Pinays, What Can You Say About Marrying A Foreigner?

Hello there, I think many Filipinas want to marry foreigners for the citizenship. Instead of working as an OFW abroad you just marry someone who lives there and you'll automatically be able to leave the Philippines. Regarding the eating scenario, it's very typical to see this even in the malls and the groceries. I think it's a fair enough exchange. Most foreign men are wealthier than us anyway so why shouldn't they pay for the expenses? In return, the Filipina will have to be a good wife. :)

If the reason if for convenience or for personal gain, it is not fine for me. If it calls for love, then, I agree.

Well, obviously there are only two reasons why they want to marry a foreigner, the first is it maybe they love that person and the second one is because of money or good life that they can get.. We all know that our country is very poor so anything or everything people can do just to survive from being a poor.. They though kasi if they will marry a foreigner then they can have a good life since their money is bigger than us here in the Philippines.. Well, I know that they were just thinking what's the best for their family because they just want to help and hoping for successful life but sometimes they were not thinking what other country's will think about girls here in the Philippines.. I have a friend who was molested through words from foreigners since that guy though that all Filipinas can easily get if they will just give a certain amount of dollars.. Of course, my friend was hurt because of what happen.. It is not a good credibility for others especially for our country.. I know that it is impossible to stop this kind of situations but I'm hoping that someday they will be able to think the right thing not only for their selves but to our country..

fiesta nga! he he I just can't help but laugh, yes I do sometimes notice it, but some pinay really marries for money, I think it is very practical to just marry a wealthy foreigner, I really don't mind, but yeah can't help but think most of the times. but you know what? foreigners love Filipinas, why? because we are very good on house keeping and we are very caring, this is just a joke so don't take it seriously (specially pinay who have foreign hubbys) they say that forigners marry pinay because you only have a wife, you also got a house keeper. no offense

I think it is unfair to make a husband pay for bills and i dont believe that because the husband can afford to pay it is fine to take almost every family members to eat. If you truly love your husband you would also take into consideration his feelings. It is not fair to take all my relatives out and let my hubby pay for it. If i need to treat my family i will personally pay for it. It is degrading in my own personal view that i let my hubby pay for all the expenses.Personally i married my hubby not for citizenship, Im a medical practioneer and it is easy for me to work abroad. I have relatives who work in the US without marrying a foreigner. And never did i take advantage on my husband. I am working and i can pay my own bills and buy the things that i want without relying on my husband. I just feel sad though that most people think filipinas marry there husband for citizenship. I cant blame them too since i personally witnessed how some filipina abuse the kindness of there husband and let them pay almost everything they spend.

Not all Pinays are like that. My aunt married a foreigner and they are happily living here in Manila. Both of them doesn't want to go to the US and live there. Both of them are happy here in the Philippines. Her husband now is very well adjusted here in the Philippines already. About the eating scenario, we do, at times, get together and eat out. We're only usually a big group during celebrations whether it be their anniversary or birthdays and that's when they pick up the tab. Otherwise, it's not their tab to pay. Give them the benefit of the doubt... it might be their anniversary or there might be something to celebrate about.

It is because it was a family dinner, maybe. Who knows. There are different reasons why Filipina wants to marry foreigner. First, they want to be in other country. Second, they thought foreigner is the answer for them to have a better life in terms financial. Third, they want to have the cutest kids. Lastly, because it was really destined for them. I am married to a foreigner but before that happened, we encountered lot of problems just to get where we are now. I wasn't really dreaming to be married to a foreigner and live in other country. But, this might really be my destiny. We are both happy being together after 3 years of waiting just to be together again. It was lot of work for us, but we succeeded it is because we truly love each other.

I always see this scenario around my workplace. I work near makati ave, and u know what I mean. Some women are after the money, citizenship and so on. But I feel proud of those women who really got attached to foreigners and loved them so much. I wish that would happen to me too., lol. You got it, I want to marry a foreigner coz I want to have beautiful kids. But it's not really a big deal. I guess, us Filipinos should not judge people easily. Everything is possible in love, and I guess, foreigners are not dumb to know whether they are fooled for nothing. unless they are, but we could still be proud of Filipinas who are really good at housekeeping so most foreigners love us. [im talking about the good side of it not of being a slave.] Westerns when mixed with Asians especially Filipina,. expect beautiful offsprings!

Well, I think it's actually OK for a Filipina to marry a foreigner as long as it's out of love and not just for the money. I see the scenario you are talking about a lot here. It seems that the Filipina you saw is just using the Japanese man. But then again, it could be that they are celebrating something or she's introducing her family and relatives to the Japanese man.

for me marrying a foreigner is doesnt mean to be a citizenship in their place and go somewhere. its the love that you feel and of course if u think that you have a good future to him why not right? but u know lets face it they are wealthier than us and some of them are really generous so that they please the family of Filipina. its ok to treat all your family but only once not everyday.

yaa i can understand ur soul feeling about ur region girls.. but one thing i can suggest u ..before doing something may be marriage or some event or what ever it may .....think twice and act .....once u commited doing never bother of others what they think or do????? so u cant stop them just saying them .right?? so bring this to notice of ur frnds and make a dicussion and try to think solution...........byee

For me, there's nothing wrong if a filpina marries a foreigner as long as the intention is good or shall i say you don't have a plan to hurt someone in the future. Most Americans marry filipina because for them filipinas are good wife aside from they find filipinas attractive. I married a foreigner too. We just recently married. He is from Florida and I love him so much. He is very nice and he pampered meall the time.

Hi godiane. I happened to be engaged to foreigner.. want to post my opinion about it.. yeah, many filipinas are marrying foreigners, not only in alabang.. i think most of them is from visayas region.. whenever we eat out, i didnt bring my family with me.. nakakahiya to him.. althought we went to baguio with my family, its his will to be with us.. instead of eating out with my family.. we had dinner setting with my family in our house.. not that mahal.. and he had a chance to bond with them..

I know it's none of our business, but one thing I noticed is that the numbers of Filipinas, especially in the Visayan Region, marrying foreigners are growing by leaps and bounds. Some of these girls came from the barrio, didn't get formal education and they don't even know how to speak English, but they get by with a little help from their friends or allies. I made some research on the internet and I read some stories of Pinays who are married to Americans and after they get their green card, they leave their husbands. Poor guys. Pinays who came to the United States on fiancee visas, BUT end up marrying other guys. Whatever their reasons for ending up with another guy? Only God knows. Oh well, there will always be Pinays who are evils, scammers and gold diggers in this world. Welcome to the real world! These women are evil. They are selfish and they will do anything to get to the United States and eventually get a green card. And then they can brag about their successes to their families and friends back in the Philippines. Blame it on the internet. The internet paved the way for these interracial marriages with the free messaging system. Anybody can have access to it including these Pinays who are preying on these gullible foreigners. They can always create a different identity far from the real one I guess. Who knows? I know of a girl from Iloilo who met this guy on the internet. They fell in love, the girl came here on a fiancee visa. What happened was the relationship was doomed from the start. The guy changed his mind about marrying her. But the girl stayed before her visa expired. She started looking for another guy to marry and she found one. They got married before she went back to the Philippines so the guy can file for a spousal visa for her. And then she made it back to the United States. One thing I can say is that, wow! She's a fast worker and a multitasker. She really wanted that green card. I hope they will live happily ever after.

As I see, a foreigner is a human being too !

I think it depends on the person's personality and attitude. All of us wanted to have a good living. It just we're having different ways to achieve it. I believe those filipinas who marry foreigners because of wealth, citizenship or whatever..later on they will learn to love, filipinas are lovable and even they dont love the foreigner at first, they are giving their best to take car of them and play their role as wife/husband..then develope family with LOVE...

Girl, that's totally filipino style and i'm sure if the man is really interested with the girl he should accept it but if he can't he should tell his gf in a proper way...and for us pinays pls pls don't underestimate or overestimate our bf's to be rich ...i think it's time to stop being a stereotype... i am engaged with an american...i love him, he loves me..we shared with the expenses..and we talk about things not thinking we are different from each other because of the color of skin...i make sure i don't keep stuff from him to destroy his trust and i made sure the communication is good with regards to my filipino values, both negative and positive...i think this is the right thing to do! we shouldn't keep them uninformed and misunderstood about our nature... because if they love us they would accept us...including our backgrounds...beside there's no point of not informing them stuff they don't understand...we'll be spending the rest of our life with them...so we better open the channel before we live a messy life...:-)

Most multinational relationship (genuine ones) happens if someone goes abroad to study or work. I've got 3 chinese friends (from china) who fell in love and now settles down here with their malaysian husband. All of them are happy, one of them even has a baby girl! I don't see any problem marrying a foreigner as long as their relationship is a real one, not those puppy thingy

not easy at all.there would b a great difference in culture.

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