to spank or not to spank?

I don't spank my kids, never have and never will! And nobody else will ever spank my kids either! I was spanked as a child and I feel alot of anger about it. I remember the spankings but can't remember what they were for. My kids are good and they can listen and understand when I explain what they've done wrong and that they can't do it again. There's enough violence in the world, bullies in schools, and fights between kids. I love my kids too much to harm them physically. i have no problem with others spanking their kids if it works for them, but not mine. there's always another solution.

There is quite a differance between accidents and disobedience,and as such,there are differant means to get them to learn. for accidents,I will start with a good talking to them and let them know that if they do it again,it will result in them getting a spanking. with very serious non accidents,it starts with short spanking,three or four swats with clothing in place,next time for same,bare bottom spanking. these do not have to be hard spankings,enough for them to sting and cause emmbarasment. As a young child,I got some good ones,even from school,I deserved them so I knew it was comming,it most certainly did not dammage me in any way. I do find though,that those who say they have been harmed by being spanked,are either younger adults or present day kids that think this form of punishment is wrong,is mainly so they can get away with murder. I myself,use other means of punishment before spanking,but if it is earned,they will get a dandy.

I never spank my baby as a form of discipline. If he do someting bad and touch the things which is not for him to play, i and my husband just give him a smooth tap and said "no". So when he hear again the word "no" he stop doing it. For me, kids are different from each other, some kids if you spanking to them everytime they get mistakes they will having a fear towards thier mother and spnaking all the time isn't good coz it make the kids immune to it. So we just need to minimize the spanking and the best discipline is talk to them and explain to the kids, what is right or wrong and why it's bad to do it. Happy posting.

i don't believe that spanking is a harsh way to discipline a child. my mom talks to us if we did something bad but the next time we do the same thing, we get spanked. but she doesn't spank on every mistake we do. if you spank a child, it will hesitate to do the same mistake again because they know that they may get hurt.

As a mother I do not believe in spanking. I will put my children in a timeout and take things away from they can not live without as they say. Then again i have spanked my two daughters for one certain reason and that is the only time and i never needed to do it again. When there is a major reason to spank that is the only time i think that it is ok. I have only spanked my daughters when they have tried to run in the road outside and i only needed to do it once. I have voice that scares them so when i am mad and i use my "scarey voice" as oldest daughter puts it that usually does the trick if not then the time out does

I do spank my daughter. It all depends on what she did. If it's not much then you can just talk to her. Spanking is not harsh. It teach them to be disciplined. Spanking is different from beating your child. Beating is harsh

Well in my case I have never spanked my son at all. He is behaved and listens to me when I am not in agreement with him. He is 6 years old and he does his ways at times but when we discipline him we never put any physical pain in him. It is working for me so far. I just use reasoning for him to understand. Even as a baby we never had the chance to really spank him at all. I think I am blessed with an obedient boy. But I think it is not applicable to everyone there are those that have behavioral problems that needs a little physical coercion for them to hear your side.

I never had a problem with a child getting a spanking, it is not harsh. It does teach them that there is consequences for their actions. How many times will she tell him no, 10,20? He knows that she is not going to DO anything about his behavior, so he just repeats it. I only had to spank my kids maybe once, and they learned they didn't like that and whatever behavior warranted a spanking was not going to be repeated. There is nothing wrong with parents being parents, not giving into their children, and the child learning that no means no.

I've never been spanked before. My brothers were spanked when they misbehaved but only a couple of time I'm sure. We all turned out to be good kids. So I think spanking depends on both the parent and the child. If the parent is smart enough to be able to deal with the child without having to use force or violence and if the child isn't very naughty then I don't think spanking should be used to discipline them anymore. I don't have anything against spanking kids though as long as the intent is to prevent the child from doing the same mistake. What's bad is when some parents like to torture kids or vent out their frustrations on their kids.

I believe spanking should NEVER start out as your go-to form of discipline. You should always at least try other, less physical alternatives first. Sometimes, with some kids, simply saying "no" works. That's great. Others need a time out. Still others you need to go further with, and that's when a spanking can come in handy - and it's not necessarily a harsh discipline! Spanking and beating are NOT the same thing, not by any stretch of the imagination. A spanking for my kids is one, maybe two swats on the behind with their clothes on. I ALWAYS use my hand; I personally don't believe in using anything else. In my opinion, when you use something else, it's easier to go overboard, because you can't actually feel how hard you're spanking. With your hand, if you feel a sting, then your child has had enough. No matter what form of punishment is used, SKPamme is right - always explain what they did wrong. Otherwise, the child has nothing to learn from, no basis. I don't believe any one form of discipline is better than another; so long as the children are well-behaved, happy, healthy, than the parents are doing what is right for THEIR children. Every child is different and must be treated (and punished) according to what is effective for that child.

We were spanked when we were kids... I dont believe spanking really helps because my daughter when who is 23 years old now didnt learn anything from it. She actually got worse.... grant it she was a strong willed child and got in alot of trouble with the law in her 23 years of life. I believe firm discipline is best. I use it to discipline my grandson and I just feel it works for me. Sometimes just talking to your kid is not enough because alot of kids dont have that attention span....their minds wander. Some children are hyper...so it indivual and their diet has alot to do with how they behave I think. If I give my grandson sugar he will be running up and down the staira swinging a lasso..lol

Spanking is biblical and i believe it a good form of discipline..done moderately and with a valid reason i am not hesitated to spank my only boy who is 7.thou i don't do it very often.i have to have a valid reason to do it, since it also hurt me when i spanked my son.but it teaches him a lesson and you're right the next time he's more afraid to do bad things again...

Hi I'm against spanking, I don't intend to use it. There are other forms of discipline that work just as well without leaving that awful taste of guilt in my mouth. To me, to hit a child, no matter how lightly, is still violence and unacceptable. But there is also a fact that you teach your child that it is ok,sometimes, to resort to violence. My mom never spanked us, and I was a disciplined child. My bestfriend never spanked her 3 kids and they are all well behaved. She does discipline them, but there are other ways, better ways. Yeah, spanking is easier,but it's doest mean it better. I have a 9 month old son and I do not plan on spanking.

Tank and Spank. FTW!

I say spank away. My mom spanked me on a few occasions growing up. She used the wooden spoon with the hole in it. It was very effectual and I never made the same mistake twice.

skpamme I know nobody will agree with me, but I personally' hate spanking as it only teachs kids that the big one holds all the power and when they get married they can cower their wives with waving a fist or maybe smacking her one. no spanking is useless. time out, standing in the corner, but not physical abuse is just not in it for me. I never spanked my son, and he is one fine adult now. as for tantrums. I would pick up; my yelling scraming son, hold him tight and say, no I will not let you do this. when you stop I will let you go. now at two or three a kids usually so tired he or she doesnt know why he or she is so angry, if you hold them, they will not only stop, but most often will fall asleep. we parents sometimes do ourselves in because we underestimate how much endurance a small child has. Little ones need rest, not being dragged around stores for hours until they are so tired and emotionally overloaded they end up screaming in hopes of some help.

My husband and I agreed before we had kids that we will spank them. I don't think (and I've seen the differences) that simply "talking" to your child does any good. If your form of discipline to them is simply telling them, "no don't do that"... do you honestly think they'll take you seriously?! I don't think so. Just as adults need some sort of reprocussion for our wrong-doings, so do children. My brother & his wife spank their kids (in the Biblical way, which is spanking & telling them what they did wrong & why they're being punished) and they have the best behaved kids I've ever seen. Our friends say they spank their kids, but all we've ever seen them do is threaten them to be spanked ("you're going to get a spanking if you keep doing that", etc.) and those kids are brats. They do whatever they want and LAUGH about it! Because they know they won't get any sort of discipline (if they do, it's a light spanking).