Betray ........Or.......What / myLot

India

September 28, 2008 10:22pm CST

Hey A very Old Friend Whom I Meet Rarely called/rang me and said he is not feeling well and want me to visit to doctor along with him. I though ohhh he is in need so I should go to help him .... I went to doctor with him ....on his car .... He has high BP problem ...... But I was shocked instead of returning home he took me to Beer Bar ...he very well know that I dont drink and I dont want to visist such places ...... I thought he seeked my help in illness and took me to bar later which I dont like ....and tried to convince me to drink even......I was shocked and hurted ..... Is helping someone is so dangerous today ....today he took me to bar tommorrow what he hd plans for me ...... I felt hurted and shocked ....I told him that he has not done right things ........and asked him to stop such activities ........ Please suggest what to do with such friends and situations ....... Thanks Ganesh

6 responses

arthi_88

@arthi_88 (1516)

• India

29 Sep 08

What you did was the correct thing to do.Helping a friend in need is must.As long As frien with bad habits are concerned if you stand strongly on your point of view and if he is really your true friend then he must understand what you said him.If even after your refusal he forces you to attend a bar then you should simply avoid him.Every friend should respect each others choices in life.

@Ganesh44 (5547)

• India

29 Sep 08

that he did wrong thing last time and I am not free anymore .........but it is strange that where the world is moving ......... Thanks for your response and such a nice information... Happy Mylotting Take Care Ganesh

Ganesh44

@Ganesh44 (5547)

• India

29 Sep 08

I have to be strong next time ...... whenever he would call me I would tell him that he did wrong thing last time and I am not free anymore .........but it is strange that where the world is moving ......... Thanks for your response and such a nice information... Happy Mylotting Take Care Ganesh

SachseMom

@SachseMom (448)

• United States

29 Sep 08

You may not like my answer but you may have to just cut your friend out of your life. I had a friend like that that only called me when she needed something or wanted to go out to the bar and she used me as her excuse to her husband which I never knew until he left her. He hated me all that time and I never knew why, Now I know that when she felt like going out she told her husband that I was fighting with my boyfriend and needed a friend and she would find a guy and cheat on her husband. I kept telling her no don't do this to your family but she didn't care!! I finally said enough is enough and I haven't talked to her in 7 yrs and don't miss all the drama. Wish you the best in whatever you decide

@Ganesh44 (5547)

• India

29 Sep 08

Ganesh44

@Ganesh44 (5547)

• India

29 Sep 08

tamarafireheart

@tamarafireheart (15384)

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29 Sep 08

Hi Ganesh44, That was an excuse to take you to the bar when he asked you to go to the doctors with him, if you are not comfortable about it don't go with him any more and tell him so. You were kind anough to help him but don't trust him again, knowing you don't like places like and taking you there, he is up to no good, just stay away from this person. Tamara

Ganesh44

@Ganesh44 (5547)

• India

1 Oct 08

Yes I was shocked rather ....and surprised even where he drvove me to on the name of doctor....!!!yes nice advise I will take care next time and would not go with him.... Thanks for your response and such a nice information... Happy Mylotting Take Care Ganesh

Munchkin547

@Munchkin547 (2778)

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29 Sep 08

Your friend should really respect your feelings about bars and drinking, particularly if you were trying to do him a favour, apart from that, should he really be drinking if he has a problem with high blood pressure?!? I think you need to tell your friend that you are upset by what he has done and explain why, perhaps he just had not realised that it would make you feel that way, but if he is not willing to respect your feelings then maybe he is someone that you shouldn't spend the time with! xxx

Ganesh44

@Ganesh44 (5547)

• India

1 Oct 08

Yes I told him that why he took me there .....he was busy eating mouth freshners so that his wife may not know that he had drunk ... He replied to me " Ohh I know you must be abusing me from inside ....but dear this is the right way you should live ....and start drinking it helps " I was thinking I m trapped with typical personality .....once he ,left I took sigh and thanks GOD ..... I was upset for the next day also ..... Next time his phone will came I will tell him I am out of station ...on roaming .... Thanks for your response and such a nice information... Happy Mylotting Take Care Ganesh

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ja_gwen

@ja_gwen (55)

• Philippines

29 Sep 08

You should be too naive on what your friends are showing you. Some ma be true but most of them are just pretenders..So you better be careful. You may go with them, but you should have control over yourself. Never do whatever they asked you, you can join them but not be like them. Be wise on choosing your friends. If they are truly your friend, they will respect whatever decisions you have and they will not bring you to bad things.

Ganesh44

@Ganesh44 (5547)

• India

1 Oct 08

I sat with him for 40 minutes ...but I could not breath properly.....I was thinking is it right to help anyone these days... Yes I will definetly ensure and practice better control on myself and wouldnot go with him anymore .... Thanks for your response and such a nice information... Happy Mylotting Take Care Ganesh

asselg1984

@asselg1984 (375)

• Philippines

29 Sep 08

if he is really your friend, he should have had respected you in the first place. did he force you to drink? well even if he did not but the point is you do not want to go in there, and just like you, i will be hurt too. tell him to stop bringing you to the bar or else you will not accompany him anymore and if he still keeps on doing in, you better cut that friendship you have with him because being a real friend means respecting others.

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Ganesh44

@Ganesh44 (5547)

• India

29 Sep 08