Your partner go to weekly lunches with a friend he once was in love with

@gtdonna (1738)
September 28, 2008 8:13pm CST
How would you feel if EVERY week your partner have lunches with a friend that he has admitted to you he was deeply in love with and even at one time consider a relationship with? Would you feel comfortable about these lunch dates even though he tells you about them and when it will happen? Would you say anything because he don't even make lunch dates with you, but figure since he eats breakfast and dinner with you, thats is more than enough? What would you do in such a situation?
5 responses
shankari_prabhu
@shankari_prabhu (321)
• India
29 Sep 08
I would ask him how it would feel if I did the same thing..? If he says he would not mind...then something is seriously wrong with our relationship...I would try to talk it out with him...But if he still thinks lunch date every week is harmales...then we are not made for each other....cos.....friends no matter how close dont date week ....so it should be more than friendship.......
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gtdonna
@gtdonna (1738)
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17 Nov 08
Well said, when I bring it up he said he is a man and have no feelings for her, but if I shoudl do the same maybe the man have feelings for me. I had to remind him he is a man too and may still ahve feelings for this girl hence the lunches
shankari_prabhu
@shankari_prabhu (321)
• India
18 Nov 08
Thanks for choosing mine as the best response dear! Hope things are fine between u guys!Do keep me posted.
luntian_grace
@luntian_grace (1373)
• Philippines
29 Sep 08
that's a little uncomfy at my side. he's dating someone he has a past with. but then again i should not get ahead of my self. i need to trust him for i love him.
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gtdonna
@gtdonna (1738)
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17 Nov 08
Thats a good way of putting it, but then again one can't help but feel a but uncomfortable with the situation
luntian_grace
@luntian_grace (1373)
• Philippines
20 Nov 08
don't worry i think that he is in love with you. he wouldn't want to be clean if he is having something under your nose. and the thing is you have the leverage in this situation because you are his present love. not the past one.
nik00lai
@nik00lai (195)
• Philippines
29 Sep 08
That's a hard one. I think, I have to meet that friend first. And ask you partner what it's all about? Is it really just friendship or is it something else. Trust is the what makes relationships stronger.
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gtdonna
@gtdonna (1738)
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17 Nov 08
I have met the friend, while we laugh and smile I just don't too like the lunch thing WEEKLY
eiram25
@eiram25 (1076)
• Philippines
29 Sep 08
geez,that's hard and i don't want to be in that situation. but if i were to put myself in the situation,i would probably ask him what's the reason behind these lunch dates.as a girl,i need emotional assurance so i'd also ask him if there's something going on between them.then i'd be the one to judge depending on what kind of answer he will give me. happy mylotting!
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gtdonna
@gtdonna (1738)
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17 Nov 08
He says nothign is going on and that he is just having lunch...we are slowly drifting apart, so guess it is for the best
workinggurl
@workinggurl (399)
• Philippines
20 Nov 08
I have to be honest, I am a jealous type so I won't allow my husband to have lunch with a "friend" (as what you have described) even just one time. It's okay if it's a group lunch but if it's the two of them only...no way jose!