Why does a friendship change course after a friend gets married?

I married my wonderful husband one and a half years ago, at twenty-two years old. Most of my friends were one to two years older than me, and all of them are single. Preparing for marriage, our friendships seemed to get closer, though we certainly had our differing views on several issues! But within months of the wedding, we started to drift apart. Having lost several friends to marriage in previous years I was very conscious of keeping communication open, and taking time to spend with my friends, apart from my husband. I was careful to not dominate our conversations with marriage stuff, but to talk about my new life in proportion to everything else we talked about it. The thing is, in my situation I think the loss or dormancy of my friendships was a combination of two things: we were suddenly in very different phases of life, and my husband and two of my closest friends did not really care for each other. Before Nick (my husband), I was the direction less sidekick to their dynamic duo. When I got married I suddenly had plans and dreams - a direction to walk in that no longer supported their views of our friendship. Whereas in the past I was content to follow them around at a moments notice, now I had someone in my life who I could not just ditch for a day of shopping, or an overnighter with the girls. And to make matters more complicated, my husband considered them to be negative influences on me, degrading my self worth and sense of independence. Not people he cared to be friends with. Of course, those are just two examples of how friendship changes as a result of marriage. Another friend of mine and I have grown apart in the last eighteen months - we both got married within two months of each other, and our values each changed during that time. Both of us became more aware of our own minds and hearts, and even though these discoveries had nothing to do with each other, they have caused us to drift apart. Our lives just don't have that much in common anymore. And of course there is the one friend for which my marriage changed nothing, but to unite two of her good friends! Kim and I are closer than ever, and we have the added advantage that she and my husband are good friends. I think that when someone gets married, relationship are bound to change, as with any life change. I think that "how" those relationships change is determined by the quality of the friendship before the marriage, and how individuals handle their changing roles after the wedding.

i dont know because it was the other way around. When my friend got married i did too and we became pregnant around the same time. 12 years later she went through a divorce and became a different person. She really did some things that hurt me i tried to keep helping her but she took advantage of me in so many ways and it hurt so much that i had to quit being friends with her. so i think that divorce changes someone more than marriage does....

the relationships never effect friendship. it's something way above relations and friends have a special place in the heart. so after marriage friendship grows bigger as you need to tell your miseries to someone who can understand them and help you out