Have you ever felt like you were in the way?
@tosharichards (49)
United States
October 3, 2008 11:14am CST
Me and my husband were going to divorce so me and our 2 kids moved back home to mom! Well now me and my husband are back together, we did not go through with the divorce but we can not go back to our home because my husband let everything go while we were seperated... We have been back together for 2 months now but my husband got laid off work a month ago and just started back this week = no money. Therefore it is going to take some time to get the money up for us to be able to move back in our home. Me and my mom have always had a great relationship but i guess 8 people in one house for an extended period of time will change that. She never has anything nice to say anymore and she tries her best to stay gone. I feel so bad and do not know what to do. I feel like we are in the way and I am sure that she is just ready to get her life back to the normal 4 people in one house, I am ready to be out of here and back to my life in my house. I understand that part but I feel like the relationship that I had with my mom is gone. I have a little sister that is younger than my 2 daughters ages 1, 2 and 3 to be exact and a younger brother that is 15. I understand that this is stressful, it is to me also but what can I do? I have been trying to find work from home to help get us out of here but my husband does not want our girls in day care and with my mom never here I have to balance getting my husband off to work, taking my brother to school, football and back home, taking care of things at my moms house, cooking dinner... you name it! Beccause my mom has chosen to go stay with my dad 2 hours from here, where heworks out of town... she is only home about 1-2 days out of the week.
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@deedeehall (1144)
• United States
29 Nov 08
wow sounds like your mother has run away to keep her sanity.you guys should really try to find your own home so that mom can come back this is hard on every one.
@autismmom2 (155)
• United States
3 Oct 08
I don't have half as much day to day stuff going on, but I know how you feel. I live in my father's finished basement, so I have my own apartment, with my 2 kids. My Dad got remarried a year ago, and his wife is always making comments about us moving out. She "reminds" me how nice it would be to have a place of our own, away from them, and how nice it would be if I were working. She makes it sound like I do not want to work, but she knows we're just on hold due to my kids' special needs. I do as much online work as I can, but it obviously isn't paying the bills.
Thankfully, we do not see each other every single day. My dad's wife works long days (as a high school principal), and my dad is in and out most of the day. On weekends I try to get the kids out early to keep the noise down. It's been having a huge impact on the kids' behavior, and of course my parenting, but right now, my kids have shelter, food, clean clothes, and as close to a space of their own as they need.
