my boyfriend try KILL himself...
@iceberry_kaye (199)
Philippines
September 28, 2008 11:45pm CST
my boyfriend attempt suicide when he found out that i'm still comunicating with my x boyfriend that he definetly knew that i love that man so much!! what would i do I he dont want me let go of him! but I wanted to because he was so weird nowadays. and I dont want to blame myself if there would something happends to him!!! would it be my fault..!
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@teclive (247)
• Canada
29 Sep 08
my comment may seem a little cold, and some people may think 'oh my god, what a b**ch' however, I am speaking from my own experience.
If i were you, i would be getting out now, the longer you stay the worse it may become. He obviously has other demons he needs to deal with within himself.
I can understand how some women may think, 'he loves me so much, he cant live without me'..well, this normally turns into something like 'if i cant have you, nobody will have you' thus leading to some seriously bad juju.
People such as your bf may end up becoming obsessed..and this is not a good thing my friend, this can lead to people being seriously hurt..or worse.
I went through this, twice..oh what a pleasure it was (not really)
the first time..well, i stayed with him. I cut ties to my friends and devoted myself to my bf at the time. Things only got worse..christ, i couldnt walk to the store without him peaking around the corner to make sure i wasnt doing something i shouldnt be (which i never was). He would follow me everywhere, tell me he couldnt live without me, blah blah yadda yadda..then, it just got crazy from there.
The second person tried to slit his wrists..i went to the hospital, gave him a kiss on the forehead and told him i wished him well with his recovery, and i never looked back.
The cold truth of life is, we are born alone, and we die alone..nobody comes into the world with us and nobody is lying with us when we die..we need to watch our backs and look out for ourselves.
Use your gut feeling..the heart isnt always right unfortunately.
Sorry my comment is so long..
@iceberry_kaye (199)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
yes, i think we have same situation.. he became so wierd that he dont want me to go anywere and if i went home late even if just one our because of traffic. he freaked out already..! we end up fighting.. I realy dont know what to do my other friend told me i should not leave him beacause i could be blame if there woul something wrong happend to him. but how about my happienes?
@teclive (247)
• Canada
30 Sep 08
I hear ya iceB...
I couldnt believe some of the crap i went through..i took a cab home from work one time and he accused me of sleeping with the cab driver.
When i went to work during the day, he would go to my nannies, wehre my son would stay for hte day and start asking him a whole bunch of questions about me, my son was only 6 at the time and HE was not the father.
Obsession is not a cute thing, its dangerous.
Its too bad that things did not work out with you and the one you previously were with, for this i am sorry. However..all that put aside, you have an important decision to make, and, in making this decision, you need to make yourself #1.
I can understand that you may find it hard to walk out on him, you are afraid you will be blamed if anything happens to him. But, at the end all, it would not be your fault.
If he is not a strong enough man now, to be rational and mature..then, honestly..is this someone you want to stay with anyways?
I am sorry if this all sounds cold and cruel, however...i just dont see any reason or any benefit of you staying with him. All of this can only lead to trouble.
In most cases, gents/women who are this way, wont normally go for councilling. Its a sign of weakness, and men like that dont like the thought of outsiders being part of their relationship or having any kind of influence.
The feeling of losing or not having full control is where this all starts in a way..
hope this makes sense :)
@iceberry_kaye (199)
• Philippines
31 Oct 08
yeahh your right.. and i'am trying to fixed everything.. I'am really so stupid.. I dont even understand myself why I did it.Thanks for the comment..You made me think of my stupid faults.
@iceberry_kaye (199)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
yes i know i was wrong! it's like i was to supposed to forget my ex because i found a new one who i think is much more good to be with and i thought i could love him for the rest of my life. but as days past he changed and it seems that i dont knew him anymore he is so strict. and i'm not happy anymore.. especialy when i saw my ex when he was addmited in the hospital. that's when i realize that i could never get over him.
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
8 Oct 08
okay this is nuts...you wrote this a week ago but more recently you started a thread about sleeping with both of them and them not knowing...so how much do you really give a crap about either of htem?? Thats cruel b.s IMO
@zatak07 (699)
• India
9 Oct 08
you are also partly responsible for it, it's not wrong to communicate to your x-bf but you've to be cautious, it seems you like to travel the two different part at the same time , if you are committed to your new fiance then be committed to him completely, don't ever look back... dude is it too harsh on my part ...lol...well just my opinion :-)
@adriantys78 (949)
• Malaysia
29 Sep 08
With that situation, if the situation is not settle properly, the worst case might happened. Suggestion to him is to meet counselor in order to feel better. Hope this help in certain extent. =)
