What's the hardest thing you ever had to tell a friend?

There has been times when I have to decide on whether to hurt my friend or not. It's about an issue regarding her and her special someone. It so happened that they are both my friends and the guy is my classmate. They don't see each other, and so the girl asks me about the guy. However, this guy friend of mine tends to answer things a little bit childishly and insensitively, that one would think he doesn't care about us abymore. I know he doesn't mean that, but when I practically beg for him to come see us some time, he disagrees. And when I tell that to my friend, I know she is hurt. Sometimes I think better of not telling her, but not hearing from him also makes her anxious. It's sort of a case of damned if i do, damned if i don't. It's really hard to choose.

the hardest thing I ever had to tell myself is... "sorry, I can't help you on this one anymore." there was this time, when she got used to having me around doing everything for her... and it made her too much dependent on me. Also, sometimes, doing things for her makes me compromise the things I have to do for my own responsibilities, this is why, in that time, i had to tell her no... it was not easy, especially i don't like to see her having a hard time... but its the only way she can learn... I will not always be with her for all our lives.

My best friend and I went on a trip to NYC together two years ago. I knew she liked to shop but I had no idea how bad it was until then. I got really fed up with it, especially when she brought three suitcases full of stuff and it was spread out all over our hotel room. It was like I wasn't even staying there. And I understand that she was excited because it was her first time there but it seemed all about her. I had been there several times before and wanted to show her some spots but along the way, we had to stop so she could shop. I finally snapped one day and said no more. After the trip, we didn't speak much until I called her and we had a heart to heart. She wants to live in NYC now and I told her there was no way she would make it there, not with her spending habits. It's just out of control. She said she understood and thinks part of the reason is she lives with her aunt. All she has is a room, with a lot of things in storage. She just wants stuff to call her own and tries to fill that hole by shopping. I think she's doing a lot better these days. She's even trying to sell stuff now. And we're all good! In a turn around situation, six years ago she ended up in the hospital. The doctors discovered she had cancer and I was the first person she called. It was so heartbreaking to hear.

It was hard for me to talk to my friend that I would never fall in love again.That was the time when we talked about girlfriends. I am always serious on these stuff. But something did happen.I felt badly hurt. It really broke my heart to say goodbye to the girl I loved so deeply.Maybe I should keep it in my mind and recall the beautiful memories in the night,but that would be the most painful thing.To find some one to listen to me is not easy and luck enough. And I should be satisfied with it,maybe.