What Is A Mid-Life Crises?
By singout
@singout (980)
United States
September 28, 2008 8:58pm CST
I've heard about it, but I'm not sure what it is. Does it just effect men, or women, or both? How do you know when you're in one? Around what age does it occur? Can you prevent it? What are the symptoms? I'm in my middle years now and I would like to avoid it if at all possible. I'm wondering if it's nothing more than a myth.
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@mentalward (14690)
• United States
29 Sep 08
I think it's anything that has to do with some kind of dissatisfaction in your life once you're middle-aged. That's about the time that most people, especially men, take a hard look at their lives to see where they stand, what they've accomplished or not accomplished. It's when you feel like you aren't where you wanted to be at the age you are at present. Something is missing.
It doesn't really have a set 'time' to happen, just when people are sitting themselves down and reevaulating their lives. This usually takes place somewhere in 'mid-life'.
It also has to do with growing older for some people. I've heard that phrase associated with men who kinda go nuts and buy expensive things for themselves, like boats, new expensive cars, hair treatments, new wardrobe, etc. They want to feel young again instead of accepting growing older. Some men start to have a wandering eye, and it's usually at much younger women that their eyes wander to. They want their youth back and will try anything at all to try to get it. Of course, we all know those things don't work... only the Fountain of Youth or a full-body transplant will make us young again, and they don't exist... yet.
Sometimes it's just plain boredom. They need more in their lives, like a hobby or exercise plan, stuff like that.
You know, now that I think about it, I've never really heard that phrase associated with women at all. Maybe it IS just a guy thing.
@singout (980)
• United States
1 Oct 08
Hi mentalward. I'm sorry to be so late with this comment, but lately I honestly haven't had time. I always like to answer my responses especially when my good friends participate.
The only symptom I'm experiencing is that of boredom. I'm finding it more difficult to find something to do (actually want to do)when I have free time. As far as the wandering eye is concerned: I've always had an appreciation of beauty but I don't think it goes any further than that. The last time I checked, I am still a man. My wife even directs my vision to some good examples thereof. Thanks for your response.
@cjfoust (614)
• United States
29 Sep 08
I'm still pretty far away from a mid-life crisis but I can tell you what I've heard and seen. I think it can happen to men and women, if you let it happen to you. I think they reach a point in there life where they feel like this is it, why not live a little. It is said that the person will go out and buy expensive cars, leave their significant others for a younger, hotter version, etc.
I believe I have witnessed a mid-life crisis. It was a man and it was in his late 30's. He actually did the things listed above. I've since left there and don't know how it worked out for him, but it was crazy.
I would just say stay happy. Don't let things get you down and remember it is about who you are, not what you have!
@singout (980)
• United States
29 Sep 08
Thank you for sharing your observations with me. It will indeed be a help to me in this critical time of my life. If I enter a MLC I'll be in trouble because I've already gotten everything I wanted and can afford. I hope it doesn't mean I will start wanting and buying things I can't afford.