Domestic Violence

Jamaica
October 2, 2008 10:57am CST
Do you think that there is ever a time when a man, or woman should hit his, or her mate? Have you ever heard at times that the woman deserves it, for one reason or another? I don't know if that could be so. What do you think?
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@mcat19 (1357)
• United States
2 Oct 08
I agree. No one deserves to be hit. No one should use hitting for any reason whatsoever. If someone has grown up in a household where there was this kind of abuse, he or she should get some help to break the cycle. It's a reason, not an excuse. It is wrong to hit anyone. With no exceptions. It doesn't do anything positive at all.
• Jamaica
2 Oct 08
Very well said! And I fully agree with those sentiments. Let's say though, that an argument begins, for whatever reason. What can both, or either mate do to resolve the problem without resorting to abuse?
@mcat19 (1357)
• United States
2 Oct 08
Count to 10. Go for a walk. Kick the couch. Slam a door. Agree to disagree. Do you really think you will change someone's mind by hitting them? If hitting is all you can come up with to resolve disagreements, I seriously suggest that you, or whoever, seek counseling before you, or whoever, lands in jail for assault.
• Jamaica
2 Oct 08
I think many would agree with the idea of taking the anger out on the couch or the door. But would it not add to the problems if you were to injure yourself in the process, or damage an item. Sure it would be an alternative to hitting someone! But what are some of the things that usually bring on a quarell?
@palonghorn (5479)
• United States
2 Oct 08
There is never a time that it is okay to hit/beat up their mate. No women deserves that and any man that feels more manly for doing it is actually not a man at all. And any woman that uses the excuse 'well I probably deserved it' is just plain stupid to put up with being treated that way. Any man that says 'she deserved it' it's just one more excuse for him to use to make it 'okay' to beat her. It is still abuse, regardless of all the excuses they could give.
• Jamaica
2 Oct 08
All well said! Could it be said though that if a man or a woman, while growing up, was exposed to violence in the home, it could be a contributing factor to their becoming abusive?
@mojcica (1511)
• Slovenia
2 Oct 08
I do not belive in violence. Noone deserves to be hit! Noone has the right to hit another person. Not men or women. The violence comes in different forms, hitting is just one of them. There is also verbal violence, which is very often. Everyone gets mad or angry, but if you cant control that anger in a way that you have to stress it on other human being, especially on someone you suppose to love, there you have a big problem.