Do you LIKE your mom?

@ms1323 (259)
United States
September 29, 2008 2:29pm CST
Is she someone that you would CHOOSE to have in your life if she weren't your mom? If not, how do you deal with it? I do not like my mom, I do not respect my mom on ANY level. She is manipulative and narcissistic, she is a hypochondriac beyond belief AND she is a liar - even when I know shes lying and tell her I know she is lying she refuses to fess-up to it. It is so frustrating that I can't stand to talk to her let alone be in the same room with her and my patience with it just keeps getting worse and worse! Am I supposed to let her get away with it simply bcz she's my mom? Or do I hold her accountable for her actions just like I would any other human being?
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bmorehouse1
@bmorehouse1 (1028)
• United States
29 Sep 08
Oh my God - are you sure you're not my sibling? That sounds like my mom. She lies all the time and thinks the world should revolve around her! Its like walking on egg shells around her. Doesn't matter what you say its always wrong! She is the worlds best "guilt master"! No I would not choose to have her in my life if I had a choice. Since I don't have that choice, I try not to be around her anymore than I have to! Isn't that sad! I do have a tendency anymore to contradict some of the things she says - not to her liking of course! I do think a person should be accountable for their actions! Best wishes!
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bmorehouse1
@bmorehouse1 (1028)
• United States
30 Sep 08
I prepared dinner this past Easter and had all the family. After that was over with I decided "No more!". I refuse to host anymore holiday dinners since my Mom blatantly lied about some things. I just don't like the way she tries to get her way and that she is always right (she thinks). I just can't handle it anymore. I could write a book, but won't bore you with the details. Good luck!
ms1323
@ms1323 (259)
• United States
29 Sep 08
LOL! But I think not, only bcz MY mom doesn't disagree with anything I say (except to point out her lies!) She actually agrees with everything whether she has knowledge on the subject or not. It makes her look rediculous to others and just makes me mad. Why can't she have her own opinion?? I think I'm dwelling on this a bit bcz Thanksgiving is coming up, I have it at my house and she usually comes. I'm seriously not in the mood to be around her and am thinking about telling everyone they are on their own this year simply bcz I can't stand the idea of having to be around her!! How awful is that?! I cook it all and she tries to take the credit for it!! So pathetic...and i think, with my current frame of mind, that I will most definitely go off on her about something
shell94
@shell94 (990)
• Canada
29 Sep 08
Now i know that you are going to think this is horrible. NO, I have absolutely no use for the woman at all. She deserted me at a very young age. I did find her later in life and went out of my way to help her and try to have aclose relationship with her, well then i got burned by her. I had brought her into my home when my daughter was very young and she stole from not only myself but from her own granddaughter!!! There are 3 things that I absolutely detest in people....liars, cheats and thieves. She did all of the above to me when I was younger. Therefore she is not a person I desire to communicat with in any way.
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shell94
@shell94 (990)
• Canada
29 Sep 08
No I cannot even vaguely picture her having raised me. My grandparents did though and my grandmother was the best person I have known in my life. She was the substance of that side of the family.
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ms1323
@ms1323 (259)
• United States
29 Sep 08
The only way in which I think that is horrible is her behavior towards you! I'm so sorry to hear that your reunion with her went so badly. It can only lead me to believe that she is, at the very least, a horrific mother and absolutely does not deserve your respect! I hope whoever raised you was a much better role model and gave you a happy childhood...sounds like she did you a favor by leaving, can you imagine being raised by her?
sudhajosyula50
@sudhajosyula50 (3808)
• India
29 Sep 08
Hi friend, Everyone in this world respect their moms.It is a gift given by god in form of mom.Instead of god living with each and every one,he created mom to each one.In this way mom are their with us.I respect my mom very much.So as a person we have respect our moms. Have a nice day
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ms1323
@ms1323 (259)
• United States
29 Sep 08
Thank you for your opinion, although I have to disagree. I believe respect, as with trust, is something that is earned, not an automatic given simply bcz of who they are.
sudhajosyula50
@sudhajosyula50 (3808)
• India
29 Sep 08
Ya its true.Trust comes when you and they love you and a good bonding relationship with them.As a god gift i have with them. Have a nice day.