Jealousy... is it really a part of a relationship?

it shouldn't be, it causes so much damage in a relattionship. to me if she wants to leave oh well. or if another dude looks at her, i take it as comment

Hi jhordie. No, I don't think that it is part of relationship. If you have confidence in your partner and self confidence you don't feel jealousy. But if you have any motive to feel it so I think that is better to end the relationship. How anyone can live with suspicion all the time? It will be not a life. Cheers and have a nice sunday.

In my opinion jealousy kills a love relationship and does not strengthen it. I do believe that a little bit of jealousy keeps the passion going between a married couple. However when a jealousy is excessive it will kill the love between a married couple. Trust is very important between a couple and if there is no trust there is no relationship.

Jealousy is a poison in relationships. I think it is a sign that either the person is insecure or is controlling or both.Either way , that is bad for a relationship.

Hello jhordie. I think that jealousy is not a positive emotion. Therefore, it's destructive to any relationship. If you want a healthy relationship, jealousy will have no part in it. Any jealousy is too much. There's my 2 cents' worth.

Jealousy, is a power play and controling. Do you really want that in your relationship. It also show basic insecurity. It is not the sign of a healthy relationship. In other words forget it.

i think it is somewhat part. its still healthy when there is some limit too it. when it goes beyond that, it is no way very healthy.

I would say if you do it moderately then it may be what you call as spice in your relationship but most of the time we never realize that the jealousy becomes too much and it ends negatively to the relationship instead of spicing up the relationship. So I say if its done in moderation then its okay but when everything goes out of hand it would never be good anymore.

Jealousy has no place in a healthy relationship. If one or both partners are feeling insecure, they need to talk over their feelings with the other person or seek therapy.

i do believe that jealousy is part of a relationship. just like what you've said it proves each other's love. but i certainly have it's limitations like you can feel it and tell your partner when and why your jealous. not to the extent of harrasing or hurting each other.

hi jhordie I dont think jealousy really helps a relationship at all. in fact it will break one up more often.specially if one is prone to tease the other by affecting some emotion towards another person. What can help is to build up trust between you and your mate. If you trust eac h other and do not betray that trust you will have no problem with jealousy at all.

It depends. It shouldn't be part of a relationship if its hurting the relationship but if only to add spice... then why not! hehe! I'm happy to say that jealousy is the least on our list because we do trust each other! Sometimes I have to make an effort just to make him jealous but most often than not, I fail! Hmp! Those were days when I feel he doesn't love me because his not scared of losing me to somebody else but he always makes me feel that it's not that. He loves me that much to trust me so much!

I think that if two people trust each other, there should be no room in their relationship for jealousy. Some people are just born jealous. People have to understand even though you are in a relationship you do not own the other person. they had lives before you met them and that life comes along with their friends. I think jealousy can destroy a relationship. My husband still has contact with his ex wives other women he knew before me, so why should I be jealous? I feel that if he wanted them he had the opportunity before he met me, so I just leave it alone and let him continue his friendships. I am secure in my relationship and my husband is too, we have enough things to worry about besides jealousy.

hello Jhordie, i have aa boyfriend, before. we break up after a weak because he cant felt my love because im not jealousing with her,..' my point is jealousy is part of our relation, so that our partner will know how much we love loved him. for once a month i can jealous to my boyfriend

Yes I believe that a certain small amount of jealousy is a normal part of a healthy relationship. Now by this I mean not something created in the mind, but a little twinge of the heart now and again that makes you realize how lucky you are to have the person that you are with. I have been with my guy for 8 and a half years and I trust him totally and I know that he would never cheat on me, or leave me for another woman. Still every now and then when he talks about sharing a desk at work once a week with a female co-worker, I get just a little twinge thinking how lucky she is to get to spend that time with my man, when I can't. I think this is a normal and healthy feeling because it makes me realize what I have, and allows me to not take my very special relationship forgranted. By having little twinges of jealousy I get to fall in love with my guy over and over again when he comes home to me, when he loves only me even though I know he could be tempted by others, it is still me he is with and will continue to be with until the end of time. I believe that there are many people out there that allow jealousy to live in their minds and create and re-create all different kinds of scenarios based on their jealous feelings that make them angry at their partner, though they may have done nothing wrong. I think as with anything communication is the key, if I am feeling jealous, and I can't quite calm the mind about them, I may make the comment to my guy that I wish I were the one there with him instead of these girls at work. To which he replies that I and the kids are his whole world, and there is never a worry about him ever wanting to be with someone else. That usually quiets any uneasy jealous feelings that I have.

it is and will always be. what important is you must know how to handle it, in fact why would he or she be jealous if there is nothing to be jealous of. but if it is too much and you are tired of it just get rid of the problem even if it means getting rid of the person so you can move on. it's better to let go of a person if you think he or she will pose as a nuisance in the future or regret your relationship with her later.

I am a woman and for me, jealousy is a big turn-off and if there is too much of it, it will surely kill the relationship. I dated a man that initially seemed so self-assured and nice. He had been a regular customer where I work for a few years and we'd often chat & joke when he came in. So when he asked me out, I felt I already somewhat knew him. First 3 months were great. We talked & laughed and got pretty close. Anyone who knows me, knows that I'm just about burnt out on dating. Prior to him, I hadn't dated in a while. Seems the closer we got, the more possessive he got. He didn't like me talking to other guys...I work in the public and talk to many people. I'm a friendly person but not real flirty and I've never cheated on anyone i've been with. Outside of work, I have a pretty quiet life. I am home taking care of the bills and the home and my daughter. I have a few friends that stop by from time to time....women. I have a couple of guy friends that will come by for coffee but when I'm seeing someone they don't, out of respect at least until they meet the guy. They aren't threats in any way. In the end what could have been a wonderful relationship got snuffed out with his constant suspicions and jealousies. I found them to be very insulting and trust is important. What used to be a fun time with him turned into a session of consoling and assuring him that he had nothing to worry about because he didn't.

i think jealousy is all about inner issues with the person who is jealous. i dont think it is healthy or destructive, just not a productive way have handling situations. it just might make situations worse, and end a relationship in some way, depending on the people involved, their personalities, and what kind of relationship they had together.

well i won't say that it is really important... but i would say it's nice to know that your partner gets jealous sometimes... that way you will know he cares for you or how much he loves you... it does add spice to a relationship... but too much is never good... for me it's too much when you feel that you are tied in by the neck... that will ruin a relationship... it's too much jealousy...

Yes,of course. Jealousy is always in our mind, by money, by study,by jewelery and by health so much things in our life.But only relationships and also friendships