When Breaking Up with your Boyfriend, are you going to return his gifts to you?

I do not think it is necessary to return all gifts which you have got from your boyfriend. Gifts are expression of happiness and good time you have spent together. One can exchnge gifts in happiness and when someone is breaking that was not a good time so their is no time for gifts.

If its happens I will not going to give it to him, he alrady gives it to me so what for... But if he really insist I will still not going to return it-hehe- instead of that I will give it to my friends or his friends... ( I will make his day miserable -hehe) -joke.

if he ask me to return the things that he gave to me, I wouldn't have the second thought on returning it back to me. but of course, I'll feel disappointed and mad about that. because he gave it to me, so that means, it was already mine! if he didn't ask me to return it, why the heck will I give it back to him?.. like what I've said, that's already mine!

I experienced such with my ex boyfriend. I broke up with him for couple of times and got back together again, maybe its out of pity I felt for him and because of the long years of our relationship. He's a good man and loved me so much though as time passes by, I was suffocated of too much love he showered upon me and maybe it was a LDR too. I just woke up one day realizing that i did not love him after all. So on the fifth time I broke up with him, I did not answer all his calls that i thought it was really over. Thats when he asked me to send bacl all his gifts and letters he gave to me except for the ring and earrings he gave. Funny because i did not think that his gifts cannot out together in one big box. I returned everything including the ring and earrings. I dont know what could be his reason of asking me to do so, but its best that way since i dont want to keep those too.

i have some gifts given by my ex's and they are stiil with me,i dont intend to give it back to them not unless they ask for it.but luckily no one dare to ask me :)

well,my case i never had such boyfriend asked me to return his gifts.i think few men did like that.he gave you gift at your sweet time.that was what he really wanted to give you.if you hurt him so baddly ,and the gifts is very expensive,i think he do that just want to make you mad.or feel you are not worth to keep that.maybe i will return to him ,but if he hurts me much,i won't.

If I get caught in such a situation, I will do like you only. I'll immediately return all the gifts of my g/f which she would have given to me (I'll not ask her to return my gifts). When she is hell bent upon breaking a relationship, there is no point in retaining her gifts. It would be better to forget her and her gifts. Because if a person is not inclined to show any compassion and affection towards me, then there is no fun in continuing the relationship. Good Post!

It should not be returned, because a gift is a given present. It's now yours, you are the owner of it now. It was given voluntary and came from the heart so it should not be returned. Haha! Have a nice day!

It is not something you have to do since they are gifts, but I did return my second husband's wedding rings, since they were his mothers. Otherwise, I don't think that I would have!! For the most part, I would NOT return gifts, but I have out of anger, more than anything else, and for the same reasons you have given. He wasn't worth it and I didn't want the things that he had given me as a reminder of the time I wasted with him. But not really, since any time is a learning experience and adds to the person that you are.

Well first of all, I have no intention of breaking up with my boyfriend. But hypothetically speaking...I think I'd keep them. I don't know why but I think it wouldn't matter to me that much. Things that I own, even though they were given by someone else, essentially become "my" things completely. But it's a totally different matter when I see my boyfriend with stuff that didn't come from me :D I get over protective and I over analyze :D Thanks for the response on my discussion!

HAHA! Why would i give it back? haha! If it's a jewelry I'm just gonna sell it to someone/pawnshop! HAHA

well....i've had just one girlfriend till now....and when i broke up from her and she asked her gifts back i just went to her house, called her outsite and broke it in front of her and threw it......and then i told her that she can do anything to those things that i gave to her coZ i dint care..... well this might seem very rude and insensitive to ou but the situation was such that i had to do it out of my frustration.....i cant discuss the situation here.....but otherwise i know i was justified in doing that

hi! just like you, i am married to my first and only boyfriend. i received lots of gifts from him and should have happened that we did not end up together, the only thing that i will return is the engagement ring. simply because the reason for him giving that to me is no longer valid. but all the other stuff like shirts (some are probably worn out by then), books and cutesy stuff, i'll just keep it in a box. then probably donate it eventually.

hehe if i break p with my GF, i wont give back her gifts or things, and i wont ask her back my gifts too.

i have had many break ups till date... but i was never asked to give back the things that my boyfriend had given to me ...... but the recent guy i had broken up with had my paintings...... and that break up was a huge break up with both of us cursing each other and using foul language for a reason which i dont remember.... but then i realised that i needed my paintings back from him and when i asked him to give them back first thing he said was that i would have to go myself to his place and take them which was not going to be possible..... then he cooled down a bit and told me that he dint want to meet up with me and he would return the paintings through my cousin..... when my cousin finaly got back home with the packet..... we realised that he had torn all my paintings except a few which he knew were very important to me.... and gave the torn paintings to me..... after that i never called or took his calls...... i hadnt done anything that bad to deserve that so i wonder what really happened to him and i am sure he got back the same hard way as he did to me/.....

I recently went through a break-up, after being together for 4 years. In those 4 years, we have both given each other expensive gifts, but we did both see that the same way. Neither one of us would have asked for any gifts back. When I gave it to him.....it's his from that point on, and the same for gifts to me from him. Besides, he would have had a major fight on his hands trying to take back the DSLR Nikon D40 he gave me over a year ago!! lol

One exboyfriend I had gave me back EVERYTHING I gave to him. It was really sad, we were together for almost two years. So I wanted to cry when he gave it all back to me. Another exboyfriend asked for all his things back, but I didn't give it back to him for a few months because I wasn't over him. I think I'd be the same way if I didn't want to be with someone anymore. I'd ask for my things back and give them back their things. It helps with closure not having any of their things to remind you of them.

hi, good friend I experienced this last year. I stayed with him for more than 2 years, but finnally we broken up, I tidied all his things of him up, just letting him be away of my room. You see, he never send me gifts (life flowers, chocolate, clothes...)except a common notebook. You see, He never pay rent money for me, but he lived with me, also spent my money, and finnally, he must take the notebook away, but I must use it for working, I told him not to take it away, I gave him money, but he rejected, I am so angry with him. I show all myself to him, but he gave nothing. Anyway, It doesn't matter, you see, I see clearly about him. So bad as a guy!

it depends on the gift if its smthing i did not like then ill create a scene and throw it at her face.........

i won't give back his gifts to me. i must see the reality, and keep positive thinking. the gifts that he give to me are memories. something that really happen in your life, and you won't get out of the way. i'll keep that gift in a locked place. and if someday i open it, i just smiling and remembering what happened with me and this stuffs. i won't cry again when i see these stuffs.