ever had an unsure story?

Hi there jhl930 Maybe she is doing something and telling you a little lie because she doesn't want you to know what she was really doing as she might be embarrassed or doing something you might not approve of like chatting online but totally inocently. I wouldn't want someone I was dating to be chatting online because I would wonder why my conversations were so bad that they didn't want to talk to me etc. I'm not saying that, that is what she is doing just guessing but it could be something like that.

hey...well id say...there r many instances when we tend to exxaggerate things....my boyfriend too sometimes hs strange notions...n doesnt seem convinced wid small petty reasonings....but id say...dont jump onto conclusions.....look beyond d apparent......n talk it out...reason well...n know things well....

I don't mean to make you unecessarily paranoid, but my experience with the same scenario has always turned out to be that the person was seeing someone else. I was bothered by the many excuses but refused to think the worst because I didn't have any real evidence that they were cheating. In the end they really were cheating and had been cheating for a long time. I ended up being angry with myself for not listening to my instincts that something wasn't right. No need to go looking for the truth though. Guaranteed those things in the dark will come to the light on their own.

well i don't think you should be too alarmed with her not answering she just might be really busy or she really didn't hear the phone....but then again you should be alert for signs of any mischief from her....

I think she is obviously making so many allibies to avoid your call. It is ok to trust but sometimes if she often have so many excuses i think you should think twice if you should ever trust her. I think you should talk to her about it and see if there is something wrong coz you obviously deserves to know the truth. If a person often was not around when your trying to call her it is not normal anymore. Specially that her reasons are actually pretty lame and hard to believe.

really its a fantastic su=ituation every baoy encounters in his life .........see if u really love her .........u must compramise all for her sake .and never raise doubts .......or get misunderstanding.......... always concentrate on her relation with u .......okie.......... y donot u think all r u true ........ once u doubt ur loyslity decreases........so always have positive relaion and belief with ur spouse or would be............ all d best byee

I think these scenarios are natural. I would also say that your anticipations are justified. it is very true that how you would feel in this case.When there is some doubt, its right to confront her.

Well I can see your doubts are still not substantiated with enough evidence. I guess you need further evidence to proved that anything is really wrong with her statements. It may be true or not but you should proved it beyond those doubts of yours. So unless you can find any concrete evidences I suggest do not entertain that doubts or make an effort to really go into spying on her if your doubts are that strong.

jhl930, Basically, I think girls do not keep their cell phones with them as conveniently as guys like us. So her reasons could be valid and sensible especially when their phones are on vibration mode. I think besides just collecting her photos, she may have gone out with someone accompanying her for that errand and may have ended up chatting over a couple of drinks or supper. In all I just felt that you should not be over sensitive and over reacting. I think before one could fully trust anyone, we need to fully understand the other party and mutual with our interpersonal communication. There will be times like these that need to be sorted and there is no point putting your suspicions on the verbal as these are just baseless assumptions. You may want to be more logical with your calls like maybe calling the house phone instead of her cell and / or text her. I am sure given the available technologies we just need to be a little resourceful. Some established rules here like for the other party to call back when they are late or exceptionally delayed so as not to let the waiting party worry unnecessarily - might help break down mis-communication and wild assumptions.

She may have been telling you the truth although it sounds a little fishy to me too. After 6 months, when you posted this discussion, are the two of you still together. I know I have asked you this same question about 40 times on your old discussions but you have never given me an answer so I will keep asking till you do. Also some people like to just lie just because they like to avoid conflict and she may have been doing something really innocent but knew you would take it the wrong way so instead of fighting about the truth so makes a little lie.

It's either your girlfriend is lying or you're just being paranoid. I hate to say it but only time will tell. If she's cheating on you, you'll find out about it sooner or later. All secrets do come out. Why dont you do a little investigating on her. Follow her around a bit and check her text messages. I know you'll feel guilty doing that but what else can you do.

Sounds to me like her excuses are very plausible, however if you have your doubts maybe your sixth sense is telling you something. I would keep my distance until you can work your feelings out. Either you trust her completely or there is something wrong with your relationship. Maybe she is cheating, or maybe she just brings out a paranoid side of you, either way its a problem that needs to be fixed if you want to have a successful relationship.

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