Are you jealous and possessive when comes to your love?

I feel being jealous in a relationship does not serve any purpose. On the other hand it makes one think negatively and becomes one becomes narrow minded. I try to be as liberal as possible. I know jealousy takes you nowhere. We have to accept others, as they are. We cannot change others, however, we can change ourselves so I try to change my own thinking, wherever required. Being too much possessive also does not help, in my view. I believe that the other partner should always be given some room to do things as per his/her liking. Good Post!

I wouldn't call myself jealous. I do give my husband his space. The only time it angers me is when he doesn't let me have mine when I need it. Though I do think it's important that partners need to spend time together in order for the relationship to work....I do not feel that it should be all the time. I do not feel that I am the only one that needs to have my husband's attention. I understand that he needs to give his time to his parents and friends too. And I've never stopped him from it. But when he does it by taking me for granted or not spending enough time with me (or our family), then that will upset me. I wouldn't call that jealousy or possessiveness.

I am not jealous for I know in my heart of hearts that nobody could could even dream of coming near me as far as she is concerned.

Hi dear i must admit and say that that i am possesive one, well u r right its easy to say that Learn to control but is that SO EASY i think mostly are??? Are u Not????????? Take care

I am guilty as charge. When it comes to my love one I really get jealous to every thing and I am so possessive that he can't breath from my love. And at times we even argue about it but I always win because he understands me and usually he is the one to back down and say sorry first. I am so hard headed and so stubborn even though I know it hurts him with me controlling our relationship. I am a green-eyed monster and I am proud of it.

I dont know how to rate myself. Normally when people get jealous is because other party did something to their love ones. Probably like hold someone hand, touch them, flirt with them etc. If no one does that, how can you be jealous? But i think as long as 2 people are together, they have to be tolerant of one another, allow some space with each other and learn to be understanding and trusting towards each other

I am not really into jealousy, never have been and some people assume that I don't love my husband as much as I could because I don't believe in being possessive. Well I was with my ex for 15 years and he was the overly jealous and possessive type - he never had reason to be, in his mind, he thought every man was after me haha which was ridiculous - they say beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I am a sociable person but all my male friends know that and the ones who've been in my life for years treat me like a sister. My husband now is not the jealous type either, if someone is paying me a compliment he takes it as such as says "yes my wife is beautiful" or "yes her dress is gorgeous" and he makes me feel on top of the world. Jealousy is extremely destructive and my ex used to make me feel small when he attacked people just for asking the time, as if he had some reason to doubt me - which he never ever did. So in a nutshell, jealousy is too damaging - you can't force someone to be with you and love you - if they do not respect you enough to be faithful and loyal to you and also trust you implicitly, they shouldn't be with you and you deserve better :)

I am not jealous or possessive and I really have little tolerance for it in return. As you pointed out, a little bit in small doses can be ok but all too often it is way overdone. I am an honest and faithful person and I have dated these types of men. I find it insulting to my integrity when they start questioning and accussing. It can also be embarrassing if they are public about it. Beyond that it is plain suffocating and a huge turn-off. It definitley does kill the romance pretty quick.

hahaha...I admit I am but I put it in a proper way.

yes i am jelousy type.and it kills me.

I take care of my man and I want he doing the same for me. We are both jealous of each other but in a good way. I think if you do not care and give space as you say means no love there.

I must admit that I had to overcome these unhealthy emotions (jealousy and possessiveness). I was an extremely jealous and possessive girlfriend during a previous relationship. Back then, I always had the excuse that we only had little time left together and I expected that Ex-boyfriend spent most of his free time (from school) with me. One time, I got so upset that Ex-boyfriend planned to go to a friend's party rather than spend my last few days in the country with me. We eventually talked things through but that was a good learning experience for me. I still was a little jealous and possessive the first year with Boyfriend. But as years went by, I've grown to trust him and have come to realize that he's not my-all. I've come to enjoy doing things on my own and don't fret whenever he does things with his friends. I've come to accept (in a good way) that couples do need time away from each other once in a while and just because Boyfriend may find a girl pretty does not mean he's going to cheat on me.

Sometimes I am.we all know that love should include understanding each other and romantic life. But without relization we spoiled the relationship,the distance in each other's mind go farther,later,little by little ,it will lead some negative effect like you mentioned,so i try to control all the bad feeling.

I have to be honest on this one. I am jealous and very possessive but I think the reason may be because my love has to work a lot and is not home quite a lot of time so when he is home I want him whole for me alone so if he talks to someone else in the house for even more than a min I get jealous. maybe I sound like a pshyco but what can I do? I want to make the most of the time we have together

Partner and I give each other much space and neither of us is the jealous kind. However, as we are always together, and that is by mutual choice, it would be hard for either of us to pull any funny stuff. When we were working apart though, we trusted one another and often told funny stories to each other about people who tried to hit up on us at work. Well, usually they were funny. Some were not. A couple of times girls followed hubby home from work, and tried to come right in through the door with him. "Honey," he called out, "Would you tell this young lady she has to leave?" YUP! I obliged.

i am jealous and possessive whenever it comes to love or my beloved, be it be my family as well. i am equally possessive for my parents more than anybody else.

I think I am a very jealous person. The reason may be insecurity. Or over-possessiveness. Or because I felt I was not being given enough time. Or not being pampered enough. I have been trying to control this emotion....but I guess it is too late now.

I don't think i'm jealous or possessive any more than is healthy, of course if i see my boyfriend talking to other girls my attention is caught, but no more than i think is normal, and i wouldn't say anything about it! The way i see it, i am quite a bubbly and chatty person myself and i do flirt occasionally so i am likely to be with someone who is similar, but at the end of the day, it's me my other half is going home with at the end of the night so i don't feel threatened. I like my own space so it's nice when i can have a relationship where we can both do our own thing! I think that it's important to maintain a sense of still being your own person when you're in a relationship as you never know what the future holds and i would hate for that person to go out of my life and then feel lost because i have let things slide with me friends! xxx

No, I am not very jealous when it comes to my love. Some persons are like this but I think it is just a part of their emotional attraction to the one they love so much.

Yes I'm jelous kind of a person but not possessive. If you really love a person feeling jelousy is normal. If you don't love that person you'll never feel jelous. But for me for the last 15 years I haven't come across that situation and I'm happy about it.