Do you have any regrets in your life?

lol. I wish mine was. No I do not think anyone is mistake proof, the test is in how we deal with the mistakes and what we do with the fallout. Every step opens a new path and who knows where it will lead.

It is interesting that so many people look upon regret as some kind of guilt trip for past mistakes. We all make mistakes, we are meant to, it's how we learn and grow. It's experience gathering and there are very few mistakes that are not forgiven by ourselves and others. But it is still ok to have regrets. They are merely feelings of sadness and a sense of loss. And sometimes it's good to look back on what we have lost. As we go through life we all experience loss in some form or another. The loss of youth, parents, friends. I regret the passing of all those good times and the people I have loved who have now passed on. But when I look back with sadness the fact that they did exist gives me comfort and helps me to move forward. So I guess I have to say in all honesty that I have a lot of regrets but it's a good thing.

The lessons are the important thing I think. It is so easy to look back and see how things could have gone and yet at the time that was not the case, the benefit of hindsight. History is full of people analyzing the past in this way but they can never really know.

Yes that is one thing that we can try and change though, we can ease the hurt we gave our parents as long as we do it before it is too late. I almost left it too late with my father but I was able to re-connect with him before he became to ill to understand. Yes we get older and wiser, well most of us do anyway and we learn from our mistakes.

Good point. I agree with you, everything we have done has made us who we are and that is a good thing. I used to have lots of regrets but I have learned to view life positively although it took me a few years.

Not repeating mistakes is a real challenge. I try very hard not to do that but sometimes you do not see the problem as being the same until it is too late and then think I should not have done that. I am happy with my life, well I could do without my debt but that will be gone in a few years it is being nibbled at, but everything else is fine and I am happy.

I agree so much. I could wish I had lived my life differently but I would not be me if I had and I would not have met my partner and I adore him. I love being controversial. I got a taste for it. I never meant my life to be that way and I was so ordinary and tame until I broke free and I was so old, I was 44 when I broke the mold. Such is life. I woke up a 44 year old virgin terrified that I would die a virgin as if that was the worst thing that could happen to me. It was like I came out of a coma and I did not understand how it had happened. Suddenly I wanted to experience before it was too late. Interesting attitude since now I am 52 and ill so maybe the urgency was important. I had 6 years to explore all that stuff, life the universe and everything!! Yes I did want my life to be different. I had so much to explore, I took any path that came my way and explored it to see where it led and I had so much fun in those 6 years. I tried to cram a whole life into those 6 years. I did not know what was coming but the urgency was intensive. The one thing I still have left from that life is a sense of fun in challenging other people's complacency. I like to shock them to challenge them to make them think outside their normal life experiences. I find that it opens their minds and that is so important.

Yes, everyone has some regrets on things that they feel they could have done better or things they wish they had never done but we learn from everything we do. So the best thing is to see them as learning experiences.

I agree with you that we learn from them but there are a couple of things that I regret but I also know that I would not be me if they had not happened so I let go of them. Now they are just memories.

That is a good way to be and it is good that you learned a lesson from the mistakes. I think everyone has something they wish they had done better.

Interesting. School is one thing you can go back and try again. I did. I went to night school and my mother went as well to, in fact she inspired me. If she could go back I could and I met so many people trying to make up for their schooling and because they were adults it made more sense and they did so much better.

well then it was be school

You are so right but sometimes if too many bad things happen close together you can have trouble seeing it positively and you need to. I agree that everything happens for a reason and no matter how much we might want it to be different it was not meant to be.

so true.

Good for you. I am glad you have no regrets. After all our life shapes us and makes us who were are and if we could change the past it would change us. We all make mistakes and we learn from them and move on.

Good for you. I think it would be great to have no regrets. I know everything turned out for the best but sometimes I still have regrets. I still wonder what if just occasionally. I know that everything turned out for the best and that I am who I am because of what happened but I just wonder sometimes if I had not broken off contact from my dad for so long maybe I would have got to know him better and maybe not. I will never know.

Yah, you're right. our father is our father and we cannot ignore the fact that no matter how bad they treat us, we cannot erase the fact that we owe them our lives. But it doesn't mean that we should let them dominate our lives. We got to stand what we think is good for us and be ready for the consequences. i share the same sentiments with you. I never have the chance to be with my father for some certain reasons. But got no regrets for i have to do this for my own good. I now get the best of my life. So cheer up!!

Yes. We learn from the events that bring regret but once the lesson is learned it is better for our spirits to look at the happiness and think positively.

Yes I also feel that everything happens for a reason and I am not sure you can change the mistakes. If you could go back then the first mistake you changed would set your life on a whole new path and the others might never happen or might come out differently and things that were good may end up going bad. I think we are better off learning the lesson and moving on.

Great. That sounds like a great way to be.

Yes it is our choices that make us who we are and you are right that we need to focus on our good decisions. For all the bad things that happen if we could change the past we would lose the good as well. So we have to look at things positively, learn the lessons and enjoy being alive.

I quite agree with you. I think you were lucky to have a father who taught you that. I learned it that hard way but it is good advice about the best way to live our lives.

Well it seems to be the wrong choice but down the path it can seem to have been a right choice because it leads somewhere else which turns out to be good for you. We are the products of out experiences.

I am impressed that you could get through your life without any regrets. I think you are very fortunate.