Would you marry a foreigner for comfort?
By meticulo
@meticulo (1286)
United States
September 30, 2008 1:41am CST
We are all aware that many of our filipina ladies are more inclined now to get marry a foreigner rather than a filipino. And we are all aware too that the main reason aside from love is to be able to get out of poverty that our country is experiencing. Just how much would you sacrifice to be able to gain comfort at home and provide the needs of your family here? Would you marry a foreigner even if you dont love just for the sake of?
5 responses
@paulsy (1263)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
First of all, I'm a Filipina, and my hubby is a foreigner. However, my family has never been in poverty, and poverty was never the reason for me to marry my hubby. Our family is financially stable, and we have several businesses that provide for our family's needs. My hubby and I are in love, and that's the reason why we are together. I fell in love with my hubby because he is TOTALLY different from all the Filipino men I have ever met. He is hardworking, faithful and he gives TRUE, honest love. That is simply what a woman like me wants from a man.
There may be SOME Filipinas who marry foreigners for comfort, but, not all. There are also other foreigners who marry other foreigners from different countries for the same reason. It's not only Filipinas who do these things.
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@juliefaye (1214)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
good for you Paulsy... my aunt who is based in USA finally met his soulmate--an american after two marriage failure with pinoys.
@meticulo (1286)
• United States
30 Sep 08
I am glad to hear that you marry your husband because you really love him and not for the sake of getting out of poverty. I believe that love can blossom between two foreign people. But we can not deny the fact that there are many filipinas marrying foreigners. And we can not blame them. Perhaps this is the easiest way to get away from all the hardships and difficulties with life here. Anyway, thanks for sharing your views Paulsy! Stay in love!
@red_amethyst (3518)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
If I was still single, i will not marry a foreigner just because of his money. But in case that I am really in love with a foreigner I will marry him. But the main reason is LOVE and not the money or comfort. but still some filipinas are practical, given the chance that their lifestyle will change they will go for it even though there is no love.
@red_amethyst (3518)
• Philippines
2 Oct 08
maybe if that foreigner is worth love and is really honest with his intentions to me, i might fall and end up marrying him :D
@meticulo (1286)
• United States
30 Sep 08
We can not blame them also for doing that thing. Maybe we are just blessed to have a more stable life here. But supposing we are experiencing poverty would you do the same? For me, I have to think twice. If it can really solve the problem why not. Afterall, our family is the main reason for all our hard works.Happy mylotting red!
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@juliefaye (1214)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
Its a pitiful sight that there were some who trade their heart for a comfort living not for themselves but for their families. It's a reality that some of us marry foreigners for convenience if not for love. We are poverty stricken and for some pinays that is the fastest way to go out. I wish someday we are being chased by other nationalities not because of our looks (ha! ha!) because we are a rich nation then!
@meticulo (1286)
• United States
30 Sep 08
Yes it is indeed pitiful! But its the fact and we can not change that for now. I know that they have reasons whatever it is. But I'm glad too that they find their way in finding a solution to poverty. And maybe we just have to compliment that filipinas are more adorable to foreigners not just because of our looks but because filipinas are caring, loving, hard working, and loyal?? What do you think?hehe. Happy mylotting Juliefaye!
@rainmark (4302)
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30 Sep 08
I not lucky enough to find love in Philippines, and i find really hard to find a serious one whom gonna love me. I got filipino suitors before but they are not interested in getting married,until i found my destiny whose willing to give his name to me.Then i married to an Englishman.
Im aware that some filipinoes criticized those filipina who marry a foriegner, coz they are thinking, they are marrying for money and comfort and to survive from poverty. For those who did that, we can't judge them, we still consider the love. So what if they marry for money,that's there life and we are out of it.
For me, im not going to marry a foriegner if i don't love him and specially if he don't love me. I am educated, with degree holder and strong, i can still find ways of solving a money matters problem and not to gamble my love for money.
@meticulo (1286)
• United States
1 Oct 08
I agree with you Rain! Destiny will really find its way no matter what you will do. So that even if you try to marry a certain guy if your fate don't agree with you, I guess it will not happen. In your case, you're so lucky that you find your love in the person of an Englishman. Yes, there are so many filipinos who criticize their fellow filipino if they marry a foreigner. Though theirs are not for financial reasons. But they are mistaken to be one. An its very sad to note. I hope that there will come a time that this mentality will be change. Stay happy!
@Shar1979 (2722)
• United States
1 Oct 08
I am a filipina married to a caucasian guy. I married him because I love him so much. I had an ex bf who is a US citizen who had petitioned me before but I turned down his offer and I dropped his petition coz I can't fool him nor myself. If I want to be in America not just for love...I would have stayed with my ex bf no matter if I dont love him anymore
@meticulo (1286)
• United States
1 Oct 08
I admire you for that! Marriage is not a joke. So that if one will have to marry she should make sure that she will be happy and so with the guy. It's vice versa. Though theres no guarantee that it will be a bed of roses. But at least you won't regret that you marry the best guy/girl that you love.And I also believe that marriage whether for comfort or love is plan by God. So that even if you will force yourself to marry a foreigner or whoever if God or your fate/destiny would not allow it. I guess it will not happen. There's really a reason for everything. Happy mylotting Shar!