How much time does your husband spend with you?

I can only give you a perspective from the husband side here pinky! I generally work from around 8:30 in the morning until 6 at night for five days a week and for around 3 - 4 hours on one of the weekend days. I come home for around 20 - 30 minutes for lunch during the working week and pretty much all my time outside of work is spent with my wife. I do travel quite a bit as well but we keep in touch of course several times throughout the day when I am out of the country. In my opinion the husband should spend as much of his free time as possible with his wife, especially if there ar children involved. There of course needs to be some time to spend with friends etc as well but the obligation is first and foremost the family. My wife is home all day and she would go insane if I was never around! lol. Thankfully though we are very compatible and enjoy our time always. We even sit there and take turns mylotting at night so one watches TV and the other is on the laptop. These scenarios can actually get a little funny sometimes when one of us gets impatient!

[i]Hi pinkytabor, we have no kids and we have all the time to talk, go out, discuss things or argue or play and tease etc...So, when we wake up every morning, he will shower and I will prepare his things, talk for like 5 minutes and then he will leave, when he got at work, we will chat at skype like 5 minutes and then chat again lunch time... After work, short talk like 10 minutes then he will take a shower then we will eat together and then watch Tv..Bedtime, the most is 5-15 minutes conversation and then sleep! Weekend, we used to go out and have some malling so we talked a lot then after that watch movie and sometimes, take some nap![/i]

why does he spend his weekends with his mom and sis? why not with you as his new family now? despite the issues that we're currently facing regarding my in laws, my husband devotes most of his time with us than he used too. being in the military it is one great opportunity that they consider when they are set for schooling since they can spend their weekends with their families. other than that, whenever he's free he sees to it that he sends that kids to school and pick them up. he makes use of his time with us.

Hi friend,My husband is into business and we have coconut farms.He spends most of his time there and only after 5p.m he is free.Sometimes even after 5p.m he goes out .When he is at home after 5p.m he spends with the family.I feel that all the evenings husbands should spend their time with the family.But working people find difficult to spend time for family so they can atleast spend 2 hours a day with the family.Otherwise we may not feel relaxed and life would become monotonous.thanks for sharing.happy mylotting.

Hi my husband is also the same dont often spend much time with me. We dont have kids yet but still he dont have time to spend with me. His working hrs is 2pm tto 10.30pm but usually he goes in the morning 11 or 12 and comes back by night 12am. then he will have food may be for one hour we will watch tv or he sits in front of laptop then we will go to bed. He gets up late in the morning before one hour he needs to go to office. He will get ready and just leave to off. In weekends saturdays he will work sometimes or else he will have cricket match. If not he will sleep or we will go to meet my mom and dad..Thats it...Sunday luckily if nobody comes home then he will have time for me and we will be together... I think he has to spend more time with me. Working its fine but otherwise rest of the time atleast he has to spend time with me and he also should balance both working and personal life thats what I feel. I have told this many times to him but he always he tell he needs to achieve so much in life so for that he has to work hardly...What can I do?

i don't marry so far, i have boyfriend, he has same job with me, but we work for different companies. so, every morning 7:20 he goes to work, 17:50 he comes back. we live together, we spend the rest time together, although we go on doing different thing after coming back form office, but we are in the same room. that's enough for me, we know that we have to work hard to make money, so that we can marry earlier and make a family. i don't like depart,i'm afraid of departing. i wish we can go on this kind of life, never living depart.

One thing I know for sure is that in today's busy world, this is something that requires attention. My husband and I have to practically schedule time together or it doesn't get worked in. Just last night I was thinking about the fact that we hadn't had any real physical time together. The kid was in bed, I was on the computer and he was in playing around with pictures on his computer. I just went and asked for what I wanted. It is amazing how the time just slips away if you don't know what you want and ask for it.

Well my I guess your definition of "being there" and mine are different. My husband works anywhere from 8-14 hours a day it just depends on how busy work gets and what time of the year it is. He wakes up with the kids in the morning and helps get them ready for school. When he gets home if it's a normal day he sits and plays with them for an hour or so before dinner. After dinner he'll cuddle up with them on the couch and watch tv if there's time or he'll run shower/bath time. He does the bedtime stories and runs the tuck in routine. On the weekends it's pretty much all about family if he doesn't have to work. We'll either have a lazy day at home where we sit around in our pj's and watch movies play games or just lay around and do nothing. Or we'll go to the mall, the movies or just out to run around. As far as him and I time, we have date nights every other week, and no matter how tired we are we always find time to cuddle, hug, kiss or be close. Be it watching tv on the couch together, a random back rub or kiss, or just a quick walk by shoulder rub. I don't think you have to spend every waking moment in eachothers space to be close or have time. We can all be in the same room doing different things but the fact is we're all together. There's constant conversation so to me that's as good as if we were all doing the same thing.

hi pinks! it's nice bumping into you here in myLot. i also feel that way too, but i have never thought of giving up. maybe it's just part of marriage, especially when you start having responsibilities over kids and finances. i often and even still nag my husband about not being as sweet as we were when we were just boyfriend and girlfriend. i always demand that he have time to spend with me but eventually i realize that sometimes i have to weigh the situation and compromise especially if he's too tired from work or if he have to work even on sundays. i just think that he's doing these for both of us. now, i feel content even when we just have to stay home and talk about stuff and not being able to go somewhere like eat out or watch movies. relationships need compromise. i think you need to tell him how you feel too so that he would know about it. women often think men are mind readers, which they are not because my husband isn't. they have to know how we feel and meet somewhere to settle things. i know how much you have given up for your family, being away from your family may have made the situation worse for you there. hold on, know that friends are everywhere and most especially your family, your husband is your support system, seek his help on this.

Right now, he is spending pretty much all of his time after he gets home from work with us. His shoulder is hurt and may need surgery so he can't go to the gym. When he can go to the gym 3 days a week he comes home from work for a few minutes and heads to the gym for an hour or two. He really likes for us to go with him. Sometimes I do and sometimes I don't. It all depends on the mood of our two year old. I have to say that I have a very attentive husband. Even when he gets up very early, he stays up until 11 or midnight just to spend quiet time with me. On the weekends he lets me sleep as long as I want. He gets up with the baby and has daddy time with her. They play and make breakfast and cuddle. When he he deploys he obviously can't spend time with us but he calls all the time and emails too.

I think the same as how you described it. My hubby wakes up in the morning, takes coffee and smoke. play with our youngest for some time and then takes a bath and leave. At night when he comes home, he will play online games while our first born is with him. Then we eat dinner and talk for about 30 minutes, we discuss w argue we debate. Then after eating, it is either he play again or watch local show with us. Then before going to sleep he would cuddle our second baby and he wants that our second boy sleeps beside him. When the kids are sleep, that is the time where he will say.. mommy tulog ang mga bata, (mommy. the kids are all asleep)with a grin ON weekdays, well pretty much the same except for the time where we do our grocery shopping, I think it is somewhat natural that daddy spent less time with kids, I was always telling my hubby that he should not be the one to discipline the kids because they seldom see each other, I just want the kids to know him as a loving father but they know that when daddy gets mad, it is rare and he is really really mad.

I spend a great deal of time with my husband. We're together all day it seems, he always comes straight home. We spend a lot of time together, sometimes I would say too much. lol. When we were both working full time, we didn't spend as much time together. We both had different schedules, so it was difficult. When I was leaving, he would be sleeping, and when he came home, I would be sleeping.

hi! our office is at home so i have the "pleasure" of seeing and being with my husband through most of the day. there are times when he'd have meetings and presentations and he usually asks me to come along.

The time spend with my husband varies here because my husbands job is seasonal. We don't see much of him during the summer because his hours are crazy. In the winter months, his hours are much more flexible so he's usually home by 5 or 6pm. We all have dinner together and after the kids are in bed, we spend about an hour together watching tv. One the weekends, we usually spend time together as a family.

In my case, very little:( Mornings, we are all very busy because the kids and I leave before my husband does. Most weekends he is working and leaves very early in the morning when the kids are still asleep. Sometimes, he is home early and spends a little time with the kids. On an average, I'd say he spends an hour or two every week with the kids. This is much more than he used to spend when we had just one child. Then I used to think that it wasn't good enough and would nag him. But I now realize that it was a good thing and prefer that he is away. When he is home, all the rules go for a toss and my son (sons) are allowed to do anything that they want....including things that are a no-no. This carries over even when my husband isn't around and it's very difficult to get them to obey the rules. I can see a major difference in my older son since dad decides to spend more time with him. My husband spends the maximum time with his work and not with any family member.

[i]Starting next week my partners new schedule will start at 6pm and he will leave the house by 4pm.So just imagine I work from 6am till 3pm..I am home by 3.30 and my partner will leave at 4pm. His work will end at 3am and by 4am he'll be home which by the way is my time to wake up to prepare myself for work.We have a very terrible schedule.I don't know for how long are we going to last with that type of schedule.Our days off are different too.sigh.[/i]

my husband just got back from working in iraq. he's taking his time now with us so he's not working yet.

I cannot give a determined set of hours that my hubby spends with me. It varies with each day. But I make sure that the time we spend together is qualitative and are happy moments..

Me and My husband hardly get time for each other. He get weekoff on Mondays and I have off on Sat-Sunday. During weekdays. I usually get home by 8:00PM and He will get home by 9:30-10:00PM. So We hardly have time for each other , or no time, i feel sleepy around 11:30 and he will asleep by around 1. He will get up late and I will get up early. Also, Its been more then 3 years of our marriage, he was not stable with his job, he always worried about the money flows and his job, not that I am not worried about him, I also want some pease for him. But when we are together on some occations.All we will fight about where to go and what to do. Though I simply wanna go for some window shopping or some movie, he dont like any thing what I like. He would like to get drink and food out side that too on my choice, he would all like to be either at home watching TV. or surffing net. Now that he has got a good job, but we dont have time for each other. I always tell him I earn more then enough why is he so much worried about his job, untill I am on this earth I will earn for him. He is having bad time , I know its from the day our marriage started. I hate my self for this I caused all this trouble for him. I have always been like a free bird, without worries, I love to travell so much. hang out at places. But he is all worried about his carrer. Some times I just get sick of all this. I wanna feel special, and the more I think for spending time with him I start getting angry, not at him, in the end I will end up fighting with him. I dont want to fight with him, even knowing we hardly have time for each other. I just love him like any thing. Miss him so much. I could not survive without him.

Husbands should make it thier duty to give a fair share of their time to their wives and family (kids). Every family will differ of course, but from experience, some men selfishly use all thier time on events that interest them most and family is often placed on the back burner, waiting for their share of time. Weekends should definitly be family time where husband/wife and kids socialize/receate their relationship and family ties. Every family deserves quality time together, if it doesnt happen, then someone in that family should demand it, or else sooner or later that family will crumble to the demise of the devil.