What is something that you do in life that you KNOW you shouldn't?

Im back from cleaning my mail box. I have high hopes on the screaming thing, planning it out may be in 2 weeks time. We are having holidays here the whole of next week and may be more. So, there's a possibility. I have decided to sing though.

Sing? Why not! Just be sure to make it as loud as you possibly can! It's holidays here at the moment too as everyone is celebrating Eid after Ramadan. Well I hope that all your plans go as expected!

Eid is celebrated here as well at this of the year and then there's Navratti and Durga Puja. Durga puja is our festival. This year it would be celebrated amidst high alerts though. The amount of exuberance and fun we have is nothing short of a therapy. And I am looking forward to it.

Hmmm. Well you are a classic example of one who knows that their actions are not optimal but keeps on keeping on regardless pinky! I hope that in time you can find a balance that is less stressful on your body because a physical injury certainly isn't going to help anything! Thanks for responding to the discussion and good luck with your MRI tomorrow. I hope that it is nothing too serious. If you can, you should try to get back to the yoga too pinky as this will help with your back big time. Even 20 minutes a day if you can find the time will make a world of difference!

Ok pinky. I am sure all will be fine so stay positive!

Thanks James. I will post about my MRI experience as soon as i am done. Yoga did wonders to me before, but i just could not seem to find the time. I am still looking for it . Best regards to you and Mrs.

I have a lot of success with nicotine patches once; but after about a year or so of not smoking I ended up a smoker again! I would love to be a social smoker only but I just don't have the discipline so I think it's cold turkey for me if I ever find the strength to stop. And I have never been a nail biter either thankfully! Thanks for responding angelface.

Yes there are chengbeb! No argument there. Smoking for me is just one of those things that comes naturally in a sense. Once I have eaten, I smoke; when I have a cup of coffee, I smoke; if I am drinking, I smoke etc..... I have plans to change also and I just need to stop making excuses and DO IT! Thanks for responding to the discussion and I hope that you too can find the inner strength to change these habits like I wish to do for myself.

I used to struggle with a short temper myself. Thankfully I did something about it and talked to people that were able to help me understand WHY I was always so angry at everything and over time I was able to become a much calmer person. Maybe you can look to do the same and try to find what it is that is making you so frustrated and angry all the time? Believe me, it will be the best thing you ever did if you do! Thanks for responding to the discussion and I hope that this IS something you choose to try to fix. You have acknowledged it's an issue so that's a pretty good start!

I have been smoking on and off since I was around 13 years old which is pretty bad really. I too come up with many reasons to NOT stop but I really do need to bite the bullet and just DO IT I think! It is definitely a difficult habit to break and I too admire those that manage to break free from smoking. Thanks for responding appleblossoms and I hope that you too can one day find the strength to kick the habit!

That is awesome!...I was born in July too..I will be 35 this year..I was born on the 5th cause I wanted to see what all the commotion was about but I was a bit late getting out..

Hahahahaha. Well I hope the commotion made it worth the entrance! I'm on the 21st, but was born some 6 weeks earlier than expected.

When it comes to your Sister, it doesn't matter what ages you are 'cos she'll always be your baby Sis! My Mum still calls me her baby boy and I'm 37 in July! But saying it is one thing and actually treating them like one is a different thing entirely. I do have to ask my Mum to back off at times Imust admit. lol. And we've discussed the dieting angle in other threads, so you know my opinions on this one. I love to cook and eat too by the way, but I hardly get to cook at all anymore as our kitchen is very limited.

Ah yes, women chewing their toenails! The act that us men look upon with a mixture of disgust and awe. It's that flexibility that gives us those mixed feelings

This is the thing..... I've been so busy trying to keep up with all these old ones coming back to life that I haven't been able to respond to anyone else's discussions! I don't wanna be one of those "one-way traffic" people, so I figured I'd not start anything new for a while and until I manage to balance things out a tad. And yes, it;s jealousy for sure. I'd never even leave the house if I could do that!

jealous? hahahah! when are ya gonna make some NEW discussions? I am replying to these ones cause I can't find anything recent

lol. PA - Procrastinators Anonymous! We would like to welcome you Bo but we are not sure whether we should or not..... Yes the new avatar is very nice indeed! Irish been sharing some tips has she? It sort of has a middle ages, Mucha influenced, angelic feel about it! I am amazed you were able to decide on one then seeing as procrastination rules the roost! Thanks for responding and I am happy to see that you at least managed to start AND finish your response!

Ehhhh, responses are short term things, ya know? It's just long, drawn out things.....

you know the ones

Ah yes, shopping! The bad habit that not only twists the mind but lightens the wallet as well! lol. Thankfully this is NOT a bad habit for me as I am always conservative when it comes to buying things. (Unless it's food! lol) Thanks for responding tapnaroy.

Hi Pawnee, welcome to mylot! Smoking pot is npt something I have an issue with to be honest, as long as it is something that is done as an occasional release and NOT as a crutch. The last thing anyone needs is to get to a point in their life where pot becomes the be all and end all of them functioniong in life! The key is to not think about it as depressing but to seek a balance where you are in more control of your life. Thanks for responding and I hope you can reach a point where life itself gives you the same if not better highs than pot or boozing ever could!

thanks for the welcome matey. Im a regular drinker/smoker, but its just what i do at the end of the day. I have 2 kids and another on the way, so things like that aint a huge issue any more... Dont get me wrong though, I DO want my smoke at the end of the day.

Yea, and me too. Good luck with that :)

Hi pamee! Good for you for giving up smoking! A year is a champion effort and it's of course a major plus if you're an asthma sufferer. I unfortunately am still a smoker. You've proven you have the will power to do this, so I guess it's the lies to attack next! There's no question that generational gaps can present significant communication challenges, but the problem with unruths is that we can end up getting too caught up in them. The last thing you want is to get to the point of finding it second nature! The key to productive communication IS communication itself. There's always a happy medium and I'm sure you both can find it if you;re able to let go of any past tensions and just talk openly. When you have two people that are obviously very different, explaining each other's side is often taken completely out of context. Rather than being acknowledged for each other's views, each person tends to see it as a challenge to their own views instead, so therefore become defensive. In my opinion, the key is not just open communication, it's empathy and understanding of each other's views without feeling the need to contradict or question each other all the time. Sometimes we need to surrender in order to win! Two ears and one mouth means that the listening is far more important than the talking for one. Less talk means less arguments and the more we listen, the more we come to understand the way the other person functions. It's not about winning and it's not about being right. It's about respect and tolerance for each other's differences. Think how boring it would be if you were exactly the same. Don't lie, communicate in a manner that's different to the way you do so now and I'm sure things will change. Thanks for the comments and I wish you every success in finding that happy medium with your Mom.

I've been in exactly the same position you have pamee and believe me, there's ALWAYS a happy medium. It may take time to find it, but it's there. My own teenage years were undoubtedly the weakest in terms of my ability to communicate with my Parents, but it did improve dramatically when I got older.

Yeah. I know its not good but I have this difficulty in finding ways on how to have a happy conversation with her. She doesn't have this "give and take" thing. She always take her own side and claim that she's always right. I am a very understanding person. But sometimes, I need to be understood as well. And you are right, that's where we are lacking. Its sad that I've been struggling for years now (since I entered teenage world) to make her understand our thing now and that I understand her side. Its just that we can't meet halfway. Thanks anyway for commenting. =)

i do agree to your points,james.i never said a relationship with GOD is maintained by going to church.my hubby is a leader who leads a congregation and its hard work,mind you,leading a group of people who think in 10 different ways is not easy!i just feel guilty for enjoying.(in a way,he too is enjoying)

I know you didn't say that Mable! I was making my own point is all.

I can imagine that the chance to have the house to yourself and all that peace and quiet is absolute bliss! I'm not a churchgoer myself, so this is not a type of guilt that I have to face at all. I do appreciate that you would feel this way though. WE all need alone time and if this is the only chance you get for it, then so be it I reckon. A relationship with God isn't defined by going to church anyway. Thanks Mable.

Ah! Balance would be a beautiful thing.... :)

Hey acuity, I just had a great idea on how to address your habits! I reckon that you should make a snap judgement and go and eat some cheesecake in Church!!! It's a start right?

Oh we are all masters of excuses acuityplague! lol. At least you are aware of your own shortcomings and can fix them when you choose to stop making the excuses! So many of us don't even acknowledge that we have bad behaviours in the first place. Thanks for responding to the discussion and keep trying to build that good habits list in the meantime so you can at least have a balance!

I can relate to this too. Sometimes my own conscience and desire to be there for others can be my worst enemy and I end up giving way more to people than I ever get back and that's just not productive really. It IS hard to turn off, but we do need to be selfish at times because we can't always be the best we can be for others if we've never got time to be there for ourselves in the first place!

Well said! The word "selfish" has immediate negative connotations, but in instances such as these we've just mentioned, it's not necessarily negative at all. We can be self-serving and still be considerate of and there for others!

That's right -- sometimes it's healthy to be a little selfish! Nobody can please all people at all times, so it's good to strive for a medium ground and make sure we do look after ourselves...hard as it is to ignore the caring thing ^_^

True that! moderation's always the key and as long as you have the discipline to never get too carried away, a little of the bad things in life every now and then isn't such a negative thing! (Within reason of course) And who gives a toss about the actions of others if it's not in my face? As long as it's not malicious behaviour at the expense of another then who cares? Well done to you for not smoking for so long too. I'm mentally preparing myself for another attempt to give up, so fingers crossed I can find the discipline this time around.

Yes do try. I had a very good motive. I got bronchitis and my doctor said give up smoking or it will get worse and will become emphysema and that is incurable and nasty. I mean it is one thing to know that you might get some nasty illness because you might not as well but when it becomes a definite there is no choice really. Well that is a very good motivation. I stopped that day and have not had a puff since. The first couple of months were hard but I hardly notice it now. I tried to help Lash stop as well but he still smokes, although he has cut down hugely.

I think that many of us would end up doing the same thing from time to time. I know I do! Confrontation is not something I enjoy a lot of the time either, but every once in a while I do like to get in there for a bot of a stoush! Thanks Dawn and yes, I mean no, I mean yes..... Now why did I just DO that???

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At least you eat a samll breakfast! I am absolutely hopeless when it comes to breakfast and tend to have a couple of cups of coffee and that's it. I think it's great that you have kicked the smoking habit too. Thanks for responding and I hope you can find the inspiration someday soon to start exercising and to take better care of yourself, even if it is for your babies again camomom! This mindest worked for the smoking so why not for these other things as well?

Always a pleasure camomom. Sometimes we need to get motivated by telling ourselves it's not actually for us at all! We win in the end!

you're right, i need to look at it as being healthy for my kids. thank you so much.