I hate my brother

@ucue2008 (924)
Malaysia
September 29, 2008 5:50am CST
I am feeling sad for him, but he kept hurting me. I never said no whenever he asked help from me, but he treated me like a crap. But I always thought of him, and always think of how to help him. Am I stupid. I want to cry and I always fight with him over simple and silly matters. He so stubborn and do not accept other people opinions. What should I do? I just fought with him over a simple matter and he always think he right. I hate him and we fought in front of our parents. what should I do?
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9 responses
@jshekhar (1562)
• India
25 Jul 09
I have had a similar problem and the first try should be to sit him down in front of your parents and then try and make him understand that he should listen to people. If he does not accept that and keeps on fighting for petty issues, you should just stop talking to him. sometimes silence is the best weapon.
@ucue2008 (924)
• Malaysia
26 Jul 09
Thank you for the response. Yes I do agree that silence can be a best weapon.
@lovenluck (1068)
• India
29 Sep 08
That's what it relationship is all about, you know he is wrong and you should be there to correct him. he is stubborn that's what you need to work on. Slowly try to make him understand his mistakes and then accept his faults. sooner all later he will realize it and that will be the rnd to al your problems
@ucue2008 (924)
• Malaysia
30 Sep 08
It's not the first time he has done it. I am afraid I do not have the patient to correct him. I want to ignore, but my heart tell me to be patient, but weirdly enough, my temper will rise immediately if i had an argument with him. Thank you for the reply.
@PRIYANK1992 (1677)
• India
19 Jul 09
No you should love your brother,because she is yours blood.
• Philippines
29 Sep 08
That's just sad, I'm an only child, I always wanted to have a brother or a sister but my Mom cannot have another baby anymore. I grew up, though happy with my parents' love, I am missing the fun and wonder of having a sibling. I hope you'll past this stage. They say all siblings go through this kind of stage but later on will realize the importance of each other and treating each other with love and respect. I always envy a big family but I have no regrets, I am happy with my parents. Still, I always wonder how life could have been with 1 or 2 siblings. Try ignoring your brother's immaturity for now, don't complicate the matters by fighting in front of your parents, show him how to act, I always believe that love begets love as respect begets respect... Good luck to you.
@ucue2008 (924)
• Malaysia
29 Sep 08
Thank you for your comment. I have three older brothers and the one that always hurt me is the oldest. I'm the only girl in my sibling and I also felt jealous with other who has many siblings, especially in the same gender. Yes, I agree that siblings do go through this kind of stages, but he is way older than me, so he should be more mature than me. It really make me frustrated. Just now my mom make me to apologized to him even though the one who should apology is him. I said that from this moment I will ignore him, and I will not bother about him anymore. I am bad for saying this, but I ahve enough of him.
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
19 Jul 09
things like this happen in the natural brotherhood and sister. I also had experienced things such as you. but since we do not stay the same house, because I have been married. us, a brother who help each other. we often feel nostalgic if not longer met.
@cassrufus (116)
• Philippines
27 Jul 09
hi, we have different ways in fighting with my brother we just ignoring each other and nothing care left for each other. we have same problem friend i want to help his child one day but how can i do that if we have bad relationship?
@jheLaichie (4438)
• Philippines
28 Jun 09
gosh! we are on the same shoes my friend! but by now, i am the one who tries to understand him because i know i am more good in understanding him. even if its hard but i went to the level of being humble and down my temper and pride for our parents sake and its better that way. but i always manage to put it in his mind that he cant just bully me around. jhelai
@meapas (2436)
• India
24 Jun 09
Our parents and siblings are by chance and not by choice. They are given to us by God. Accept it with love. Give them so much affection that even they will be proud of you and reciprocate in the same manner. It is our moral obligation to help our siblings, after all you are branches of the same tree. When you don't expect anything in return, you will be more happy. meapas.
@busky5 (3164)
• Thailand
16 Jul 09
I am sorry with you.Someday he will remember your good hoping.You don't hate him.