Son/daughter

I find it with the easier with the younger children because I can put them in time out . What we usually do is count to three and they know that by the count of three there will be consequences because I have always felt that in life there are consequences to your actions so by giving your child the chance to do what is asked you are giving them the ability to make their own choices and live with the consequences . They know that on three they will either have to sit on a chair , lose a privlige or not get any treats . With teenagers it is much harder because they are more determined to get there way and will lie to get out of being in trouble . The only thing we are able to do is talk to them and if they do not listen then take away privileges from them . But this does not always work and then you are left with a child who is not listneing but what else can you really do when they are older and feel they know more then we do . When you do all that you can to try and teach them the right way but they still refuse to listen to you . Sometimes it helps if you have someone else talk to them because children will listen more to what someone else has to say then the parents when they believe they are right about something .

Well, when my daughter doesn't listen at first i'll scold her and explain to her what she did wrong. Then if she does it again I will her put her in time out. But, if she keeps on doing it I spank her. Happy Mylotting!!!!

No, i don't hit them nor scold them. I just talk to them, i try very hard to make them understand what i want them to do and why i want it that way. I try to get their attention and talk to them heart to heart. It is so hard to keep up with the youth of our times now. But they, are intelligent youth, don't ever think that they won't understand what you think or what you believe, just give them the chance and they will. Give them the freedom that they want but on a limited basis. Come into an understanding or compromise with them. That they can not always have or do what they want without giving back anything, Involve them with family matters especially ones that involves them, so they won't have to say that you are controlling them. That is what i did and still do with my girls and so far, we are all happy with what we have agreed upon.Good luck my friend!