marry or live-in???
By sambhavana
@sambhavana (226)
India
10 responses
@Solinndali (147)
• China
3 Oct 08
what do you mean live-in? you live with a man without marriage ?! wow, i think you are a great woman can do so.
if you want you can marry if you don't want you cannot, in my opinion. of course , you should ask your partner first.
@sambhavana (226)
• India
3 Oct 08
Dear, I am a married person. And you will be surprised to know that my father searched for a partner for me thru matrimonial (newspaper). After i got officially engaged with him, he left for his job(Indian Navy). His ship would sail for months together and we could hardly talk to each other before our marriage. And I was really apprehensive about not meeting him much before marriage. Then i met him just few days before our wedding. I was still apprehensive about our match because i couldnot meet him much before marriage. But you know what we got married and vow i got a soulmate for me who was made just for me. We gelled so well together. He gave me the love of his life and for me i cannot survive without him. So my case was like Marriages are made in Heaven.
take care
@damsel_prerna (863)
• India
3 Oct 08
hey sambhavna i think dats d case with most of us indian girls.. anyways may u always b happy... good luck
@adriantys78 (949)
• Malaysia
3 Oct 08
For me, marriage is the best choice for both person or couple. There are lots of reasons to be marriage, most important, it is legally approve and witness by our love one,family and friends. If i were girl, i would not support for live-in, somehow i feel is not good and not feeling so secure for the situation. Worst case is when get into pregnancy. Also, feel that marriage is the responsible, responsible for both person. Since both willing to be together for long term and forever, why not to get marriage? Just my 2 cents.
@Galena (9110)
•
3 Oct 08
I don't really see much of a difference.
love and commitment can exist without marriage. otherwise people would be getting married to someone they don't love and aren't committed to.
the relationship is what matters. and that relationship might be within a marriage, or within an unmarried relationship.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
3 Oct 08
Well I think that it depends on the religion, the two people involved, and how they feel about one another. If you feel strong enough for the other person that you want to make them your life (yes life, not wife) then I would say that you should make that commitment. Now if you do not think that you will marry or if you are not the marrying type, then you should make a conscience decision on whether you should marry. There is a quote from the bible about marriage and the decision to, I will not quote it so that I do not offend. However if you would like to look it up, then go right on ahead. I am not sure where it is in the bible though, as it's been a while since I read it.
@thanujad (405)
• Sri Lanka
3 Oct 08
In my country you hardly find people who are living to gether. Even if they live like that the community will look at them in a bad way. So if they feel that they should break up he or she will find it difficult to find another. Most of them will not like to live with a person like that. This is the kind of culture we have. You can't exactly say which one is better marriage or live in. I personally don't agree with live in thing. If you get to know the person before you get married and after marriage you'll not regret. The love, compassion, trust, excitement of the first night of your wedding is hard to put down in writing. That won't be there when you live in. So I think marriage is better than live in.
@Avi_Gan (191)
• Philippines
3 Oct 08
Hi! For me, it doesn't matter as well, the quality of the relationship is more important. You stay in a relationship because you want to, not because a certain piece of papers tells you to.
@damsel_prerna (863)
• India
3 Oct 08
well its your own perception.. i dont think there is anything wrong in live in relationship.. but i think i am not scared of commitment so will prefer marriage over it..
tc..
@LilyoftheThorns (12918)
• United States
3 Oct 08
Well...i do think it is a good idea to live with each other before you get married. I think it's important to see if you can actually stand to be under the same roof for so long :) And then I think Marriage is a great great thing afterwards!!! :)
@Dsraven (151)
• United States
3 Oct 08
that all depends on the people and the relationship...my Dom/bf and i have been living together for three years and have no intentions of getting married...we have both been married before and it did not work out so this time around we both just want to live together and plan on spending the rest of our lives together..it does not work for everyone but to you need to do what is right for you...
