Is it OK NOT to celebrate a birthday?
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
United States
September 27, 2008 6:37pm CST
My birthday is in two weeks, early October.
Every year, I look forward to my birthday.
And, most times, I get a really big gift.
Not on my birthday, but usually the month before
my birthday.
Last couple years, I've gotten a computer.
But, this year, we had to wait until January to buy
a new computer. So, I'm pretty sure that I won't be
getting another one so soon. Nothing to look forward to.
I'm not really excited about my birthday this year.
Is it OK not to celebrate a major birthday?
I don't want cake cause that is fattening.
And my life is not really stressful, so no need to take a
day off. I'm a stay at home/work at home mom anyway.
So, a day off is not really going to happen.
I'll still be cooking and cleaning and doing my online
businesses, as usual.
What would you do on your birthday if you weren't going
to celebrate?
How would you commemorate a birthday, if you had nothing
special planned?
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47 responses
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
28 Sep 08
Women are always making a big deal out
of stuff. Maybe that's just me!
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@heavenschild (4777)
• Canada
28 Sep 08
Well, I turned Thirty back in January and nothing was done for my birthday and so I was upset by this and still I feel cheated but then I never had a sweet sixteen party or eighteen or twenty-one or twenty-five so what made me think that anyone would bother with me for thirty!!!!
Personally I can't answer your question because for me, I like to celebrate mine and I wish just once someone would do something for me without being asked!!
~Heavens~
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@heavenschild (4777)
• Canada
28 Sep 08
Thanks beautyqueen...
I apologize for ranting in your discussion but this has been building up for a long time! It's been quite the year so far and a lot has gone on...
~Heavens~
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
28 Sep 08
You betcha! We all have times like that.
It helps to have friends who listen.
Be well.
Best of luck on this upcoming year.
@GardenGerty (160708)
• United States
28 Sep 08
I will pretend that I could take it off, I never do. I do not care if I have cake or not. I would enjoy one lovely piece of a luscious dessert from a restaurant, say a toll house pie or a cheesecake. I would like to swim, use the hot tub, and sauna, then go for a massage, and a pedicure. Not going to ever happen.
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
28 Sep 08
Hello beauty queen. To begin with, Happy Birthday to you though it is still early for it to come. Speaking of celebrating my birthday, I just let it go on like the usual days, except that I eat better food on my birthday. My wife is always the one to cook delicious food for me and for my son and herself as well when our birthday comes respectively. But if I am away from home, my wife and son call to say Happy Birthday to me. I appreciate them so much. Enjoy your life, beauty queen.
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@williamjisir (22819)
• China
2 Oct 08
Hello again, dear beauty queen. I thank you so much for your nice comment and the best response to me. I appreciate it so much and wish you and your family to always have a wonderful birthday every year. Best regards to you.
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
28 Sep 08
What a lovely and thoughtful family, you have.
You are most fortunate and blessed!
Be well, my friend.
Have a good day.
Beauty Queen
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
28 Sep 08
I rarely celebrate my birthday. It falls on May 12, which is in the same week as Mother's day. My wedding anniversary is just 5 days before that, and my son's birthday is the day right after mine. So needless to say, my birthday gets overlooked. I'm lucky if Mother's day and my anniversary are not overlooked, lol. I don't really mind, I've gotten used to it since my son has been born. Alls I really want is for my husband to remember, and wish me a happy birthday without me having to remind him, lol.
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@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
28 Sep 08
Mine rarely forgets my birthday!
Though, of course, I'm first to remind him.
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@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
29 Sep 08
I think for the most part, all married guys are that way.
I have to just look the other way when hubby buys me a
candy bar as a gift. And, he's done that many times.
He doesn't get it. He never will.
But, he's a really hard worker and has put up with tons
of my cr@p over the years, (and he's been super supportive
of all my ideas) so I am not going to complain too
loudly.
Usually, he is the one that is always telling me
to buy stuff for myself. When, we have money, I mean.
I think he wishes I'd just take him off the hook for
birthday gifts and just buy one for myself.
This year, I think I will!
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
28 Sep 08
He doesn't actually forget the birthday, he's just not thinking of it the moment he wakes up in the morning.
Actually one year, I was driving him to and from work because we only had the 1 car. Half way to work he finally asks me why I'm in such a mood and I start crying cuz he hadn't said happy birthday. (My birthday's are always depressing since my mom and dad have passed and I no longer get cards from anyone). He tried to make it up to me when I picked him up from work. He'd gone over to the rite aid across the street and got me a card. But of course ruined the whole gesture by adding a candy bar as if that was my birthday present. I would have preferred JUST the card.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
28 Sep 08
Goodness beautyqueen26...You should celebrate your birthday in some manner....I never have any special plans for my birthday either, but a good number of years ago, I started my own tradition to make my birthday feel special. I usually make a gift for myself as I make crafts...so I make something that has a special meaning for me...like a specialized DreamCatcher. I buy a birthday card and balloon for myself (my two kitties sign the card..LOL..aren't they smart?) and on my birthday I make my special dinner of the French meal Beouf Bourgningnon which I serve on couscous. I may not be thrilled I'm a year older, but I definitely feel one should celebrate their special day in some special way
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@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
28 Sep 08
Maybe I'll do some kind of beauty pampering day.
My daughter will get a kick out of that!
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
28 Sep 08
You are so right!
Spending time with family is the best gift of all.
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
28 Sep 08
Ditto! And, the older I get, the more of the same
old thing birthdays become.
I'm hoping my daughter will pick up the idea of
celebrating Mommy's birthday!
I miss the gifts and cards.
Year before last, hubby got me a really beautiful antique
looking marcasite watch.
It was so beautiful.
The little girl got hold of it this year and made her doll
wear it (without Mommy knowing about it) and the thing broke.
Oh, well!
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@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
28 Sep 08
i think it is okay. it depends on what do you really want to do. i do celebrate my birthday every year but not with a party. i go to church and eat out wide my wife. i will be celebrating my birthday on october and if i am not outside the country working on those dates i will still go to church and eat out with my family. that is how i celebrate my birthday yearly.
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@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
28 Sep 08
That sounds like a very nice way to spend
a birthday!
Happy birthday to you, as well!
@Rosekitty (19368)
• San Marcos, Texas
28 Sep 08
I only celebrate mine every 10 yrs..i throw a huge party and invite everyone..so in 3 yrs all are invited..during the rest of the time its nothing to me just another day..
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@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
28 Sep 08
I'm starting to feel the same way, more and more.
Maybe when I'm forty, I'll do something big.
Not this year.
When I hit thirty, I had a kid.
That was a pretty big deal.
@renitaperrone (547)
• United States
28 Sep 08
I'm a stay/work at home mom too and I can't remember the last time we really celebrated our birthdays (my husband and I, that is). We don't have money to go out, can't afford to buy gifts. So, now that my kids are a little older, we usually do bake a cake and that's about it.
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@Sheepie (3112)
• United States
28 Sep 08
Spend all day in the bathtub. Go somewhere. Maybe you really should do something. I know that I would take any excuse there is to pamper myself! Maybe you should just buy yourself a little something. Even if it's just a chocolate bar. Eat something fattening, if you feel like it. Love yourself because it's a celebration of your life!
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@deathvans (301)
• Philippines
28 Sep 08
Well for me, I had just celebrate my birthday last week, but my mom,dad and sister, aren't there, cause there in different place. So I just decided, to eat alone, go to some restaurant and eat by myself.. Well, That's not bad for me, Actually, That birthday was my Debut for a men,, Hehe.. Cause girl, usually have their debut at 18 yrs. of age.. ^_^
@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
28 Sep 08
It's perfectly fine not to celebrate your birthday IF that is what you want. However, if someone wants to give you something nice as a way of saying they love you and want to show you by giving you a gift, by all means accept it with open arms. Hubby and I don't celebrate our birthdays in any big way, we just go out to dinner and enjoy each other's company. We may rent a movie or something but that's about it.
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
28 Sep 08
Of course, I would not turn away gifts.
But, if it were just up to me, I don't feel
like celebrating.
Course, I might feel different on the big day.
I'll let you know.
@cinderella2007 (2662)
•
16 Oct 08
Of course its OK not to celebrate our birthday, who says we have to celebrate our birthday in the first place. All we celebrate is the fact that we were born on that day and I know we should be thankful for life but we dont always have to celebrate our birthdays. For my birthday this year I went for a meal with my bf and his family. It wasn't much of a celebration but it was just nice being with family plus it was his nan's birthday a few days after so it was nice to be with her aswell.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
28 Sep 08
Hello beautyqueen26, I haven't seen you here in awhile and I hope you are doing well. As for celebrating a birthday, I don't think that it should matter as you know you are getting a year wiser, and everyone does as well. As you say you can't take a day off having a child and house to attend to, and I'm sure your hubby wouldn't know what to do without you. If anything though I think you should cook something special that you want, and then let that be the only thing. It appears the older one gets the less excited they are about their birthday! Happy Early Birthday!
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
28 Sep 08
Yeah, he'd be lost without me.
Thanks for the birthday wishes.
Thanks for the birthday wishes.
@ganda8831 (816)
• Philippines
28 Sep 08
Well birthdays are always special. Should always be special. But nowadays it's just not practical anymore to celebrate our birthdays big time since money is quite hard to come by. No need to have a party and a bunch of people around. Just celebrate it with your family. Maybe go out and have dinner. A little something to mark the occassion. That's what i usually do.
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
28 Sep 08
Money is definitely an issue for us, especially
at birthday times.
However, for our daughter, we give a lot of gifts.
She should be spoiled.
Every little kid needs a special day.
Or, in her case, 30 days, of special days!
@legacyrunner (45)
• United States
28 Sep 08
Maybe you could buy something special to fix for dinner that night. Watch a favorite movie while eating dinner. Or treat yourself to a new CD of music you love and listen to it all day long.
Happy early birthday.
