How do you move on ?

I have been in this situation recently myself...my heart goes out to you as I know how much it hurts. It is so hard to start to trust again after being lied to. I have just tried to bite my tongue more and turned to my friends more often. It is so hard to get the trust back once it is broken. Try to focus on yourself and what is making you happy...this is what I have been doing. I am also concentrating on a life that does not always include him as maybe some space will help us...not sure if this will help you. If you ever need a friend to vent to feel free to call on me... I do understand the turmoil you are feeling very much!

It takes time and lots of it. Tell your husband how you feel and why you feel like you cant trust him. Let him know that he will need to treat things differently for a long time now and you will need this to get through things. forgiving him for what he did is different then forgetting that he lied to you. My Hubby lied many years ago and it took me a long time to get through it. Now things are okay but still when I have any doubts I ask him and he knows that this is how it is and will always be. Since he lied I have the right to check on him when ever I feel like I need.

Good day... What lies did he told you? and how deep? I mean does it concern money or an affair? The question that you should ask yourself can you forgive him? could you forget his short coming?

once you forgave, which alone is hard, but to actully move on from the pass is harder. my wife lied big time to me and it took me awhile to put trust in her again. but over time you will heal. and he must do whatever it takes to regain your trust. sometime we just got to give them some slack and see if they hang themself.

It's been a year since the test of your trust from your husband? And still hasn't overcome the pains and regrets? And has not totally forgiven your husband? Then, better seek a very good counselor so both of you can unload all the thoughts and feelings you and your husband have for each other. Being negative all the time after accepting your spouse back is unfair to your spouse. Once you accepted him back, you are already willing to work things out and have forgiven him completely. You can't be in denial while you are trying to maintain a good relationship with your spouse. You need to accept what happened and help yourself move on. It's hard to forget the past but if you want to save your marriage, you are willing to help yourself to move on and make it a point to your husband that losing you is not an option. You, yourself will be the key to your new life with your husband. Be free of negative thoughts. Don't enslave yourself to it. Nothing will get better if you continue to doubt your spouse. Good luck.

I have had this happen to me and my husband and i have been trying for years to get over this but it is so hard to even listen to him. When he tells me a reason for something i always want to questin him and see if he is lying or not so i now the exact situation and we always end up fighting. So our relationship has had a ot of problems b/c i can't seem to forgive the past. Thats what we need to do is forgive the past. but as woman it is easier to hold it against them i know