Today is a very sad day
By Katlady2
@Katlady2 (9904)
United States
September 26, 2008 1:06pm CST
Today is the birthday of my twin nephews that were stillborn last year. Some of you might remember my post about them. If not, here is the link to it if you are interested:
http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1288436.aspx
It's been a pretty rough week for me, just thinking about how they would be probably toddling around by now and getting into everything. Even certain songs on the radio have set me off in tears. But it's been exceptionally rough on my sister in law. She hasn't been sleeping well. She's been eating though so that is a good thing.
Tonight we are going to get together with the rest of the family and go to the cemetery where the boys are buried and we are going to place flowers on their grave and then we are going to release a bunch of blue balloons as a memorial to them, since that is what we did on the day of their actual memorial service.
Please keep my sister in law and her fiance and daughter in your thoughts and prayers. Or at least send some positive love and light their way....they could use all the positive love they can get. Their names are Joy (mom), Ian, and Ashley.
Thank you so much to all of my wonderful friends here. Lots of love and hugs to all....Carryl
6 people like this
12 responses
@Grandmaof2 (7579)
• Canada
26 Sep 08
Yes this is a sad day, but my goodness where did the year go? I do well remember the loss, just not fair.
@Katlady2 (9904)
• United States
28 Sep 08
It definitely does not feel like it's been a year to me either. And it all still makes me want to go to that awful hospital and slap some people around. But that still wouldn't bring them back would it? Thanks so much hon. I really appreciate your friendship.
1 person likes this
@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
26 Sep 08
I am very sorry about the pain your sister in law has suffered since last year. I read your original post and think what happened was incredibly sad. Pregnancy is time when it is the baby or babies that the mother to be is waiting for. To have a still born twin boys was very upsetting indeed. My friend's sister had a still born girl three years ago and she has had a memorial put on a pier. She had a baby son since then and is currently pregnant and due in two months. I hope that you and your family will get through the memorial service for your twin nephews.
Good luck to Joy, Ian, Ashley and you, Carryl. I wish Joy a better future and send wishes of future luck to your family. Take care.
4 people like this
@Katlady2 (9904)
• United States
28 Sep 08
Thank you so very much hon. It was a nice little tribute that we did. I think there were around 35 balloons that we let go at the cemetery. It was very emotional, but I think it was the "release" that my sister in law needed. Thanks again.
1 person likes this
@someonesmom (5761)
• Canada
26 Sep 08
I do remember this extremely sad occurrence, Carryl. It's hard to believe that a year has already past. I suffered an early pregnancy miscarriage many years ago, and that was hard enough. I can only imagine how much worse this type of pain would be. My heart goes out to your sister in law, her fiance, her daughter, yourself and the rest of the family. What a beautiful tribute is being paid, with the releasing of the balloons. My thoughts and prayers are with you all, at this time. Hugs.
2 people like this
@someonesmom (5761)
• Canada
29 Sep 08
You're very welcome. It's a very necessary part of grieving, to remember those who have passed on, and especially with little ones like these. You all have a great deal of courage, and strength. Hugs.
1 person likes this
@heavenschild (4777)
• Canada
27 Sep 08
Hello Carryl!
I am so sorry to hear that this happened to your family but I understand...
Seven months ago my cousin lost her Twin boys and it was her first pregnancy!
It is still very hard for her some days and so very sad for us all!
I posted three discussions on it at the time as she had such a difficult pregnancy!
http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1400687.aspx
http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1428859.aspx
http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1439306.aspx
I'm sending much love and prayers your way in hopes that the days ahead get just a little bit easier!
HUGS
~Heavens~
2 people like this
@aninspiration (346)
• United States
27 Sep 08
prayers be with you and your family
3 people like this
@Katlady2 (9904)
• United States
2 Oct 08
Thank you for sharing your posts with me hon. My prayers and thoughts are with you and your cousin, as I'm sure the emotional wounds have not even come close to healing yet. Thank you for the love and prayers as well. Lots of love and hugs right back to you hon.
1 person likes this
@heavenschild (4777)
• Canada
27 Sep 08
Thank you very much aninspiration!
~Heavens~
2 people like this
@Feona1962 (7526)
• United States
28 Sep 08
Hi PPP...
I'm sorry this is late...My heart goes out to you and your sister and her family....I don't think there is any greater pain than the loss of a child...The why's and what if? will always be there...but the love from our family and friends is what will pull us through...
Love to you and your family..Hugs to you too! I have already put them in my prayers....
2 people like this
@ShellyB (5241)
• United States
27 Sep 08
I am very sorry about your lost, I am however glad that you are all supporting to your sister in law, she must not feel alone, even if her heart is broken,
You and your sister in law and the family will be in my thoughts and prayers.
*hugs*
2 people like this
@mattcassethan (226)
• Canada
26 Sep 08
that is sad. i am sorry to here that. i could not inagen going throught something like that. god bless
2 people like this
@blackbriar (9076)
• United States
28 Sep 08
Oh Kat 
, I'm so very sorry to read this. I had no idea! I just sent 3 prayers up for your family in hopes it will get them thru the next few days. My thoughts are with them. 
, I'm so very sorry to read this. I had no idea! I just sent 3 prayers up for your family in hopes it will get them thru the next few days. My thoughts are with them. 2 people like this
@dropofrain (1167)
• India
27 Sep 08
I think what ever sadness comes to you needs to be overcome with the positive attitude. I think ups and downs are a part of life and needs to be carried through our minds very well. We should understand a few things and let go some other things to make our lives happy.
@corngrass (727)
• Malaysia
27 Sep 08
Dear Carryl,
I am sorry to hear what you and your family had gone though. I just said a small prayer for your family especially for Joy, Ian and Ashley.
I believe God is taking care of both of them, and that's why He bring them back to Him. They're with Him, so don't worry. They're happy up there and watching over all of you. They are the little angel of your family. You will meet them somedays, I'm sure you will, just not now. 
Hugs!
Cheer up! I know it's hard, but try to. They won't want you to stay in the dark forever.
Hugs!
Cheer up! I know it's hard, but try to. They won't want you to stay in the dark forever. 1 person likes this
