High-stress days
By worldwise1
@worldwise1 (14885)
United States
September 30, 2008 9:38am CST
We all have days that are more stressful than others. I have one coming up tomorrow. It is the day that I have to get out and pay my bills, do some shopping, etc. What stresses you out the most? I have grown to dread my stress day because it usually takes me a couple of days to settle back down to normal. Another stressful day for me is the days that I go to see my doctor. I don't know why it is so, but I've been this way for as long as I can remember. When I know I'm going to have a stressful day I seldom get a good nights sleep before that day. How does your stress affect you?
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
2 Oct 08
Since you are pretty familiar with my "story" and of some of the events that have occurred in my life, I'm actually pretty stress free. When I was going through the year of hell for me in 2006 where it was one thing after another, like a snowball effect, believe it or not, as stressful as it was, I didn't let it ruffle me...if I did and actually sat down and thought about everything going on in my life back then, I could have been in a scale of 1 to 10 a 1,000 panic mode...but I didn't ...in fact, I was probably the calmest I had ever been in my life, even my friends remarked on how calm I was.
Being that, if I could "survive" a year like that, I think I can survive just about anything...LOL. Not to say I don't have my concerns...I'd rather call them concerns rather than worries that will stress me out.
Like you, being that it was the first of the month, I got my SSI benefits in. The day admittedly didn't start off well, as I over slept a bit, making my plans a bit late...I had to go to the bank, get money out for the rent, then the post office to get a money order as my landlord accepts only money orders.. The bank was no problem...as I took out the money via ATM machine but wasn't too keen about the post office, as mine is ALWAYS crowded with a long line. Well guess what? I nearly fainted when I went to the PO and I was practically the only one on line...On top of that, I bumped into a fantastic person. She was one of the nurses that took care of my mother whenever she was in the hospital...and I discovered something about her I didn't know. She's a Holistic nurse....we exchanged emails (when I got home I emailed her right away)..after the PO I too did some light grocery shopping. I need to go to the PO again tomorrow and do more grocery shopping.
But no...on the day I know I'm to get my benefits and need to go to the bank and post office I just feel grateful for the money I have that is there for me to pay my rent and bills and allows me to keep a roof over my head.
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
2 Oct 08
I know you are right, pyewacket, and it isn't that I'm not grateful. I believe most of my stress is related to my ride at present. I have not been satisfied since I changed the person with whom I ride on these occasions. I am an early riser when I know that I have something that needs to be done. She likes to wait until the day is half over before she sets out. I did end up calling my other daughter to get a ride yesterday, and I was back home before the other one ever left her apartment. Maybe by switching my ride I will relieve some of the stress.
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
30 Sep 08
I have to say that I stress when all the Bills are due to be paid and it has all just been done, I am not to bad with the shopping I quite like it as it gets me out
But I really do not have regular Stress Days so I guess I am quite lucky in that sense
@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
30 Sep 08
Perhaps most of my stress centers around my aversion to being in crowds, gabs. I am better now but used to get panic attacks when I had to be in crowds.
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@jeweledbluerose (3061)
• United States
1 Oct 08
Usually I try not to stress to much over anything. Though it's nearly a basic fact of life that some things, under which we may have no control over, will induce some sort of stress in our life.
Though I wish my life to be stress free, this is not always possible, since I am a business owner and there is always one thing or another that arises that causes stress to enter my life. I just deal with it the best that I can, and unwind by taking a nice warm bath at the end of very trying day.
Bills and things of that nature, I don't stress over anymore, but back in the day when I was first starting out on my own, they'd always were a burden to me, since we were living paycheck-to-paycheck and really didn't know from one week to the next if we were going to be able to pay our bills on time. It was hard and my husband and I lost much sleep over it, but we made it through each day the best we could. We just took things in stride and let the process turn us into stronger and smarter individuals.
We coped with the stress by giving each other encouragement and trying to stay positive about our situation. I know it is different for each individual and how they handle themselves in any sort of stress inducing situation, but it may help just to clear your thoughts, listen to soothing music, or do something that takes your mind off what is to be done the following day. Then try the same things after your stressful day to unwind. This helped me a lot when I knew the next day was bringing on something that I just didn't want to do, cause I knew it would bring much unwanted stress.
@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
2 Oct 08
Your advice seems very sound, jeweled, and I will try to put it into practice the very next time I have a stressful day in which to go through.
@qianlizhifeng (468)
• China
1 Oct 08
Yeah ,I have the same feelings with you.Sometimes I have to spend quite long with my girlfriend in supermarket,while there is just little cash in my pocket.I feel stressful to see that she seems interested in everything in the supermarket.At last when we leave the market ,I will find the cash in my pocket is not enough and have to use my credit card.
When those days come ,I find it unavoidable,so I will try to adjust my thoughts.I will tell me that luckily the money is invested on food and something necessary in life ,not stolen.
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
2 Oct 08
You sound like a very understanding person, qianlizhifeng. Your girlfriend is lucky!
@dloveli (4366)
• United States
1 Oct 08
What stresses me out is when a have a hundred things to do and not enough time to do it. Or when I go to work and I am the only one working that shift. It seems that sometimes proving to be responsible can lead to these types of issues. If I didnt do such a good job, I bet they wouldnt bother me then. I would then stress myself out feeling guilty. All in all I think there's stress in every day in my life. People in my life dont seem to care. thanks. dl
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
2 Oct 08
You should try to delegate some of your responsibilities to others, dloveli. It seems very unfair that you should be worked so hard!
@fishdeer (2)
• China
1 Oct 08
It is impossible for a person to be happy all the day. When stressful days coming,usually achanllengeable works, I will never sleep well. Sometimes, I will discuss the topic in the dream. Although some dreams I never remember in the next day, good dreams always take me good luck.
@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
2 Oct 08
Happiness can be elusive, fishdeer, and I agree that our dreams can sometimes be very helpful.
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
30 Sep 08
I get stressed out if I have to go into hospital, even if it's for a routine blood test or check up, I hate hospitals at the best of times, and when I have to get up early or fast beforehand I get stressed, I hate having to go without food for a certain period and that makes me cranky, then getting up early I get stressed as I am NOT a morning person then the thought of going into hospital etc. Dentist appointments is another thing I get stressed out about, fearing that the dreaded drill is going to be used and that is enough to send me shuddering and give me sleepless nights for sure! Ok so I am a cowardly wolf when it comes to the dentist!
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
2 Oct 08
I must agree with you on all counts, wolfie!Dentists are the absolute worst experience I know of. My doctor stresses over my blood pressure and I in turn stress over just going to see her!
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
30 Sep 08
I have high stress days when I take my son to the doctors and try to make heads or tails of what I should be doing with his care. They all need to get on the same page. Right now is stressful, wondering what tomorrow will bring with the economy.
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
2 Oct 08
Maybe we should all take up yoga, Thoroughrob! I've heard it is a great reliever of stress.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
1 Oct 08
because I can hardly walk, any day that I have to go and walk somewhere, like going to the hospital stresses me out. My doctor doesn't because he is just around the corner and that is not much of a walk but the hospital is a long walk though.
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
2 Oct 08
Perhaps, winterose, you could get one of those nifty little scooters to ride about on. I'm beginning to think I'm not that far off from getting one for myself!
@celticeagle (166761)
• Boise, Idaho
1 Oct 08
I feel I am ellergic to stress. I react to it just as if I were allergic. I went through two years of severe depression and social anxiety. I still have bouts of it and sometimes I can't leave the house or do things normal people do.
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
2 Oct 08
Those sound like classic symptoms of stress anxiety, celticeagel.
@MrsRich723 (602)
• United States
1 Oct 08
Actually I like the days when I go out and pay my bills and go shopping and all that because that means I have money to spend. My most stressful days are a few days before pay-day because we are almost on empty and have to make it a few more days before we get paid again. My mom always used to say she would be happier if she was broke and all her bills were paid versus having money and not enough to pay all her bills and I agree. As long as no one is calling me telling me they are about to turn off my lights or put me out my house, I am stress free.
I do get stressed at work when I have an assignment due because my supervisor tells me about my next project and worries me all day about having it completed. I don't work well when people are pressuring me to hurry up. I'll get done but it won't be my best work so it stresses me out when she rushes me to finish. Lately I've just been ignoring her. I put my headphones on and when she talks I pretend I can't hear her. LOL.. Works for me.
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
2 Oct 08
Great move, MrsRich, and your mother sounds like a wise woman, just like mine.
@IrishRose23 (542)
• United States
1 Oct 08
Being a single parent, everything almost stresses me out. The only thing that stresses me out more is paying bills and the economy. I barely sleep at night because I am so stressed. So, that means I am groggy in the morning. So, after I take my daughter to school, I end up coming back home and napping.
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
2 Oct 08
I was a single parent myself, IrishRose, so I know of which you speak. Have you ever tried meditation?
@arunmails (3011)
• India
1 Oct 08
Yesterday was my high stress day I have never met and even I am not going to have the same kind of day..... I was screwed by my boss to finish up my project.... I got tensed and the program is not executing in the right format.... I was even nervous as the time goes out.... then finally I got the result in the early morning 4 am that is today.....
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
2 Oct 08
As is most often the case, arunmails, all of your worries were in vain!
@radinrr90 (157)
• Malaysia
1 Oct 08
I don't what it feels to be a working people, coz i'm just a student. But being a student is also very streesful. I feel like screaming sometime! I guess i will lead a stressful till i die.. sigh
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
2 Oct 08
It doesn't have to be that way, radinrr! You should begin now to find methods of reducing your stress.
@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
30 Sep 08
Yes, stephcjh, I often think, "If only there was someone else to take care of it all."
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
30 Sep 08
I get stressed out when I have to take a test..I hate taking tests or have someone evaluate me for what I am doing, probably because I am much harder on myself than other people are, so if I do "mess up" then it won't be a hard downfall..
I don't know if that made sense..
@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
30 Sep 08
Lots of people get anxiety when faced with taking tests, carmelanirel. I have never had that problem.
@jackiew (915)
• Canada
30 Sep 08
hello and good-day-i know exactly how you feel-today is my bill paying day and i hate it!-it really stresses me out-more since i haven't been working the last few months-you wonder where your getting it all to hand out-lol-more going out than coming in as the saying goes-well i hope you have an otherwise nice day
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
30 Sep 08
I find that I do much better, jackiew, when I plan my day ahead of time as much as possible.