He can't see it

First, you need to find out what his desires are. What makes him happy? What makes him satisfied? Once you find the qualities that he's seeking in you, act upon them. It's hard to satisfy another person every way they desire. You'll always have clashing thoughts and arguments no matter how perfect you want the relationship to be. Ask yourself too, what is it that you do for him? Relationships shouldn't be about money and the flashy gifts you buy for eachother. Relationships should be finding a peace within eachother that makes both of you smile. You should be able to sit there on your couch and cuddle, laugh and talk and be happy with where you are at that moment. I know a lot of people that say, "oh he never buys me gifts or she never thinks about me when she goes to the store." I tell everyone, that's not what it's about. Is she there for you when you need help? Is he there for you when you're upset and you need someone to confide in? He's your husband, you should have his emotional cycles down pat. So my advice would be undevided sympathy and affection. Narry down your options depending on his reactions to differen't acts you partake in. Speak to him, you did make that commitment and he owes you an answer.

From a guy's perspective, what you just wrote here says it all. I think you need to express your feelings to him as clearly as you expressed them here. It is possible that he is simply not picking up on whatever it is you are doing. Guys are dumb in that way...we are not good at reading clues, or picking up himts. We're more of a "if you want something, just tell me what it is." The same goes for knowing how you feel. To use a comparison, if something is bothering my wife, she'll do everything but tell me what's bothering her. Over time, I will pick up on her negative emotions, but I won't have the first clue what the cause is or worse still, if I am the cause. It isn't until I finally sit her down and get her to talk to me that I understand the dilemna. Guys are thick...if you aren't great at showing your emotions, then express them verbally. Give him a card with all your feelings written out. Make sure you express them clearly and with as much emotion as you can muster. Another thing you might try is really making a special evening for the two of you. Maybe make his favorite meal, light some candles, have some soft music playing and just show how into him you are. Make sure he reciprocates too though....it's a two way street afterall and if you are showing him how you feel, he'll respond. Good luck to you. Chin up, you sound like a wonderful person who is very dedicated to his man and if you can find a way to make it clear to him, he'll come around.

Hi, bebykeka80. My husband sounds a lot like you describe yourself. I recommend that the two of you read The Five Love Languages By Gary Chapman. It layouts rather clearly the fact that we all have ways of expressing love and ways that we feel fulfilled by love we receive. There is a quiz that accompanies the book which helps the reader identify their own love language. It hasn't cured our problem completely but it gave us a little more understanding of each other.

Do you think he may have other issues, such as depression, that may be affecting his ability to truly see how much you love him? Just keep your chin up and keep on doing the little things that count most. In time maybe he will be able to see clearly how much you really do love him.

You need to explain to him, if he can't see that you love him. Then talk to him,im sure he can hear you,you need to tell him him that you love him and by the touch of your hands im sure he can feel it that he is your world and he mean alot to you. Happy posting.

hi, well, one of my friends does have the same thing too.. once she told me when i met her in the canteen of the campus that she doesn't know how to fully express her love to her boyfriend whom she loves so crazy..she said that, when they are on a date, she cannot talk about anything as if her tongue gets completely tied up, and the whole conversation gets in silence no talking between the two, unless if he talks an endlessly! especially, she wants him to meet her family and stuff..but she gets shut up the moment she meets him! so, i told her to get to text him and email him reguraly..emailing helps very much in revealing your emotions directly.. usually, texting, emailing and sending flowers and stuff help very much... go out with him, or let him know in a written message that u r planning to have a day off to be only with him..make your home as your honeymoon or your paradise.. spread perfume here and there and even in your bed.. dress sexy to him and change your style regularly.. turn on some jaz music during your meal or during your night time with him.. just be open with him..or give him kisses when you dress him or arrange his tie in the morning before going to work.. there are actually loads of crazy stuff that you can make..just try to be positive and earase all the negative stuff from your mind..things will be positive when you think and act postively...it might take sometime, but it works at the end... although, i'm still single but hofully my response has some sense of help ;p good luck, Smiley

[i]Hi baby, I am very expressive and showy to my husband my feelings, my love, my care as well as my anger and mood..LOL! He knows me a lot! In your case, maybe you need to be expressive also, in any simple ways you can show to him and make him believed about your feeling..Like preparing his meal, sending him email to express your love once in a while to surprise him, send him a card even if there is no occasion just to let him know you love and think of him...Simple things like that will help really![/i]

I think you have to sit down and talk to him. He needs to tell you what makes him think the way he has been. Is it the way talk, this is possible as I know my husband says that to me on occasion. Sometimes changing the tone of your voice or something else small that we do not realize will make a huge difference. Hope this helps you some. Take care.

Saying i love you to your husband isn't enough for him to prove that his really your world, like what you have said. You and your husband should have time for each other to have conversation about how you feel for him and vice versa. Husband and wife isn't not all about taking care each other, both work to pay bills. Even you are married now, you have to act like you are still gf-bf in a sense that the sweetness are still there. The important is, as a friend. Open communication is very important in a relationship. Have you ever heard of "Action speaks louder that words", that is true. You have to do more actions than words that you tell him. In that way, he will realize that you do love him that much.

Sometimes people just want to hear that you love them. It could be as simple as that. I hope that you find some special time to let him know that, an I love you can make sometimes a big difference. Good luck.

I am like you too in this sense. I am a shy and quiet person that sometime I don't know how to express my feelings and emotions to my husband. So, most of the time I would write him e-mails, put a piece of card in his desk or his car, text him, and cook his favorite meals. I used to write him long e-mails until one day he told me to stop and if there's something I want to tell him, it is better to tell him to his face. It takes a lot of practice to communicate like that for me. But after a year, I got used to it and I never want to go back to the way I used to be. It takes patience and efforts from the wife and the husband too.

you mentioned that your inexpressive in emotions. lot of people have this problem.even i have this problem though i am not married yet.Also this problem may be due to over expectation from your husband. I think you can change and be more expressive.Try to find what your husband is expecting from you and give him the maximum..good luck

Men and Women show and feel love differently, not to mention each person as an individual shows and feels love differently. I would ask your husband to share with you five times in his life that he felt very loved. Evaluate the list. Check to see what it is that makes him feel loved. I think the most common love languages are: gifts, time, touch, and words of affirmation. Once you know what he needs shower him with it.

Hey, I totally understand you, I'm just like you, I don't know well how to express myself to others my emotions. I usually think that other people should know what I'm thinking, or what I might feel, but I was so wrong!! It is important that you let your feelings out, specially if it's about someone you love!!! If you can' t show your emotions in front of your husband, then write it down!!! Write how you feel in little post-its, and you can put them on the mirror for example, when he wakes up he'll see it... That's just an example, there are millions of ways to show someone your feelings, it's all about creativity :) I hope I helped =)

Dear friend first I have to say that your husband must be a very possessive in nature and he too loves you very much as you love. But the real problem here is to share you emotions with him and make him feel that you care for him at the time he needs your attention most important not when you feel and spend time with him as much as possible. Things will change as you shower love and affection at the right time when he needs you support sometimes even when he is wrong. Please try this and if you find a change please do let me know. take care.

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