Help!!! Why does "daddy time" stress me out?

Every day that my husband is off work he lets me sleep in... it does not bother me at all, whatever he decides to do because I trust him with our kids nomatter if he wants to sit and watch tv have them sit with him while he plays x box 360 or whatever he chooses to do. When i am up with my kids and husband that seems to be the time that he wants all of us to go do something. I appreciate that! He allows me to get my sleep and take my time to get dressed or whatever else I wat to do. I trust that if something were to happen to me and I were not here that their daddy could and would take care of them.

My Hubby and I have different approaches when it comes to taking care of the kids. He likes to plop the kids in front of the TV and I am a hands on kind of parent. It was bugging me at first but now I just take what I can get. Once in a while isnt all that bad for some down time.

That was my husband years ago. I would have one morning that he would get the kids up and I could sleep in. He always put them in front of the tv! Then I told him that they could watch 1 hour of tv in the morning and after that he had to do something different with them. Just this past weekend he had my daughter while I was away and he took her to the playground, brought her and a friend to McDonalds to play and even cleaned the house! NOW he gets it...sometimes it just takes alot of us suggesting what shoud be done.

After having 4 kids and being married twice I have learned a few things. Moms and dads are different and sometimes you just have to let things go. I have been married to my husband for 10 1/2 yrs and we have a 5 and 3 yr old. I tell myself they are safe, they are clean and they are happy. So what if he didn't brush their teeth one morning or if they had cookies for lunch. Once in awhile is not going to hurt them. And the funny thing is my kids will probably look back years from now and remember the fun times they had with dad because he let things go once in awhile. Try to relax. If your husband does things differently then you do its ok. I'm sure your husband is doing the best he can - it sounds like he loves you both to even give you the opportunity for some time for yourself.

I have this friend who had the same issue. One day, they had a domestic violence in their home. My friend called 911. Police came, apprehended the husband. The husband stayed in jail for two days. (am not sure what happened now if the husband got convicted or the case is still on going) My friend had a full time job with twins on her hand. She realized how the daddy of her twins treated them. Even if the father was there and my friend was at work, the twin's baby sitter is the television. Cherios and other kind of cereal was all over the floor and the twins will just pick up and put it directly to their mouth. Sad huh? Is it the fault of the father? Yes because HE didn't do his duties as a father. HE was lazy. You're husband probably has not embraced the word "RESPONSIBILITY". He better grow up soon or he'll pay a price not like what happened to my friend's husband but he'll be in a really rude awakening in terms of parenting.

Maybe he doesn't realize all the things he could be doing with your son. I think you're lucky to have that one day a week to sleep in though! Be thankful for that. Maybe you could set out his clothes, medicine and breakfast the night before so your husband can take care of those things for you also. Most mom's have a certain routine or way of caring for their kids and since we do it everyday and the dad's don't they don't really have a routine set for it. Maybe you could write a little list to help him, everything in order. Or just be happy that he loves you enough to let you sleep in and have daddy time with your child.

Why don't you talk to your husband. That is the easiest way to resolve it. Honestly, though sounds like you two just have different ways of parenting and he may not even realize what he does bothers you. I would enjoy your time off!