how many chances to give?
By meticulo
@meticulo (1286)
United States
September 30, 2008 12:22am CST
I was wondering! How many chances should a partner give to his significant other if after so many heartaches from infidelity that has been experienced she still stood by his side and love him tenderly? Please share your opinions. Thanks!
7 responses
@Darkestraven (108)
• United States
30 Sep 08
i stand very firm on the fact that once someone cheats i will not ever give them another chance. i feel that if they loved me like they said that they did they would have never cheated. i also think that if you take them back after they cheated that they will think they can do it over and over and you will be there every time after they get caught again. i know some people dont agree with the saying but i do "once a cheater always a cheater" people (men and women) who cheat do not deserve to be able to go back with the person they cheated on because they are undeserving of the love that the person gave them and they took for granted.
@Darkestraven (108)
• United States
30 Sep 08
that is a good question but what would have made them go out and cheat in the first place, instead of saying to the person that they were with that they are feeling like being with someone else? if they really wanted to change and be a better person then hopefully they would learn as well from not being taken back by the person they cheated on, even if i loved them with all my heart i would have lost that trust with them and without trust there is no true love and it would be heartache every day thinking what they were doing if say they had to work late or came home late.
@meticulo (1286)
• United States
30 Sep 08
I agree with you Dark! It's very painful to think that the one you love had cheated on you. Yes why did he do it anyway if he loved you? He was tempted? I guess its easy to say I accepted your apology and then lets start all over again. But the scars of the hurt made would always be there and as long as you didn't fully forgive him you will never find peace in your relationship because you will have a tendency to doubt his faithfullness.
@meticulo (1286)
• United States
30 Sep 08
That is very well said. I admire your strong stand with the topic. We'll you have a point there. And I always hear that saying" once a cheater always a cheater." Maybe it's true. But is there no room for change? What if the person really want to change for the better, for good? But anyway, I guess its just a matter of choice.. Thanks for replying Darkestraven!
@red_amethyst (3518)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
as for me, I believe in the saying "everybody deserves a second chance." so whatever the reason of the heartache I am willing to give until second chance. I will let him change or straighten out what he have done wrong. once he committed same mistake then that's the time to say good bye. if one really loves you, he/she will not do anything that will hurt you again.
@red_amethyst (3518)
• Philippines
2 Oct 08
you're right. never repeat the same mistake.
stay active
@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
Well, for me I can give many chances to one I love no matter how many times he will hurt me because i love him so much and I don't want to live me.. But of course if he don't want to stay with me already then I will set him free for him to be happy.. I can't be selfish to him.. Of course, i will also think his happiness not only my own happiness.. It is more painful for me if he stay with me then he isn't happy after all..
I am willing to give him 2nd, 3rd, 4th chance for as long as he asked for it and I can see that he is sincere of asking for another chance.. I know that it is really hard to forget of something that really breaks your heart but I think for the one you love no matter how it is difficult still you can forget it just to be with him 'cause that what makes us happy, right??
Actually, my boyfriend didn't hurt me so I still didn't give him a second chance 
.. But if ever he will hurt me I can easily give him a second chance and forgive him since I do really love him and I want him to stay at my side.. I don't want to lose him in my life.. But I think it will not happen 'cause I know that my boyfriend won't hurt me.. I am sure with it.. Maybe, he might hurt me but not like having an affair or living me.. I know him so much and he is not that kind of person.. Anyway, happy posting..
.. But if ever he will hurt me I can easily give him a second chance and forgive him since I do really love him and I want him to stay at my side.. I don't want to lose him in my life.. But I think it will not happen 'cause I know that my boyfriend won't hurt me.. I am sure with it.. Maybe, he might hurt me but not like having an affair or living me.. I know him so much and he is not that kind of person.. Anyway, happy posting.. @meticulo (1286)
• United States
30 Sep 08
Asking for another chance just means that he is exerting effort for you to be back with each other again and has realize something he never wanted to lose. So if after he do it again and again you still love him, why not give him another chance? After all its your life. If you're happy with it then go with it baby!...But anyway, I am glad that you are happy with your boyfriend. I pray that everything will be fine with the both of you. Thanks!Happy mylotting!
