time, they will soften up towards him and they might eventually like him. Good luck!

Hi there! If you love your more than your Boyfriend then you should obey them! No what ifs.. The chance for your Boyfriend to prove himself is always there.. You don't need any approval from your parents. You should not make a deal with your parents, your already grown up. You already know what is right and wrong. The decision whether to split up or not with your Boyfriend is still up to you.. If it is worth fighting for then go for it.. Just as long as you know what you're doing. Why do I say so? Because I was once in that Boyfriend of yours position. LOL. Me and my Girlfriend accepted that her parents are against our relationship, but we still continued our relationship. Up to now were still together for two years now(we just celebrated our 2nd anniversary last Sept15). ^_^ Her parents now are supportive of our relationships.. If your parents see that there's nothing wrong with your relationship with your Boyfriend, eventually same thing will happen to you too.. And if only your Boyfriend is as good as I am. LOL.. ^_^ Happy posting!!

i would not end teh relationship, if the boyfriend is worth arguling with your parents then give him a chance, but you really have to think about it. Is this one guy really worth possbily ruing your relationship with your parents? if the anser is yes, then saty with him.

It would depend upon my age and the reasons for the parents disapproval. They surely have a reason for not liking him? Obviously if an adult you can do your own thing. But as a child you are bound by your parent's rules. Talk with them and find out why they disapprove of him. Maybe they have valid reasons. And if so, I would respect that.

Hi there,Its not the matter of taking chances and giving a chance to your boyfriend.I hate people doing this.Our parents do their best to see us in a best position and when we earn money we bring a girl/boy and say that I'll die with out him n all...Just imagine the pain we deliver to our parents and I am damn sure that we will never succeed in our life if we do this...The best way is to convince your parents in a nice way rather than those curfews and all...Prove that you really love your boy friend and at the same time you don't want to leave your parents..Try this it really works...Hope your love wins..!!!And make your parents feel happy about your love...Have a nice day..!!!

i have learned from my previous experience with guys and i really think the best thing to do is to follow our parents. they really do know what's best for us because as teenagers we don't come up with well-rounded decisions so at our age, it is best to learn how to listen to parents' advices.

I think that would depend on if your parents had a legitimate reason to dislike your boyfriend. If he was totally wrong for you, does something they disapprove of, is disrespectful, etc. then maybe you should listen. When you're in a relationship, you can't see things in your significant other that other people can. You are blinded by love, as cheesy as that sounds. So I think it'd be wise to at least hear your parents out and see what they think, instead of totally disregarding them.

First thing to figure out is whats the main reason for the objection. And one of the important point is how you present your boyfriend to family member or parent, as that highly influence their judgment too. If you always mention about good things and what he have help you for better, eventually family member will slowly accept on the effort and believe he can take good care for you in future too. =)

I am in that situation now. My parents are racist and needless to say my fiance is black and im white so my parents dont approve at all...but i feel like this ... my mom is my mom and will always be, but i cant let her views on life and her wants make my decisions for me. I have my own life to live and i will do so. I love my fiance and i dont think that just because he is black he is a bad guy. I see no color and will continue to love and cherish him. my mom will just have to deal and accept it. like it or not.

Been there before. My parents weren't really against me entering a relationhip since they trust me immensely. But there was a time when I asked my Mom's opinion on my new suitor whom I was willing to give a chance and well, I like him. My Mom told me she didn't like the look and feel of him. Others would call it women intuition, others bluntly put it as meddling, but I thought of it as a mother's intuition. My Mom is never judgemental and I really approve of and follow her instincts, she's never been wrong so far about my life. Mom and I compromised. I promised to take heed of her warning but well, she muct also trust me when I decided to go for it. Well, I'm glad Mom intervened, the guy who's boy-next-door facade I fell for, crumbled after I saw him dating other chicks while professing his loyalty and love to me. What a creep! Thanks to my Mom!

Most of the time I would say your parents know whats best for you and they are just looking out. I was one that didn't listen to my parents and kept getting my heart broken. Yet I'm still with the same guy that broke my heart b/c you know some people change. My parents didnt like it though and really didnt want to give him a chance. But once they realized he really changed and is worth having around they are alright with him now.

Well, the thing is, are you old enough to leave without your parents? Is your boyfriend financial enough to take good care of you? Then if he isn't you should listen to your parents the most because they want what is best for you i mean they cant deceive you. But if you ask me, family comes first when it comes to relationship outside marriage.

I am a fairly honest person so I would try to talk to my parents. But if that doesn't work, then I would keep seeing my boyfriend but I wouldn't tell my parents.

i think for a start your not going to live all your life with you parents, so you need to make a choice either upset your parents a little or never have a life, if you think he is right for you then thats great but if you don't think he is right for you then don't just continue just to upset you parents

This situations was there for my Girl Friend few years back. They were against our affair. But we fought diplomatically. There were certain things for us to achieve. We achieved them with patience. Our policy was to win our parents and get married. We were determined to handle it that way. We never left parents and never thought of seperating. Finally we won. 2 years back we got married with the blessings of our both parents.

I guess I'll just try to hide my relationship with my boyfriend until the time comes that I am confident and brave enough to showcase him to my parents. one big factor why my parents do not approve on me having a boyfriend is because i am still studying, and as an urban myth, parents think that having a relationship will ruin one's studies. So i wanna prove them wrong, finish my studies and then when i graduate, i will introduce my boyfriend to them.

It will be so hard if my parents will not like my boyfriend. Its hard to choose specially if i love the person. But lucky I am because i have a parents that will understand my happiness. They do care on me a lot but talking to the person i will going to love they dont care on it. They give me a freedom to love but of course i have all the advise in the world. They always there to advise me in everything about love. Sometimes if I am hurt my parents comfort on me much..THe more i will cry if they do that lol..