Would you date someone who has a kid?

i really don't consider any child as excess baggage. children are wonderful.

I fit in this discussion because I felt in love with someone that has a kid. I have honestly became the father to her daughter because her dad dosent give her anything and has never even bother to be there for her. Now I meet her and have raised her baby ever since she was about 9 or 10 months old. I have gotten real attach to her daughter I consider myself the father. So to answer your question the answer is yes I would give my heart out to someone with excess baggage because I already did it. I think if you love a person you will love that person no matter the reason even if they have a kid that its not yours. I think that this experience made me a better person because I see things a lot differently nowadays just because of this experience that happen to me. I love my girl and I just recently asked her to marry me so she will end up becoming my wife because she said yes to my question.

I would date a man who had a kid, as long as he treated his kids right. I have a son and almost lost him in child birth, and that freaked me out and now I hope to meet a man one day that has a kid so that my son would always have a playmate in our home. Since I am single that is I can look. I got divorced last year because my husband left me and my son. I found out why months later and it was such a childish reason. I hope one day to meet a guy who's a daddy and good be mine and my son's best friend. I haven't had a best friend guy in along time. being best friends before dating is the success to a happy marriage. I haven't experienced that but I know friends of mine who have. I want a happy lasting marriage. All I do is rush things cause he's hot or something and then we date and marry.

Yes i would. I actually dated a guy that had custody of his son. I love children so its so not a problem for me.

It's okay, but in one condition, hid wife or her husband is already passed away, to avoid problems with your relationship ...

I am not so sure, but I have kids and I know how naughty they can be at times, so I guess if it is older, I would not maybe if it is still a baby and I would be the raising it.

That's a hard question. Part of me says yes because I love kids and I know that I would be fun to have other kids to play with but I don't think I could deal with the ex. I don't like the idea of the Mom always being there in the relationship and in the picture. After all she is the mother and always will be a part of the kids life. I know as a mom that I would want to know who my kids are interacting with and what kind of person she is so I totally understand but I don't want to deal with it. I've done it and it wasn't pretty.

well,i don't care if my potential bf has a kid.. co'z i love kids.. and if i really that person i will accept even his kid.. and accept the kid as my own

If I was looking for someone this would not bother me in the least and if I was looking for something they would be taking on a load with me as I have five chidren lol . I love children and would never consider a child as excess baggage . If I truely loved someone and they had children , the children would be an extension of the person I loved so there would be no way that I could not love them as well .

i left my husband and tagged my kids along. i have four. when we left the youngest was just 6 years old so i really dont date. i dont date for i dont like my date will get turned off because i have a lot of kids. (though it is not fair to call them excess bagage). but i will date someone who has kids for it is just a date. now we'll have to cross the bridge if ever we will fall inlove or something. now my children are all teens already it is much easier to date. for it is easy to explain to them and they are more open minded on having a relationship already

Im not in a thta situation but I think it is up to the indiviudal to decide whether or not that is something that they want in their life. I think that the situation takes alot of soul searching.

Wow what a great question! I think if I'm truely meant to be with someone and I love them and know they feel the same way then him having a kid does not make any bit of difference. I would welcome his child into my life as if they were my own and treat them as such. I think it is very selfish of people to say they would not date someone or get together with them long term if they already had a child. I am glad you are not one of those people.

I married a lady 43 years ago that had a 4 year old daughter. If you love the lady enough to marry her then loving the child is the easy part. The child made us a more complete family. If you love your wife you certainly won't see her kid(s) as excess baggage. My wife and I lived together for almost 40 years and wound up adopting our grand daughter and raising her. The way I see it kids are what makes a married couple into a family.

I guess I would. If I feel that I love her, I would accept everything about her. These things about her could be talked about between me and her; making few adjustment with our relationship.

I did. i married my husband and he already had three children. I already had one daughter also. There was alot of conflict at first but it all worked out in the long run on my end but his kids stopped coming around because they never gave us a chance.

My girlfriend is a single mom but I don't care I love her so much for what she is. I admired her strong will, how she takes care of the chilren, and how she takes care of me. Her chilren are very close to me. They tell me the pains, and the hurts of thier mother even the sacrifices she made for them and how they love to see their mom happy, and seeing her smile again. I wanna wipe that tears away, by spending my life with her. They call me Tito and I am very happy they accepted me. The 2 eldest are both working in a call center for years now and me and my gf is very proud of them how they carry their life with, the two youngest are always top 10 in class it's how they see their mother approach in life. Now it's not only 4 who is hugging her tight, now were 5 who is appeasing all the pains she had in her life. That's how deep I love her so much and willing to face life with her, and share my life with her. Good night!

Yup.. I dun see any reason as to why i should not date them.. Nobody wants to bring up or have a kid with them, alone, if they have a choice.. SO why should we look at them differently?? Though there might be some financial burden and to have a kid whom is not really ours, but who cares?? Love is great and love conquers everything.. haha WHen in such situations, the one whom suffers is not the one who decides to date, but rather is the kid.. Because they have to call another person daddy, or they might be even more puzzled as to why they have 2 fathers.. SO no matter what the decision by the adults, always consider the thinkings and feelings of the innocent naive kids..

I would do the same thing you do even though they have an excess baggage or a kid that you called as long as the person is responsible enough to take good care of the child and for my time as well....

I had a girlfriend before and she's a singlemom. I really can't tell the difference yet or if will it affect the relationship. I was immature then at 22 and i'm 28 now so it's quite easier for me to handle a relationship with a single mom. I even worry more about how her kids will accept me.

ill do the same thing!!i dont care about past, what i care most is the present and that would be us, and one more thing is i love children even if its not mine, and him having a son i can test how responsible he could be, happy mylotting!!!