what the h*ll is wrong with it???
@camomom (7535)
United States
September 28, 2008 12:58pm CST
i am a stay at home mom and have been since january of this year. i worked for the same company for 12 years. they didn't care about me at all, or any of their other employees or their families. i have a 2year old and a 2 1/2 month old and i'm sick and tired of missing out on my kids lives and paying other people to raise my kids. we spent a lot more money when i was working then we do now. we could barely pay our bills when we were both working. now I'M raising my kids instead of pawning them off on other people. anyway my point is, people look down on stay at home moms when they themselves are not parents...i know because i used to do it. i thought they were lazy and just didn't feel like working. now, i know why they do it. atleast i know why i do it. i want to raise my kids, i want to see all of their firsts, i want to know that they are safe, i want them to know that we love them more then money. we are broke. we don't care. family is more important to us then the almighty dollar. we do get state assistance and it does help A LOT. i feel that people also look down on us for being on "welfare". i say so what! atleast i'm raising my kids and paying my bills and i've paid taxes since i was 15 years old (now 33) why can't i get some of that money paid back to me? is it wrong to want to take care of MY kids?
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@1hopefulman (45114)
• Canada
28 Sep 08
I would say your children are your first priority. So take care of them and may they appreciate your love and self-sacrifice.
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@1hopefulman (45114)
• Canada
30 Sep 08
By the way I'm a grandfather (3 grandchildren, and 4 that belong to my stepchildren) with two children and two stepchildren. And I can tell you I don't regret a single minute for being there for my children. Though I was working during the day, the evenings and weekends was for the family. I loved putting my children to bed and making up bedtime stories. Oh the beautiful memories.
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@palonghorn (5479)
• United States
28 Sep 08
I was a stay at home mom for 24 years, til my youngest was 15. I thought it was important to be involved with their daily lives, and to be involved with their schools when they went to school. I was there cheering them on when they were in some type of competition, school, 4-H, etc. I was there when they got home from school to ask how their day went. It was important to me to not have a babysitter raise my daughters. Kudos to you for wanting to do that, it does take some compromise and budgeting to be able to live on one income, but we did it. We were also lucky enough that my ex-husband had a good job with insurance for the whole family.
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@camomom (7535)
• United States
29 Sep 08
you are lucky that he had benefits and good pay. these days with prices on everything rising and us not being married yet it's soooo hard. you have to have state assistance to survive without two incomes. we are still completely broke but we pay our bills and our kids will know the value of a dollar and know that they are loved.
@Lee_Rites (845)
• United States
28 Sep 08
I see absolutely nothing wrong with it. Good for you for wanting to be home with your kids. If it makes you feel any better, working mothers are also looked down on. Some people think they should be home with their kids. I have found that no matter what you do concerning your children, some one will have a problem with it.
Forget them. I think your kids will benefit greatly from you being home with them. There is no better way to giving your kids a good foundation to start life than having a stable home life growing up. I think you made a great decision regardless of how you are financing it. If you need state assistance, that is what it is there for.
@camomom (7535)
• United States
29 Sep 08
you're right i guess some people just aren't happy unless they are finding something wrong with everyone else. i felt like i was doing something wrong when i was working but, i don't look down on others for working. some people HAVE to work. Thank you for your honesty. i believe that that's why it's there also.
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@camomom (7535)
• United States
6 Oct 08
sounds like you found what works for you, that's great. you're welcome
@Lee_Rites (845)
• United States
6 Oct 08
I used to feel like I was doing something wrong by working too. I felt better that my kids were at least home with their dad but I still felt like I should have been with them. At least now I am home when they get home from school, go to work when they are going to bed, and usually make it home in time to see them in the morning before they go to school.
Thanks for br.
