would you delete someone from your life for just 1 mistake ?!
By Milanovich
@Milanovich (700)
Egypt
October 1, 2008 9:21am CST
hello everyone..
i started this discussion because it is a real fact in our life..
it is happenning evry day with diffrent people..it may happen between friends or family members..between co-workers or lovers..between brothers or sisters..
when some one valuable for you or to simplify this let us give an example in friends case..when a frind that you describe him as a best friend make a mistake or something bad to you..what is your reaction?..would you get angry with him and delete him from your entire life?!..the one who was your best friend one time before and did great things to you and was faithful to you you forget him for just 1 mistake?!..you can't forgive him although you were togeather most of your life?!
how hard is that decission when someone tooks it againest someone he loved..or when a daughter did it with her mother..or a brother with his sister..it is really hurting..
so would you do so?
have you did it before and you still to this time can't forgive the one who did a mistake to you?
have someone did it with you before and deletes you from his life and even when you see him he looks to you like a stranger?!
8 responses
@vmksvmks (413)
• Canada
3 Oct 08
Of course not One mistake wow whatever happened to Second Chance I really donot care one way or the other Also how many friends do we really have So in my case no i would not I would judge and make a decision on each situation and not make a generalized one Good Luck Have a Great day
@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
3 Oct 08
Well, for me it depends upon the situation.. If someone hurts me so much and I can't forgive him/her then maybe for that reason I will remove him/her in my life and I will end any relationship that we have.. But of course it will not be forever, maybe I just need space and time to heal all the painful things that she/he have done to me.. Maybe someday I will be able to accept him/her in my life again and we can be friends like before..
On the other hand, if he/she cause just a little bit painful then maybe I can easily forgive him/her.. Maybe about how many days or weeks to heal the pain then we can be okay already.. I think it really depends on how painful it is.. Sometimes, even she/he cause me so much pain I can easily forgive him/her especially if she/he is very important in my life and I value very much our relationship.. It is hard to remove someone in our life if he/she is special in our heart and most especially in our life.. Well, I admit that it is really more painful if the one who hurts you is the one you really love or someone special in your life.. I have experienced this before when my friend who I've though my best friend hurts me so much.. I never though that she will be able to do that.. I never though that she was jealous to me.. I never though that she don't treat me as her special friend and feel the way I do for her.. It is really painful, I though that I can't forgive her.. Well, honestly I removed her in my life.. I don't like to talked to her and even see her.. I'm so mad at her that time.. I've done anything to have no connection with her, totally we are over.. But now, I just realized that I've been over reacted with what I've done before.. Well, somehow I'm asking my self what if I've just accept it and be nice to her maybe she will changed and maybe we are still friends right now.. But I know that I can't changed what I've done in the past.. Actually, it is already 6 years ago and I don't know what happened to her already.. I don't have any news about her.. As what I've remembered she move already from another city.. And I don't know where can I find her.. Maybe, someday we will meet again and maybe we can still be friends or even we can just forgive with each other..
@Milanovich (700)
• Egypt
3 Oct 08
i have an experience like your's..me and my best friend long time before about nearlly 7 or 8 years for something that don't desirve we changed to 2 strangers!
yes we were as if we are 2 stranggers..no talk..no help..nothing connect us..
our friends tried to solve the problem but they failed..one time i go to him and said that we were best friends for many years and it is very sad for me that our friendship ended this way..after some time we forget about it and returned friends again but never like before..it became a week friendship after being the best friends for long time we now just friends..i see him some times and may call him or he call me but as if there is a wall between us..there is something had been broken and time hasn't healed it uptill now..
i have another best friend now..we sometimes mistake and sometimes one forget the other but we always reconnect as fast as we could..i will never let what i did before to be done again with another friend..
@berryliciousme (1003)
• Philippines
1 Oct 08
This would depend on the mistake that they did but eventually I hope things would be resolved. If a person really did something bad to me, I would choose to have nothing to do with them anymore to avoid making things more complicated. Although, I would like to think that I would give a person a chance at the first offense however if they would do the same mistake again, I do not think I could trust them again. Also they should prove that they deserve the chance.
@Milanovich (700)
• Egypt
1 Oct 08
isn't being a best friend for you not enough to give him another chance and another chance again and again?!
@jstmarfz (1498)
• United States
1 Oct 08
when I was in high school, my bestfriend betray me because of jealousy. I was very mad at her and it took 2 years for me to accept her apology. I gave her another chance. But she failed me again. I never trusted her anymore although she wants to be friends again. Its hard to give your trust back to someone who fails you 2 or more times. But I never deleted her in my life. People commit mistakes, no matter how painful it could be. Time will pass and time will come that you will learn how to forgive but things wont be the same like it used to be.
@Milanovich (700)
• Egypt
1 Oct 08
yes it is hard to delete someone from your life..but there are many doing so..it is a real fact!
@JayJashG (290)
• India
6 Oct 08
First of all it depends on the mistake committed by the person. If its a unforgivable mistake I will surely not re-consider my thoughts about that person. If its my best friend who did the mistake I would ask her/him straight away about what exactly happened though I won't be in the initial mood to talk with them. It will surely hurt me in the case of my best friend. I will assure you that the same closeness will be missing..
@aisaellis22 (6445)
• United States
1 Oct 08
I will not delete someone who is close to me because he did a mistake to me. Although I won't forgive him immediately, I will not delete him from his life just because of ONE mistake. Are you going to forget all the good things that he had done to you just because he did something wrong for you? Everyone of us can commit mistake, no one is perfect. Even God forgave us even how worst our sins are.
I know you're angry with him/her. But give him/her another chance. although not now, but i know that time will heal.
@Milanovich (700)
• Egypt
2 Oct 08
yes you are right..
it is very hard to forget all the good things for only one mistake..
people must start over and realize that every one can do a mistake..god forgive us so why we don't forgive each others!
good words aisa ;)
@potrish78 (742)
• Philippines
6 Oct 08
That would depend on the severity of the mistake done. I'm not hostile and certainly forgetting someone because of one mistake is out of the question. I tend to give second chances. But if the mistake is done intentionally and with terrible outcomes I might consider deleting him/her from my life. Examples of which: if he/she killed someone in the family, if he/she tried to hurt anyone close to me physically, if he/she breaks my trust for personal gain or anything which is really somewhat unforgivable according to human standards.
@marzoeki (138)
• Indonesia
6 Oct 08
no,,
i will give him/her another chance to be a better person,,
i think it's not fair,,
just caused by one mistake,,
we hate him/her forever,,
mm,,
but it is for a small mistakes,,
how about when somebody kill your parents??
still u forgive him/hers??
^_^